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See terms and conditions at UNEs 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:30.080 dot co. 0:01:31.080 --> 0:01:34.800 Hi, this is Jorlan Victoria. Thanks for downloading our podcast. 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:37.880 We enjoy spending this time with you. I hope you'll 0:01:37.959 --> 0:01:38.679 leave Inspire. 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:41.959 Make sure you subscribe to get new messages every week. 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:45.240 We appreciate your support. It helps keep the ministry going. 0:01:45.640 --> 0:02:01.280 Enjoy the message. Oh God bless thank you. It's always 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:03.600 a joy to come into your homes. And if you're 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:06.080 ever in our area, please stop by and be a 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:08.760 part of one of our services. I'll promise you we'll 0:02:08.800 --> 0:02:11.080 make you feel right at home. Thanks so much for 0:02:11.160 --> 0:02:14.200 tuning in, and thank you again for coming out. I 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:16.760 like to start with something funny, and I heard about 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:20.360 this wife. She was taking a nap on Valentine's Day 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:23.600 during the afternoon. When she woke up, she called her 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:26.600 husband and said, Honey, I just had a dream that 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:30.680 you bought me a beautiful diamond ring for Valentine's Day. 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:33.839 What do you think this dream means? He said, you'll 0:02:33.840 --> 0:02:38.480 find out tonight. That evening, he brought home a beautifully 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:42.240 wrapped small package, and she opened it up so excited. 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:48.320 It was a book entitled The Meaning of Dreams. Come on, 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:50.800 say it like you mean it. This is my Bible. 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:53.440 I am what it says I am. I have what 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:55.919 it says I have. I can do what it says 0:02:55.960 --> 0:02:58.680 I can do. Today I will be taught the word 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:03.919 of godly confess. My mind is alert, my heart is receptive. 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:07.840 I will never be the same. In Jesus's name, God 0:03:07.880 --> 0:03:11.639 bless you. I want to talk to you today about 0:03:11.919 --> 0:03:15.919 the right people who you spend your time with will 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:18.680 have a great impact on what kind of life you live. 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:22.919 There are people that God has already ordained to come 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:26.840 across our path to help us fulfill our destiny. People 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:30.320 that will inspire us, challenge us, and make us better. 0:03:30.880 --> 0:03:34.320 The right people have already been lined up, But here's 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:37.760 the key. If you're spending time with the wrong people, 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:41.560 you will never meet the right ones. If you're hanging 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:44.880 around people that are not going any place, people that 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:49.080 are dragging you down, causing you to compromise, draining your energy, 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:52.600 you're going to get stuck. You can't hang out with 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:57.120 chickens and expect to soar with eagles. You're going to 0:03:57.160 --> 0:04:01.880 become like the people you continually associate with. You want 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:04.280 to know what you're going to be like in five years. 0:04:04.600 --> 0:04:08.120 Look at your friends. If your friends are going places, 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:13.640 people of excellence, kind, considerate, generous, those qualities are going 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:22.960 to rub off on you. But if your friends are negative, critical, unmotivated, compromisers, mediocre, indifferent, 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:26.440 this is your wake up call. You're not hearing this 0:04:26.520 --> 0:04:29.839 by accident. It's time to make changes. You need some 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:33.200 new friends. You're not going to become who you were 0:04:33.240 --> 0:04:36.520 created to be hanging around them. You don't have to 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:39.160 be rude, you don't have to make some big announcement. 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:44.039 Just little by little start distancing yourself, spending less and 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:48.200 less time with them. Proverb says, if you walk with 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:53.240 wise men, you will become wise. It says, don't hang 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:56.880 around a hot tempered person, or you'll become hot tempered. 0:04:57.560 --> 0:05:01.119 Another place, don't spend time with people that talk too much, 0:05:01.560 --> 0:05:05.680 or you will talk too much. Notice the principle. Whatever 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:10.960 qualities your friends have, either good or bad, eventually will 0:05:11.040 --> 0:05:15.920 rub off on you. Spirits are transferable. If you hang 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:19.160 out with a gossip, before long, you'll be a gossip. 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:23.760 You hang around people that compromise run around on their spouse, 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:27.520 before long, you'll be a compromiser. But here's the good news. 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:31.640 If you hang around excellent people, excellence will rub off 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:35.800 on you. If you hang around generous people, you'll become 0:05:35.839 --> 0:05:40.919 more generous. If you associate with successful people, people that 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:45.919 are determined, motivated, go in places, those same good qualities 0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:48.440 will become a part of your life. This is why 0:05:48.480 --> 0:05:52.400 it's so important that you are selective with whom you 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:56.120 spend your time. You can't just take it by default 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:58.360 and think, well, these are the people I work with, 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:02.040 they're my friends, they're in my class at school. This 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:03.800 is who I hang out with all the time, or 0:06:03.839 --> 0:06:07.360 they move next door, so now they come over every night. No, 0:06:07.640 --> 0:06:11.000 make sure they have the qualities you want. You need 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:15.440 eagles in your life. People that inspire you, people that 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:18.159 motivate you to go further, people that make you better. 0:06:19.040 --> 0:06:22.040 I have a friend. He treats his wife so great. 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:27.760 He's always buying her things, sending her flowers. He writes poetry. 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:30.880 One time he read this poem that he wrote for her. 0:06:30.960 --> 0:06:34.400 It was so gushy and so romantic. I thought that 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:39.400 makes me sick. But the truth is he inspires me 0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:42.800 to treat Victoria better. He makes me want to come 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:46.039 up higher in that area. I tried writing her a 0:06:46.080 --> 0:06:48.359 poem but turned out like a rap, so I've forgot 0:06:48.400 --> 0:06:54.160 about that. But seriously, we shouldn't hang around people that 0:06:54.200 --> 0:06:58.719 are disrespectful to their spouse, people that put down their families. 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:00.760 He used to play Basket of All with a young 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:03.680 man and he always referred to his wife as his 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:07.080 old lady. Let me call my old lady. Let me 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:09.200 see what my old lady is doing. He was a 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:12.440 nice guy, but I didn't want that old lady spirit 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:17.520 getting off on me. I want my wife to say, young, fun, beautiful, energetic, 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:22.240 you go around talking about your old lady long enough 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:27.120 and you'll have what you say. She'll become old, mean, grouchy, wrinkled. 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:29.880 Don't you dare complain about her. You called her in. 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:36.160 But that old lady spirit was a red flag. I thought, 0:07:36.240 --> 0:07:39.240 you know what, he's not for me. We have to 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:43.720 set these boundaries. You hear's somebody that's always negative, critical, 0:07:43.880 --> 0:07:47.040 finding fault, that's a red flag. They're not for you. 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:52.080 Somebody that's hot tempered, always getting upset a red flag. 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:55.559 You don't want those qualities. You can still be kind, 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:58.440 friendly to them, but don't spend a lot of time 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:02.920 with them. Be select death. And I realize sometimes at 0:08:02.960 --> 0:08:05.440 home or work, we don't have a choice of who 0:08:05.440 --> 0:08:07.960 we are around. God will give us the grace for 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:11.960 those situations I'm talking about when you do have a choice. 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:16.120 Life is too short to waste your valuable time with 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:19.200 the wrong people. This is the number one thing that 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:22.080 I see that gets people off course running with the 0:08:22.080 --> 0:08:25.920 wrong crowd. The longer I live, the more determined I 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:29.760 am to not spend time with people that are never happy, 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:33.840 people that don't have integrity, people that are small minded, 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:37.600 people that compromise. No if you're going to reach your 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:42.080 highest potential, you have to surround yourself with eagles, with 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:45.079 people that bring out your wings, with people that cause 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:49.839 you to soar. I read where Thomas Edison, Harry Firestone, 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:53.679 and Henry Ford had summer homes next door to each 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:57.000 other in Florida. They were friends and would spend much 0:08:57.000 --> 0:09:00.599 of the summers together. You notice they didn't just associate 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:05.240 with anyone. They associated with other dreamers, with other people 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:09.160 of vision. No wonder they soared to new heights. God 0:09:09.240 --> 0:09:12.360 has some eagles in store for you, But if you're 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:15.880 holding on to the chickens, you're never going to meet them. 0:09:16.400 --> 0:09:21.880 The scripture says people that choose worthless companions bring shame 0:09:22.080 --> 0:09:25.959 to their parents. Are you hanging out with any worthless companions? 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:29.320 Doesn't mean, of course the people are worthless, but they're 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:33.160 not adding any value to your life. They're not inspiring 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:36.920 you to reach your dreams. They're dragging you down. For instance, 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:40.160 you shouldn't go to lunch every day and sit with 0:09:40.280 --> 0:09:46.040 coworkers that gossip, complain, talk bad about people, no disrespect. 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:50.800 But those are worthless companions. You are better than that. Well, Joel, 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:53.360 if I don't go to lunch with them, I'll be lonely. 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:55.959 I won't have anybody to eat with. Yes, you may 0:09:56.000 --> 0:09:58.960 be lonely for a season, but God will bring you 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:03.920 somebody better. He'll send an ego into your life. David said, 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:08.960 don't sit inactive in the path of the ungodly. That 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:12.360 means don't sit there and let that gossip poison you 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:16.079 for the next twenty years. What if I hurt their feelings? 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:20.520 What if you miss your destiny. You have a responsibility 0:10:20.840 --> 0:10:24.320 to protect what God has entrusted you with, your gifts, 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:29.120 your assignment, your temple. Don't keep going to the gym 0:10:29.360 --> 0:10:32.600 with those same people that are causing you to compromise 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:37.719 year after year. Find new friends. Don't sit inactive. If 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:42.319 you're exposed to mediocrity long enough, that mediocre spirit will 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:45.640 get off on you. A friend of mine met this 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:48.800 other man that was in his same field in his career, 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:51.880 and over the next few months they just hit it 0:10:51.920 --> 0:10:54.920 off and decided to start a business together. And this 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:58.200 other man was very smart, talented, He had a lot 0:10:58.280 --> 0:11:01.120 going for him, but he had a prob with his temper. 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:04.400 When we would play basketball, he would lose his cool 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:07.960 and get upset during the week. If he misplaced his 0:11:08.080 --> 0:11:11.480 keys or missed an important phone call, they would just 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:14.360 set him off. He would get so angry. And they 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:17.720 had this business plan all put together looked like a 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:20.920 deal that my friend couldn't refuse. But at the last 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:23.880 moment he told this man that he didn't feel good 0:11:23.880 --> 0:11:27.080 about it. He was going to have to pass. Several 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:31.959 years later, my friend met another man, an eagle, a 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:35.880 man of great character and integrity. They started a business 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:40.920 that today is extremely successful. What am I saying, If 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:44.199 you'll let go of the wrong people, God will bring 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:48.040 the right people. Don't settle for a chicken. God has 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:51.720 an eagle. He wants you to sword my friend. He 0:11:51.720 --> 0:11:54.640 could have ignored the red flag, thought, all big deal, 0:11:54.640 --> 0:11:56.480 he's got an anger problem. A lot of people are 0:11:56.520 --> 0:11:59.880 hot tempered. It's not going to affect me. He understood 0:11:59.880 --> 0:12:04.520 that principle that eventually it would impact his life. He 0:12:04.559 --> 0:12:08.520 didn't sit inactive. He was smart enough to wait for 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:13.079 the right people. What you're unwilling to walk away from 0:12:13.559 --> 0:12:17.679 is where you stop growing. If you want separate yourself 0:12:17.840 --> 0:12:22.840 from negative relationships, you won't rise any higher. God will 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:26.400 never ask you to let go of something without giving 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:30.080 you something better in return. When you do what you 0:12:30.240 --> 0:12:33.320 know you're supposed to do, even when it's difficult, a 0:12:33.360 --> 0:12:38.839 blessing will always follow. A blessing is always attached to obedience. 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:43.080 But too many people are stuck. They're not growing. It's 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:47.199 because they're still hanging around somebody they knew years ago 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:51.400 they were supposed to get away from. They felt the uneasiness, 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:54.400 they saw the red flags, but they kept putting off 0:12:54.640 --> 0:12:58.680 again and again. The sooner you make these changes, the 0:12:58.760 --> 0:13:02.199 better off you're going to be. Don't spend your valuable 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:05.199 time with people that bring out the worst in you. 0:13:06.040 --> 0:13:10.439 If your friends are causing you to compromise, be negative, complain, 0:13:10.880 --> 0:13:14.600 lose your temper, that's a sign that they're the wrong people. 0:13:15.240 --> 0:13:18.839 If you'll let them go, God has already lined up 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:22.240 people that will bring out the best in you, people 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:25.320 that will stir up your seeds of greatness, people that 0:13:25.360 --> 0:13:29.840 will inspire you to rise to new heights. Scripture talks 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:34.240 about how Daniel had an excellent spirit. If you study 0:13:34.280 --> 0:13:38.560 his life, you'll find that he had excellent friends. You 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:42.160 know who Daniel hung out with, Shadrack, me Jacques a Bendigo, 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:46.040 the three Hebrew teenagers that wouldn't bow down to the 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:50.160 king's golden idol. No wonder Daniel was a person of excellence. 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:54.960 His friends were people of integrity, people of great courage, 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:58.160 people that wouldn't compromise, people that had a big dream 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:03.000 for their life. If your friends are Larry, Curly and Moe, 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:07.720 this may be a problem. Psychologists tell us there's something 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:11.440 called the law of the group. That is, we associate 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:15.679 with people the way we see ourselves. Have you noticed 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:18.880 how people that like to gossip find other people that 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:23.600 like to gossip. Negative people gravitate toward other negative people. 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:28.440 Complainers find other complainers. Thus the saying birds of a 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:34.240 feather flock together. My encouragement, make sure you're flocking to 0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:39.320 the right group. Victorious people associate with other victorious people. 0:14:40.040 --> 0:14:44.880 Successful people find other people that are successful. Happy people 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:48.720 hang around other happy people. Eagles soar with other eagles. 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:53.880 Young people, this is so important. Choosing the wrong friends 0:14:54.120 --> 0:14:57.480 can keep you from your destiny. Don't hang around people 0:14:57.520 --> 0:15:01.040 at school that have a bad attitude, that are always 0:15:01.040 --> 0:15:05.080 bucking the system, always getting into trouble. That may seem cool, 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:08.200 but that's not cool at all. That's dumb. That's going 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:10.560 to cause them to be a chicken when they were 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:15.320 created to be an eagle. Find friends that are going 0:15:15.320 --> 0:15:18.840 to make something out of their life. Hang around students 0:15:18.880 --> 0:15:23.360 that are disciplined, focused, people that are going somewhere. Don't 0:15:23.400 --> 0:15:27.280 worry about being in the right group, having the most friends, 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:31.240 being the most popular. Listen, twenty years from now, nobody 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:35.360 cares who the most popular one was. The quantity of 0:15:35.400 --> 0:15:40.280 your friends is not important. It's the quality that really matters. Now. 0:15:40.280 --> 0:15:43.640 I would rather have one friend that has their head 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:47.200 on straight, that's going someplace than twenty friends that are 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:52.760 only mediocre. In school, the science fair is not that popular, 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:56.280 the debate team, the math club that never gets a 0:15:56.320 --> 0:16:00.320 lot of attention. But when you study, you learn, you 0:16:00.440 --> 0:16:03.960 make good grades. People may make fun of you, call 0:16:04.040 --> 0:16:08.280 your geek, bookworm, nerd. Don't worry. In a few years 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:13.119 they'll call your boss. They'll call you a supervisor, senator, doctor, 0:16:13.160 --> 0:16:20.400 pastor your honor. Proverbs twenty seven says, as iron sharpens iron, 0:16:20.720 --> 0:16:24.680 so a friend sharpens a friend. Your friends should be 0:16:24.880 --> 0:16:30.280 sharpening you, making you better. Now. Sometimes you can outgrow 0:16:30.320 --> 0:16:33.880 a friend. God had them in your life for a season. 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:38.400 You bless them, they blessed you, But now that season 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:41.680 is over, maybe you'll grow in at a different rate. 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:45.040 But you have to recognize when their part in your 0:16:45.080 --> 0:16:48.680 story is over doesn't mean you can't ever see them again. 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:51.640 But you know you can't spend the same amount of 0:16:51.680 --> 0:16:55.480 time and become who you were created to be. True 0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:59.280 friends will understand this. True friends won't try to make 0:16:59.320 --> 0:17:02.000 you feel guilty. Keep it the same. They'll be happy 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:06.000 for you. They'll celebrate where you're going. See, just as 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:10.919 God opens doors, God closes doors. You can't get stuck 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:14.600 trying to hold onto something that's over and done. We 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:17.399 don't like change. We want it to be just like 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:20.240 it was when we were hanging out, going up together. 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:24.119 But now it's a new day. Sometimes the people that 0:17:24.200 --> 0:17:26.919 knew you back then will try to keep you in 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:30.520 that box, keep it all the same. But God works 0:17:30.600 --> 0:17:34.200 in seasons. I've seen in my own life how God 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:37.600 moves people out of the way and brings new people in. 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:42.920 Bottom line is everybody cannot go where God is taking you. 0:17:43.560 --> 0:17:47.000 The higher you go, the tighter your circle has to become, 0:17:47.440 --> 0:17:51.320 the more selective you have to be. Genesis twelve, God 0:17:51.359 --> 0:17:55.439 told Abraham to leave his relatives, leave his father's house, 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:58.879 and go out to a new land. God promised that 0:17:58.920 --> 0:18:02.359 he would bless him in an amazing way. Well, Abraham 0:18:02.400 --> 0:18:06.119 went out, but he took his nephew Lot. God just 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:09.200 told him to leave his relatives. It wasn't long after 0:18:09.240 --> 0:18:13.280 that that he and Lot had a disagreement. The land 0:18:13.400 --> 0:18:16.640 wasn't big enough to sustain both their cattle and livestock. 0:18:17.160 --> 0:18:20.639 Their workers begin to argue God into strife. It was 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:24.160 a big mess. It could have all been avoided if 0:18:24.200 --> 0:18:27.240 Abraham would have left who he was supposed to leave. 0:18:28.400 --> 0:18:32.119 How much conflict do we encounter? How much heartache do 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:35.520 we have to deal with because we're still hanging around 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:39.040 somebody that we knew years ago we were supposed to 0:18:39.080 --> 0:18:43.240 walk away from, like Abraham, God promised to bless us. 0:18:43.880 --> 0:18:47.359 But because we didn't leave who we were supposed to leave, 0:18:47.880 --> 0:18:50.359 now we're having to deal with things that we should 0:18:50.359 --> 0:18:53.520 have never had to deal with in the first place. Now, 0:18:53.560 --> 0:18:56.840 Abraham and Lot, there was so much conflict they had 0:18:56.880 --> 0:19:01.560 to separate. It's funny how God will always eventually get 0:19:01.600 --> 0:19:06.000 his way. But Abraham, he meant well taking Lot, that 0:19:06.160 --> 0:19:10.439 was his nephew. But just because somebody is related to 0:19:10.480 --> 0:19:14.600 you doesn't mean they're connected to you. They may have 0:19:14.720 --> 0:19:18.000 your blood, but they don't have your spirit. They may 0:19:18.040 --> 0:19:21.080 not have heard the call that God put on your life. 0:19:21.400 --> 0:19:24.240 This doesn't make them a bad person. It just means 0:19:24.520 --> 0:19:28.080 God has a different assignment for them, or perhaps they're 0:19:28.119 --> 0:19:31.520 at a different level in their growth. But for some reason, 0:19:31.560 --> 0:19:33.960 they're not right for you. And this is one of 0:19:34.000 --> 0:19:36.560 the hardest things we have to deal with, letting go 0:19:36.840 --> 0:19:40.719 of people that are not supposed to be in our life. Now, 0:19:40.720 --> 0:19:43.399 I'm not talking about your husband or wife. I always 0:19:43.440 --> 0:19:46.600 like to clarify this. Somebody flipping through the channel thought 0:19:46.640 --> 0:19:50.400 I just got my word from the Lord today, Thank 0:19:50.440 --> 0:19:56.360 you Jesus. No, you're stuck. They're permanent. But in all seriousness, 0:19:56.359 --> 0:20:00.320 there are family members and relatives that cannot go where 0:20:00.359 --> 0:20:04.080 you're going. And you should always treat your family with respect. 0:20:04.280 --> 0:20:06.280 But you don't have to spend twenty four hours a 0:20:06.359 --> 0:20:09.080 day with them. Some of your relatives. You have to 0:20:09.160 --> 0:20:12.920 love them from a distance. That family reunion once a 0:20:13.000 --> 0:20:16.520 year is all God's asking of you. Now, that was 0:20:16.560 --> 0:20:21.200 worth coming to church for. But for Abraham it kept 0:20:21.200 --> 0:20:25.640 getting worse. He and Lot separated. Lot was attacked and 0:20:25.720 --> 0:20:29.360 captured by an army. They stole all a Lot's possessions. 0:20:29.480 --> 0:20:32.280 It looked like he was done. When Abraham heard it, 0:20:32.320 --> 0:20:35.200 he thought, oh man, it's my fault. I let him come. 0:20:35.240 --> 0:20:37.800 I've got to do something about it. So Abraham rounded 0:20:37.880 --> 0:20:40.800 up all of his men, went fought this big battle, 0:20:40.840 --> 0:20:44.919 this big enemy, and rescued Lot. But once again, he 0:20:44.960 --> 0:20:48.720 wouldn't have been rescuing people going to all this time 0:20:49.040 --> 0:20:52.080 energy trouble if he would have just left who he 0:20:52.160 --> 0:20:55.680 was supposed to leave. Abraham was a lot like us. 0:20:56.480 --> 0:20:59.080 He wanted to be good to Lot. He thought, God, 0:20:59.119 --> 0:21:02.600 I know you said, don't take my relatives, but Lot 0:21:02.720 --> 0:21:05.080 wants to come, and I don't want to disappoint him. 0:21:05.240 --> 0:21:07.600 He did it out of the kindness of his heart. 0:21:08.040 --> 0:21:11.199 How many times are we hanging around somebody that we 0:21:11.320 --> 0:21:13.880 know is not good for us, but we don't want 0:21:13.880 --> 0:21:16.639 to hurt their feelings. We don't want to let them down, 0:21:16.920 --> 0:21:19.760 so we keep putting it off, holding on to what 0:21:19.800 --> 0:21:22.520 we know we should let go of. Here's the problem, 0:21:22.800 --> 0:21:28.719 like with Abraham. Later on down the road, there'll be trouble, conflict, 0:21:29.000 --> 0:21:32.120 unnecessary heartache. We could avoid it if we would make 0:21:32.160 --> 0:21:35.720 the right choices today. What am I saying, make sure 0:21:35.920 --> 0:21:39.320 you let go of what God's asking you to walk 0:21:39.359 --> 0:21:43.359 away from. Another thought, you shouldn't spend a lot of 0:21:43.400 --> 0:21:47.360 time with people that are always negative, people that are 0:21:47.400 --> 0:21:51.320 always discouraged. You have to keep them cheered up, keep 0:21:51.359 --> 0:21:55.159 them fixed. And I'm all for helping people, all for 0:21:55.400 --> 0:21:58.320 being a blessing. Sometimes we have to love people back 0:21:58.359 --> 0:22:03.600 into wholeness. But if you're always giving and never receiving, 0:22:04.240 --> 0:22:08.720 that is an unhealthy relationship. You need to gradually make 0:22:08.760 --> 0:22:13.600 some changes. Don't let them continue to control you, make 0:22:13.680 --> 0:22:16.880 you feel guilty because you're not there at their beck 0:22:16.960 --> 0:22:20.200 and call. And until you put your foot down, they'll 0:22:20.200 --> 0:22:24.320 continue to use you, put their demands on you, drain 0:22:24.440 --> 0:22:27.840 all your energy trying to keep them happy. And this 0:22:27.920 --> 0:22:31.880 is the reason many people are worn out, stressed out, 0:22:32.080 --> 0:22:36.640 don't have any energy. They've got this false sense of responsibility, 0:22:37.200 --> 0:22:41.119 carrying this heavy load of trying to please everybody. But 0:22:41.200 --> 0:22:45.840 here's the key. You are not responsible for other people's happiness. 0:22:46.240 --> 0:22:51.000 You are responsible for your own happiness. Everybody I've learned 0:22:51.280 --> 0:22:54.600 doesn't really want to be happy. They like the attention 0:22:54.720 --> 0:22:57.840 that it brings from always needing something. As long as 0:22:57.840 --> 0:23:01.119 you feel guilty and keep giving in. The one person 0:23:01.240 --> 0:23:04.880 that's going to be unhappy is you. In the scripture, 0:23:05.200 --> 0:23:08.080 there was a paralyzed man. He had four of his 0:23:08.320 --> 0:23:12.119 friends carry him to a city where Jesus was teaching. 0:23:12.400 --> 0:23:14.600 You know the story that let him down through the roof. 0:23:15.119 --> 0:23:18.320 Jesus touched the man and he was healed. There are 0:23:18.440 --> 0:23:22.040 times in life we need to be like these friends 0:23:22.200 --> 0:23:26.040 and carry somebody, help them move forward. But if you're 0:23:26.080 --> 0:23:29.280 going to be who you were created to be, you 0:23:29.359 --> 0:23:33.600 can't always do the carrying. If this man had not 0:23:33.800 --> 0:23:37.320 had friends that could carry him, he would have never 0:23:37.400 --> 0:23:41.000 made his destiny. And if you only have people around 0:23:41.119 --> 0:23:44.600 you that need to be carried, people that need encouragement, 0:23:44.880 --> 0:23:48.120 need help, need advice, need a ride that's out of balance, 0:23:48.640 --> 0:23:52.760 you have to have people that can carry you, people 0:23:53.000 --> 0:23:56.000 that will help lighten the load. And it's easy to 0:23:56.040 --> 0:23:59.400 think you can do it all, raise these children by myself, 0:23:59.520 --> 0:24:04.240 run my bad business, always giving, serving, sacrificing, But that's 0:24:04.400 --> 0:24:09.160 cheating yourself. God has already lined up people to come 0:24:09.200 --> 0:24:13.199 into your life to help lighten that load, to people 0:24:13.520 --> 0:24:17.239 that will make your life easier, to encourage you, to 0:24:17.280 --> 0:24:20.840 give you advice, people that will open doors that you 0:24:20.880 --> 0:24:23.879 could have never opened. But if you are worn out 0:24:24.280 --> 0:24:29.639 trying to please everybody, then because you're soul consumed trying 0:24:29.680 --> 0:24:33.560 to carry the weight, you're not taking time to cultivate 0:24:33.720 --> 0:24:38.120 relationships that can carry you. And sometimes it's pride we think, well, 0:24:38.240 --> 0:24:39.840 I don't need any help. I can do this on 0:24:39.840 --> 0:24:43.800 my own. The truth is you cannot reach your highest 0:24:43.960 --> 0:24:47.560 potential on your own. What God has planned for you 0:24:48.080 --> 0:24:51.280 is going to take more than just your faith. The 0:24:51.320 --> 0:24:54.159 faith of one is not going to be enough. Like 0:24:54.240 --> 0:24:56.800 this man, you're going to need the faith of five. 0:24:57.280 --> 0:24:59.920 You're going to need four friends that can lift you, 0:25:00.119 --> 0:25:03.480 you carry you, help push it into your destiny. Here's 0:25:03.520 --> 0:25:06.760 what I'm saying. You can't be so busy sewing into 0:25:06.800 --> 0:25:12.600 other people's lives giving serving that you're not cultivating relationships 0:25:12.840 --> 0:25:16.600 that can carry you. God has friends lined up for 0:25:16.680 --> 0:25:21.720 you that don't need anything. They're stronger, they're smarter, they 0:25:21.760 --> 0:25:25.080 have more influence, more experience. You don't have to cheer 0:25:25.119 --> 0:25:27.720 them up, they'll cheer you up. You don't have to 0:25:27.760 --> 0:25:31.800 inspire them, they'll inspire you. Buy your dinner, introduce you 0:25:31.840 --> 0:25:35.640 to their connections. Make sure you have people in your 0:25:35.680 --> 0:25:38.879 life that can carry you. I saw something on the 0:25:38.880 --> 0:25:42.320 news about a little boy named Owen. He had a 0:25:42.440 --> 0:25:48.080 rare muscular disease, only thirty cases worldwide, where his muscles 0:25:48.080 --> 0:25:51.520 would tighten up. He couldn't walk, caused him a lot 0:25:51.560 --> 0:25:54.560 of pain. When he was around six years old, he 0:25:54.600 --> 0:25:56.679 got to the point where he didn't want to go outside. 0:25:57.280 --> 0:25:59.960 He was embarrassed at how he looked, got tired of 0:26:00.119 --> 0:26:03.600 people staring at him in the wheelchair. He became very depressed, 0:26:04.119 --> 0:26:07.520 just spent all day alone in his room, and his parents, 0:26:07.520 --> 0:26:11.200 of course, were so discouraged and concerned. They did everything 0:26:11.240 --> 0:26:14.680 they could to cheer him up, with no success. One day, 0:26:15.119 --> 0:26:18.399 the mom was on Facebook and she saw this big 0:26:18.520 --> 0:26:22.560 dog that was being put up for adoption, something like 0:26:22.560 --> 0:26:25.439 a Saint Bernard. And when she saw a picture of 0:26:25.480 --> 0:26:28.040 that dog staring back at her, she fell in love 0:26:28.080 --> 0:26:31.320 with him. Come to find out, this dog had been 0:26:31.400 --> 0:26:34.600 tied to a railroad track by people trying to get 0:26:34.680 --> 0:26:38.280 rid of it. Unfortunately, it was hit by train and 0:26:38.400 --> 0:26:42.680 lost one of his legs. They adopted this dog as 0:26:42.680 --> 0:26:46.440 a surprise to their little son, Owen. When Owen saw 0:26:46.520 --> 0:26:50.720 this three legged dog, there was an instant connection. This 0:26:50.920 --> 0:26:54.639 big dog when he first saw Owen, came in and 0:26:54.720 --> 0:26:57.840 put his head on Owen's lap right there in the wheelchair, 0:26:58.119 --> 0:27:01.760 just very gently. It's a very moving scene. Owen turned 0:27:01.800 --> 0:27:05.520 into a different person. Now he wanted to go outside. 0:27:06.040 --> 0:27:09.000 He wasn't embarrassed. He couldn't wait to show people his 0:27:09.119 --> 0:27:12.600 three legged dog. He was so proud of this dog. 0:27:12.680 --> 0:27:15.200 He asked his parents if he could enter it into 0:27:15.200 --> 0:27:19.280 this prestigious dog show over in Britain. They entered the 0:27:19.280 --> 0:27:23.080 dog and it won first place for best Rescue Dog. Well, 0:27:23.080 --> 0:27:26.199 Owen wanted to do it again, so he entered it 0:27:26.200 --> 0:27:29.880 into another dog show, and another and another. Today they 0:27:29.880 --> 0:27:33.480 have won first place in dozens and dozens of dog shows. 0:27:33.640 --> 0:27:37.400 Here's my point. If God can bring a dog into 0:27:37.520 --> 0:27:41.359 a little boy's life to help him move into his destiny, 0:27:41.640 --> 0:27:44.680 how much more will God bring the right people into 0:27:44.760 --> 0:27:49.600 your life. God knows how to connect you with exactly 0:27:49.680 --> 0:27:54.000 who you need. He's already lined up the right people 0:27:54.440 --> 0:27:56.840 to get you to where you're supposed to be. Now, 0:27:56.880 --> 0:27:59.440 remember this principle. If you don't get rid of the 0:27:59.480 --> 0:28:02.720 wrong people, you'll never meet the right ones. What you're 0:28:02.800 --> 0:28:05.919 unwilling to walk away from is where you'll get stuck. 0:28:06.400 --> 0:28:11.120 So on a regular basis, evaluate your friendships. Make sure 0:28:11.160 --> 0:28:14.480 you're hanging around eagles, people that inspire you and make 0:28:14.520 --> 0:28:17.560 you better. If you'll do this, I believe and declare 0:28:17.960 --> 0:28:20.800 God is going to connect you to the right people 0:28:21.080 --> 0:28:24.480 for every season. He's going to bring eagles across your path. 0:28:24.680 --> 0:28:26.840 You're not going to get stuck. You're going to spread 0:28:26.840 --> 0:28:30.360 out your wings and soar into the fullness of your 0:28:30.400 --> 0:28:34.360 destiny in Jesus's name. If you receive it today, can 0:28:34.440 --> 0:28:38.760 you say amen? We never like to close our broadcast 0:28:38.920 --> 0:28:41.840 without giving you an opportunity to make Jesus the lord 0:28:41.840 --> 0:28:45.040 of your life. Would you pray with me? Just say, 0:28:45.400 --> 0:28:50.920 Lord Jesus, I'll repent of my sins. Come into my heart. 0:28:52.120 --> 0:28:55.760 I make you my Lord and savior. Friends, if you 0:28:55.880 --> 0:28:59.040 played that simple prayer, we believe you got born again 0:28:59.720 --> 0:29:02.760 in a good Bible based church. 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