Taming The Tongue

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See terms and conditions at 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:30.080 uness dot co. 0:01:32.840 --> 0:01:34.640 Hi, this is Joel and Victoria. 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:37.679 Thanks for listening to our podcast and thanks for supporting 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:38.399 the ministry. 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:40.880 If you enjoy today's message, why don't you be a 0:01:40.880 --> 0:01:42.440 blessing and share it with a friend. 0:01:42.720 --> 0:01:45.480 We appreciate you and pray for God's very best in 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:46.240 your life. 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:49.200 Well, God bless you. 0:01:49.480 --> 0:01:51.840 It's a joy to come into your homes and if 0:01:51.840 --> 0:01:54.560 you're ever in our area, please stop buy and be 0:01:54.600 --> 0:01:57.120 a part of one of our services. I promise you 0:01:57.280 --> 0:01:59.760 we'll make you feel right at home. But I like 0:01:59.760 --> 0:02:02.240 to start with something funny. And I heard about this 0:02:02.320 --> 0:02:03.160 wealthy man. 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:05.320 He was known for being eccentric. 0:02:05.760 --> 0:02:08.079 He was having a big party at his house and 0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:11.520 in his backyard he had this huge swimming pool filled 0:02:11.560 --> 0:02:15.840 with sharks and alligators. He announced, says, guest, anyone that 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:19.200 will swim across my pool, I'll give you anything you want. 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:22.480 In a few minutes, there was a big splash. This 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:26.320 man was in there going ninety to nothing, dodging alligators, 0:02:26.520 --> 0:02:29.520 maneuvering around the sharks, made it to the other side, 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:32.720 just to the nicotiming got out as quickly as he could, 0:02:32.720 --> 0:02:36.079 and the wealthy man said, Wow, you're the bravest person 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:36.760 I've ever met. 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:38.720 I can't believe it. Now, what would you like me 0:02:38.760 --> 0:02:39.320 to give you? 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:42.480 The man said, what I want more than anything else 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:45.040 is the name of the person that just pushed me in. 0:02:47.480 --> 0:02:49.919 Say it like you mean it. This is my Bible. 0:02:50.200 --> 0:02:52.440 I am what it says I am. I have what 0:02:52.520 --> 0:02:54.919 it says I have. I can do what it says 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:57.600 I can do. Today I will be taught the word 0:02:57.600 --> 0:03:01.640 of God. I boldly confess my mind is alert, my 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:02.800 heart is receptive. 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:04.400 I will never be the same. 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:09.440 In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want to talk 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:13.200 to you today about taming your tongue. One of the 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:17.359 main reasons people get stuck in life is because they 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:21.960 haven't learned how to control their mouth. They say hurtful things, 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:25.560 They put people down, they argue, they gossip. 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:29.960 They don't realize their tongue is keeping them from rising higher. 0:03:30.680 --> 0:03:33.840 God won't promote you if you don't have the character 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:34.800 to back it up. 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:38.720 You don't have to be perfect, but we shouldn't be. 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:42.040 Where we were five years ago. We should be improving. 0:03:42.840 --> 0:03:46.480 Pay attention to what you're saying. Sometimes we've done it 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:52.040 so long we don't realize. We become harsh, condescending, sarcastic, 0:03:52.280 --> 0:03:55.840 saying things just to please our flesh. And Paul said 0:03:55.920 --> 0:04:00.120 in Ephesians four, let no unwholesome talk come out out 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:04.120 of your mouth, only that which is beneficial to the 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:08.240 progress of others. Before you say something, you need to 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:11.360 ask is this going to be beneficial to someone? 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:14.760 Is it going to build them up or tear them down? 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:18.200 Is this comment going to make my spouse feel better 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:21.800 about themselves, or is it just going to feed my ego? 0:04:22.880 --> 0:04:25.279 Some people, the only thing that's holding them. 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:29.120 Back from a healthy marriage, from good relationships, from a 0:04:29.160 --> 0:04:34.159 promotion is their mouth. They're talented, they're skillful, but they 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:38.400 pop off, they're sarcastic, they stir up strife. 0:04:38.440 --> 0:04:42.200 You can't say everything you feel. Your emotions will get 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:43.000 you into trouble. 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:46.719 And when somebody gets on your nerves and you feel 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:51.920 irritated annoyed, instead of popping off and saying things that 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:54.880 you know you're going to regret later, you need to 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:59.400 step back, take a deep breath, pause for thirty seconds, 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:03.640 think about what you're going to say. Don't speak out 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:06.599 of your emotions, let your tongue run wild. 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:08.560 That's the easy way out. 0:05:08.800 --> 0:05:12.400 You have to be disciplined and tame your tongue. The 0:05:12.440 --> 0:05:16.839 scripture says, be quick to listen and slow to speak. 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:21.440 If you'll pause for a moment, let your emotions calm down, 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:26.480 you'll realize some things are better left unsaid. You don't 0:05:26.480 --> 0:05:29.320 have to win every argument. You don't have to comment 0:05:29.360 --> 0:05:33.039 on every situation. You don't have to straighten everyone out. 0:05:33.800 --> 0:05:36.800 You may know they're wrong and you're right. You have 0:05:36.880 --> 0:05:40.760 to ask yourself is this worth starting World War three over? 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:44.560 Just bite your tongue and walk away. I've heard it 0:05:44.600 --> 0:05:48.000 said the reason we have two ears and one mouth 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:50.680 is because we're supposed to listen. 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:54.240 Twice as much as we speak. Do you know how many. 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:57.479 Headaches you could save yourself if you just zip it up, 0:05:58.120 --> 0:06:02.120 not say things you regret later. It's easy in the 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:06.119 heat of the moment to make hurtful comments. It takes 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:09.640 ten seconds to say it, but ten years later the 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:13.479 pain is still being felt. It's like a burn. The 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:17.240 fire goes away, but the mark is still there. And 0:06:17.360 --> 0:06:20.880 we can apologize, say we're sorry. That's good, that's the 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:23.960 right thing to do, but it doesn't remove the scar, 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:27.800 doesn't make the pain go away. It's much better to 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:32.159 tame your tongue, be slow to speak, not say things 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:37.000 out of our emotions that damages relationships. You've heard the 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:41.880 saying sticks and stones may break my bones, but words 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:42.919 can never hurt me. 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:45.120 That's not a true statement. 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:50.520 Words can leave scars, words can tear people apart, words 0:06:50.520 --> 0:06:54.360 can make them feel inferior, insecure, And there are people 0:06:54.400 --> 0:06:59.560 today not reaching their potential because of hurtful words spoken 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:03.240 over them. They heard their parents over and over. You 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:07.200 can't do anything right you're not spark or a spouse. 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:11.640 You're unattractive, you're not talented. Now those words are limiting 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:16.680 their life. David prayed in Psalm sixty four, God protect 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:21.280 me from the sharp tongues the people wield as swords. 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:26.800 He referred to hurtful words as swords. Are you building 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:30.119 people up with your words or are you cutting people 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:34.880 up with your words? Are you encouraging them, making them stronger, 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:39.160 more confident, or are you pushing them down, leaving them 0:07:39.360 --> 0:07:44.320 wounded and scarred. Many times we recover from a physical 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:49.200 wound much quicker than an emotional wound. Parents, we have 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:54.239 a responsibility to speak words of life, faith encouragement into 0:07:54.240 --> 0:07:57.640 our children, and yes we have to correct them, but 0:07:57.720 --> 0:08:01.960 don't do it angry in a disresiful way. Don't say 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:05.280 derogatory things to your children that are going to damage 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:09.000 their self image, even small children. You should never say 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:12.680 you're a bad boy, you're a bad girl. Don't get 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:13.960 that into their spirit. 0:08:14.240 --> 0:08:17.440 They've been made in the image of God. He breathed 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:18.440 his life into them. 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:22.120 They may have bad behavior at times, but your children 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:27.080 are good. Correct them in a loving, kind way. Don't 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:30.920 start cutting them up early in life with hurtful words. 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:34.679 They have enough to overcome already. As it is, they 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:38.959 have enough people circumstances coming against them. Let's be parents 0:08:38.960 --> 0:08:42.320 that speak life into our children, that push them into 0:08:42.360 --> 0:08:47.320 their destiny, that help release their dreams. Our children are 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:51.800 a gift from God, and with that gift comes a responsibility. 0:08:52.480 --> 0:08:56.679 God is counting on us to guide them, to nurture them, to. 0:08:56.679 --> 0:08:59.040 Help them become who they were created to be. 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:04.679 Taming the tongue starts at home. Husbands, make sure you're 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:09.400 treating your wife with respect and honor. If you're saying hurtful, 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:14.240 demeaning things, pushing her down, really you're pushing yourself down. 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:18.800 You're not just hurting her, you're hurting you. The scripture 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:22.280 says your prayers won't be answered if you're not treating 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:25.319 your wife right. You won't reach your destiny. You want 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:28.280 to accomplish your goals if you're always cutting her up. 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:31.400 I read a study that said one of the main 0:09:31.480 --> 0:09:35.800 reasons women fall into depression is because they don't have 0:09:35.920 --> 0:09:37.480 the blessing from their husband. 0:09:38.080 --> 0:09:40.360 They don't feel valued and depreciated. 0:09:41.160 --> 0:09:44.600 Now, I know men that treat strangers better than they 0:09:44.600 --> 0:09:48.400 treat their own spouse they're kind and gracious to coworkers, 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:53.520 but they're sarcastic condescending to their own family. Jesus said 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:57.040 in Matthew, we will give an account for every. 0:09:56.840 --> 0:09:58.480 Idle word that we've spoken. 0:09:59.200 --> 0:10:04.600 Idle word means negative, condescending, hurtful words. When we come 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:07.040 to the end of life, God is going to ask, 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:08.760 what did you do. 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:10.439 With that spouse I gave you. 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:14.359 Did you help them grow to become more confident? 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:17.280 Did you challenge them to reach to the next level. 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:21.920 If your spouse is not better then before you met them, 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:23.959 you need to step it up a notch. 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:27.440 Check up on what you're saying. Are you speaking the blessing? 0:10:28.360 --> 0:10:29.199 Every time you. 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:33.120 Tell your wife you're beautiful, she shines a little bit brighter. 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:36.559 Every time you say I love you, I'm so glad 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:40.440 your mind. Not only is your marriage getting stronger, but 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:44.360 she's getting stronger. When you tell your children, I'm proud 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:46.760 of you, You're going to do great things in life. 0:10:46.960 --> 0:10:50.800 Those are not just kind words. Those are seeds that 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:53.880 will move them toward their purpose. And if you had 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:57.079 to give an account now for your spouse, your children, 0:10:57.200 --> 0:11:01.400 your friends. Are they better today they were five years ago? 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:06.760 Are they stronger, happier, more fulfilled, more successful. 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:09.320 If not, you need to make some changes. 0:11:10.000 --> 0:11:14.040 God gave them to you, He's expecting you to give 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:18.200 them back better. After being married to Victoria going on 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:21.040 thirty years now, I would hate to have to tell 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:23.600 you that y'all should have clapp better than that, me 0:11:23.640 --> 0:11:25.319 having to put up with her for thirty years. But 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:30.160 after being married to her going on thirty years, I 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:32.800 would hate to have to tell you she's not as 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:36.120 happy as before we met. She's not as confident, not 0:11:36.200 --> 0:11:40.319 as secure, not as fulfilled. The problem is that wouldn't 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:44.320 be her fault. It would be my fault, as her husband, 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:49.160 as her covering. It's my responsibility to keep her encouraged, 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:52.000 to keep her strong, to keep her fulfilled, to keep 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:57.400 her passionate about life. The scripture says, the wife is 0:11:57.440 --> 0:12:02.120 a reflection of the husband's glue. If your wife is 0:12:02.160 --> 0:12:07.040 not shining, if you're harsh, condemning, sarcastic, it's not only 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:10.160 making her look bad, it's making you look bad. And 0:12:10.280 --> 0:12:12.960 for some people, when they have to give an account, 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:16.320 it'll be a sad day. God will look at their spouse, 0:12:16.440 --> 0:12:19.760 their children, their friends, and all he'll see is wounds, 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:23.760 cut up from sarcasm, cut up from disrespect, cut up 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:27.520 from condescending remarks. Don't let that be you use your 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:30.880 words to bless people, use your words to build them 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:35.600 up and make them feel better about themselves. And in relationships, 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:38.480 we all have conflicts, things that we don't like. 0:12:38.720 --> 0:12:39.719 I'm not saying you. 0:12:39.679 --> 0:12:43.880 Should never have a disagreement, no tension, no stress. I'm saying, 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:47.720 in the heat of the moment, step back and don't 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:52.920 make hurtful comments that damages relationships. Well, Joel, if my 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:56.120 spouse wouldn't push my buttons, then I wouldn't say things 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:59.079 I know I shouldn't. If my kids were just straighten up, 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:02.079 if these co workers wouldn't get on my nerves, then 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:06.000 I wouldn't be so disrespectful. These are tests that we 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:09.120 have to pass. The people in your life are never 0:13:09.200 --> 0:13:12.120 going to be perfect. You have to learn to tame 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:15.880 your tongue. That means you don't say everything you feel. 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:19.600 You may think it, but you're disciplined enough to zip 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:19.960 it up. 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:24.120 Maybe your boss is rude to you and you're about. 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:26.520 To let him have it. Tell him what you think. 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:30.720 Here's the problem. He's the boss and you're not after 0:13:30.760 --> 0:13:33.440 you speak out of your emotions, after you give him 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:35.800 a piece of your mind, you'll be on a high 0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:39.520 for about ten minutes, feeling good, giving high fives. Then 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:42.760 you'll realize he still has his job and I don't. 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:47.200 It's much better to tame your tongue. 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:51.080 Then you won't have to live in regrets, thinking, oh man, 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:52.160 why did I say that? 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:53.320 What was I thinking? 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:57.559 Love makes allowances for people's weaknesses. 0:13:58.200 --> 0:14:01.040 Love overlooks a wrong that was done to it. 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:04.400 You have to rise above these petty things that are 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:07.880 pulling you apart. Give people room to have a bad 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:11.240 day every once in a while if they're rude. Don't 0:14:11.240 --> 0:14:14.480 sink down to that level. Be a egle and rise 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:18.360 above it. Life is too short to live at odds, 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:23.320 contentious arguing about things that don't matter. Some people have 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:26.320 to have the last word in every argument. It's so 0:14:26.400 --> 0:14:29.280 hard headed they'll argue for twenty seven days just to 0:14:29.280 --> 0:14:30.280 have that final word. 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:31.480 Let it go. 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:35.360 You have a destiny to fulfill, You have an assignment 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:40.360 to accomplish. Those are distractions trying to pull you off course. 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:44.720 Don't waste your valuable time and energy on something that's 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:48.920 not moving you toward your purpose. If you argue long enough, 0:14:49.200 --> 0:14:53.280 you'll end up saying something you'll regret later. A ten 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:57.360 minute argument can set a relationship back ten years. 0:14:58.080 --> 0:14:59.560 You have to learn to walk away. 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:04.040 You're not going to accomplish anything positive in a heated, 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:06.080 disrespectful situation. 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:09.480 Let them have the last word, and you keep your peace, 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:13.360 You keep your joy. Well, Joel, that made me look weak. 0:15:14.120 --> 0:15:15.239 It's just the opposite. 0:15:15.800 --> 0:15:19.480 The strongest person is the one that humbles themselves and 0:15:19.520 --> 0:15:25.040 steps away. The scripture says you'll overcome evil with good. 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:31.120 You don't overcome disrespect with more disrespect, insults with more insults, 0:15:31.360 --> 0:15:34.880 shouting with more shouting. The way you do it is 0:15:34.920 --> 0:15:38.080 by taking the high road, by being the bigger person, 0:15:38.600 --> 0:15:44.360 by staying respectful. Proverb says avoiding a fight is a 0:15:44.360 --> 0:15:47.560 mark of honor. Doesn't say it's a mark of honor 0:15:47.680 --> 0:15:50.480 to win the fight, to get the last word, to 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:53.920 put the person down. The honorable thing to do is 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:57.720 not start the fight in the first place. In the scripture, 0:15:58.080 --> 0:16:01.680 when David was a teenager, his father sent him out 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:04.440 to take lunch to his brothers. They were in the 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:08.440 army on the front lines, where it was exciting. David 0:16:08.560 --> 0:16:11.240 was stuck in the shepherd's fields, taking care of his 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:16.320 father's sheep, and when David's oldest brother, Eliab saw David, 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:20.080 he said, in front of everyone, David, what are you 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:20.720 doing here? 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:23.920 And with whom have you left these few sheep? 0:16:24.800 --> 0:16:30.400 Eliab was condescending, sarcastic, trying to pick a fight with David. 0:16:31.440 --> 0:16:34.640 Some people will make it their agenda in life to 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:38.200 try to bait you into conflict. They see the favor 0:16:38.280 --> 0:16:41.120 on your life, they know you're going to do great things. 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:44.760 Instead of being happy for you, knowing that God has 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:48.240 a destiny for them as well, they'll be jealous and 0:16:48.320 --> 0:16:51.400 try to draw you into conflict. Don't take that bank. 0:16:52.320 --> 0:16:56.040 David felt like telling his brother off his emotion, said 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:58.680 let him have it. I'm sure he had his speech 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:02.040 all lined up. Eliab, you think your hot stuff. 0:17:01.760 --> 0:17:05.040 You're nothing. God anointed me to be king. You're just jealous. 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:06.240 You're gonna end up serving me. 0:17:06.800 --> 0:17:11.639 He could have lit into him, but David understood this principle. 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:13.760 He didn't get in there and fight. 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:17.359 He didn't curse his brother, he didn't try to have 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:21.439 the last word. He kept his mouth closed, turned and 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:26.680 walked away. No wonder David took the throne, No wonder, 0:17:26.720 --> 0:17:29.960 God entrusted him to do great things. He had the 0:17:30.160 --> 0:17:34.640 character to back up the anointing on his life. God 0:17:34.720 --> 0:17:37.280 can give you a great anointing, He can have. 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:39.040 A big future in store for you. 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:43.080 But if you don't develop your character, you won't step 0:17:43.119 --> 0:17:46.800 in to all that he has. Taming the tongue is 0:17:46.840 --> 0:17:51.520 a major factor in reaching our destiny because our mouth, 0:17:51.680 --> 0:17:54.560 more than about just anything else, gets us into trouble. 0:17:55.119 --> 0:17:58.359 You can't use your words as a sword cutting people up, 0:17:59.000 --> 0:18:02.919 be in disrespectful, sarcastic, and expect to reach. 0:18:02.680 --> 0:18:04.960 The fullness of your destiny. 0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:08.560 Now, I wonder how much higher we would go if 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:11.119 we would do like David and not have to have 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:15.080 the last word, not have to be right, not cause 0:18:15.160 --> 0:18:16.240 some big scene. 0:18:16.440 --> 0:18:18.040 Instead we just keep. 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:23.280 Quietly honoring God, taking the high road, staying respectful. You 0:18:23.400 --> 0:18:26.439 do that and God will fight your battles. That's putting 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:31.280 yourself in position for promotion. David faced a lot of 0:18:31.320 --> 0:18:34.879 opposition in his life. He had plenty of opportunities to 0:18:34.960 --> 0:18:38.359 get upset and lose his cool and tell people off, 0:18:38.920 --> 0:18:42.959 but he prayed an interesting prayer in Psalm One. He 0:18:43.000 --> 0:18:46.359 didn't ask God to defeat his enemies. Didn't ask him 0:18:46.400 --> 0:18:51.200 to remove all of his challenges. He said, God, take control. 0:18:50.960 --> 0:18:54.000 Of what I say. Keep my lips sealed. 0:18:54.880 --> 0:18:57.439 He was saying, God, I have a lot of people 0:18:57.480 --> 0:18:59.919 coming against me, and I know I'm going to be 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:03.679 tempted to be rude, to be sarcastic, to be amentative. 0:19:04.040 --> 0:19:07.120 So God, I'm asking you in advance, help me. 0:19:07.359 --> 0:19:10.359 To keep it zipped up. What a great prayer. 0:19:10.840 --> 0:19:13.879 Every morning when we wake up, God, help me to 0:19:13.960 --> 0:19:14.720 not say. 0:19:14.560 --> 0:19:16.560 Things that are going to get me into trouble. 0:19:17.119 --> 0:19:22.520 Help me to not be disrespectful, argumentative, condescending. Lord, help 0:19:22.560 --> 0:19:26.560 me to keep my lips sealed. This is especially important 0:19:26.840 --> 0:19:30.840 when we're in stressful times. The traffic is bad, you're 0:19:30.840 --> 0:19:34.400 dealing with a difficult coworker. When you are in these 0:19:34.520 --> 0:19:38.240 pressured situations, when you know you're going to be tempted 0:19:38.280 --> 0:19:41.320 to say things that you shouldn't, you need to decide 0:19:41.440 --> 0:19:44.480 ahead of time that you're going to watch your words 0:19:44.520 --> 0:19:48.399 carefully all through the day. Like David, God, help me 0:19:48.840 --> 0:19:52.240 to keep my lips sealed. This is what Jesus did 0:19:52.880 --> 0:19:55.879 toward the end of his life. He knew he was 0:19:55.880 --> 0:19:59.240 coming into one of his most difficult seasons. He knew 0:19:59.560 --> 0:20:03.160 he would be he betrayed, sold for thirty pieces of silver. 0:20:03.720 --> 0:20:08.520 He knew that he would be arrested, mistreated, crucified. He 0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:12.480 said to his disciples in John fourteen, I'm not going 0:20:12.520 --> 0:20:15.000 to be talking with you much anymore. 0:20:15.040 --> 0:20:16.879 Because my hour has come. 0:20:17.760 --> 0:20:20.720 He was smart enough to realize that he was going 0:20:20.760 --> 0:20:24.439 to be under incredible pressure, so he let them know, 0:20:25.080 --> 0:20:26.800 I've already made up my mind. 0:20:27.200 --> 0:20:28.880 I'm not going to be talking a lot. 0:20:29.560 --> 0:20:32.919 He was saying, in effect, I've already decided. I'm not 0:20:33.000 --> 0:20:36.159 going to complain when I'm betrayed. I'm not going to 0:20:36.160 --> 0:20:38.760 be rude to judas. I'm not going to argue with 0:20:38.840 --> 0:20:42.440 the soldiers. I'm not going to be condescending to my accusers. 0:20:42.760 --> 0:20:46.720 I'm going to be careful with my words. When you 0:20:46.840 --> 0:20:50.359 know you're going to be under pressure a stressful situation 0:20:50.520 --> 0:20:53.679 at work, before you leave the house, you need to 0:20:53.680 --> 0:20:57.679 decide I am not going to say everything I feel today. 0:20:58.000 --> 0:21:01.199 I'm going to be extra careful when you're going to 0:21:01.240 --> 0:21:05.320 be discussing a sensitive issue with your spouse, decide ahead 0:21:05.320 --> 0:21:08.520 of time. I'm not going to lose my cool. I'm 0:21:08.520 --> 0:21:11.400 not going to open the door to strife to arguing. 0:21:12.359 --> 0:21:13.800 If Jesus, the. 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:17.359 Son of God, who has all powers, said I'm not 0:21:17.440 --> 0:21:21.439 going to be talking much in this pressured situation, how 0:21:21.560 --> 0:21:22.480 much more. 0:21:22.640 --> 0:21:26.320 Should we be careful what we say when we're under pressure. 0:21:26.600 --> 0:21:29.040 And it's easy to make excuses. Well, George, I was 0:21:29.119 --> 0:21:31.640 rude to them because they were rude to me. Well, 0:21:31.640 --> 0:21:33.600 I said some things I know I shouldn't have, but 0:21:33.640 --> 0:21:35.400 it's because I was under a lot of stress. 0:21:35.960 --> 0:21:38.480 Now you have the grace to be where. 0:21:38.280 --> 0:21:42.360 You are and not be rude, not complain, not say 0:21:42.440 --> 0:21:46.720 hurtful things. You can either feed the flesh and say 0:21:46.760 --> 0:21:50.280 what you feel, or you can feed your spirit and 0:21:50.400 --> 0:21:53.880 keep your mouth closed. The problem is, if you keep 0:21:53.920 --> 0:21:58.000 feeding the flesh say in everything you want, you won't 0:21:58.040 --> 0:21:58.560 grow up. 0:21:59.040 --> 0:22:00.639 You will stay obeyed. 0:22:00.080 --> 0:22:04.880 The scripture says, even though you're in error, even though 0:22:04.920 --> 0:22:11.439 God has an incredible inheritance that belongs to you, joy, peace, favor, promotion, abundance, 0:22:12.080 --> 0:22:16.480 as long as you stay a baby, that inheritance will 0:22:16.520 --> 0:22:19.560 not be released. And taming the tongue is not just 0:22:19.600 --> 0:22:23.680 about being disciplined. It's about growing up. It's about seeing 0:22:24.080 --> 0:22:25.680 the inheritance that has. 0:22:25.520 --> 0:22:27.760 Your name on it. Released in your life. 0:22:28.440 --> 0:22:30.760 I know people they're forty seven years old, but they're 0:22:30.760 --> 0:22:33.800 still a baby. They haven't learned to control their mouth. 0:22:34.320 --> 0:22:37.560 And sometimes it's not big things that keep us from 0:22:37.600 --> 0:22:38.320 God's best. 0:22:38.760 --> 0:22:43.080 It's small things. In the big picture. It's a small 0:22:43.160 --> 0:22:46.320 thing to not argue with the spouse. It's a small 0:22:46.400 --> 0:22:49.520 thing to not be sarcastic put people down. 0:22:50.160 --> 0:22:53.119 God's not asking us to give away our belongings to 0:22:53.200 --> 0:22:53.640 move to. 0:22:53.640 --> 0:22:54.639 A difficult place. 0:22:54.920 --> 0:22:58.680 He's simply asking us to tame our tongues, to use 0:22:58.720 --> 0:23:01.960 our words to bless, not curse, to use them to 0:23:02.040 --> 0:23:05.800 build people up and not tear them down. This is 0:23:05.840 --> 0:23:08.720 one of the reasons the Israelites didn't make it into 0:23:08.760 --> 0:23:12.680 the Promised Land. God brought them out of slavery. They 0:23:12.680 --> 0:23:15.720 were headed to the land flowing with milk and honey, 0:23:15.880 --> 0:23:20.160 but along the way when they came under pressure, instead 0:23:20.160 --> 0:23:23.600 of taming their tongue, they started complaining. 0:23:23.520 --> 0:23:24.800 Criticizing Moses. 0:23:25.359 --> 0:23:27.439 Moses, why did you bring us out here in the 0:23:27.480 --> 0:23:28.480 desert to die? 0:23:28.840 --> 0:23:30.440 It was an eleven day. 0:23:30.280 --> 0:23:34.680 Journey to the Promised Land, but because of their negative words, 0:23:35.040 --> 0:23:38.439 they went around the same mountain for forty years and 0:23:38.560 --> 0:23:42.000 never did make it. In if you can't say something 0:23:42.080 --> 0:23:47.280 beneficial that's going to edify, build up, do yourself a favor, 0:23:47.600 --> 0:23:50.800 and zip it up. It's not only affecting the other 0:23:50.920 --> 0:23:55.040 person that's keeping you from your destiny. And God will 0:23:55.080 --> 0:24:01.720 put us in situations to test us. If we're harsh, critical, complaining, condescending, 0:24:01.960 --> 0:24:03.400 we have to take the test again. 0:24:04.000 --> 0:24:05.800 We have to go around the same mountain. 0:24:06.560 --> 0:24:09.440 Don't do life they did, and go around that mountain 0:24:09.560 --> 0:24:10.760 for the next forty years. 0:24:11.600 --> 0:24:13.720 Next time you're tempted to say something that. 0:24:13.640 --> 0:24:17.560 You shouldn't, pause for a moment under your breath, God, 0:24:17.760 --> 0:24:20.560 help me to control my mouth, help me to keep 0:24:20.600 --> 0:24:21.480 my lips sealed. 0:24:22.080 --> 0:24:24.240 If you'll be slow to speak. 0:24:24.160 --> 0:24:28.000 And ask God to help you, you'll start passing these tests. 0:24:28.520 --> 0:24:31.600 As you grow up, God will release more of the 0:24:31.640 --> 0:24:33.439 inheritance that belongs to you. 0:24:33.440 --> 0:24:35.040 You will see more of his favor. 0:24:36.080 --> 0:24:39.399 But the point here is you can't be critical and 0:24:39.480 --> 0:24:43.200 make it into your promised land. You can't be disrespectful 0:24:43.240 --> 0:24:46.600 to Moses, to the balls, to your spouse and become 0:24:46.920 --> 0:24:50.560 all you were created to be. That's why proverb says 0:24:50.880 --> 0:24:52.120 life and. 0:24:52.280 --> 0:24:54.320 Death are in the power of the tongue. 0:24:54.560 --> 0:24:56.960 Are you speaking life over your future or are you 0:24:57.040 --> 0:25:01.919 speaking death? One time Moses syst Miriam didn't like who 0:25:02.040 --> 0:25:05.560 Moses was about to marry. This young lady didn't meet 0:25:05.640 --> 0:25:09.520 Miriam's approval. She was an Ethiopian girl, came from a 0:25:09.520 --> 0:25:15.959 different nationality. Miriam started talking bad about Moses, stirring up trouble, 0:25:16.440 --> 0:25:21.760 sewing discord. It's interesting the scripture says that God heard 0:25:22.119 --> 0:25:27.720 Miriam being disrespectful, he heard her hurtful, critical words. All 0:25:27.760 --> 0:25:31.560 of the sudden, Miriam was stricken with leprosy. Her skin 0:25:31.640 --> 0:25:36.120 became as white as snow. Leprosy was contagious. She immediately 0:25:36.320 --> 0:25:37.439 had to leave the camp. 0:25:38.240 --> 0:25:39.480 And it will help us to have. 0:25:39.440 --> 0:25:43.480 The right perspective when we remember that God hears what 0:25:43.560 --> 0:25:47.360 we say. He hears when we bless people, and when 0:25:47.359 --> 0:25:50.960 we curse them. He hears when we encourage compliment, push 0:25:51.080 --> 0:25:56.720 them forward. And when we're harsh and disrespectful. Isaiah said, 0:25:57.119 --> 0:26:00.440 we will eat the fruit of our words. This means 0:26:00.680 --> 0:26:07.040 if you so disrespect, you'll reap disrespect. If you sow discord, sarcasm, judgment, 0:26:07.200 --> 0:26:13.639 you'll reap those things. But when you sew kindness, compliments, encouragement, mercy. 0:26:13.600 --> 0:26:15.440 Then people are going to be good to you. 0:26:16.560 --> 0:26:19.280 Our son, Jonathan had a birthday last week and he 0:26:19.400 --> 0:26:21.919 was away at college, and I sent him a text 0:26:22.040 --> 0:26:25.080 early that morning wishing him a happy birthday and telling 0:26:25.160 --> 0:26:27.520 him how proud I am a him. I went to 0:26:27.560 --> 0:26:30.600 my office to start preparing my message for this weekend, 0:26:30.640 --> 0:26:33.280 and I went over notes for a couple of hours, 0:26:33.320 --> 0:26:36.560 but couldn't seem to get any clear direction about what 0:26:36.720 --> 0:26:39.760 to share on Usually something will jump out at me, 0:26:39.840 --> 0:26:41.600 but nothing seemed inspiring. 0:26:41.640 --> 0:26:42.639 It felt kind of dull. 0:26:42.720 --> 0:26:46.080 And then when I came across these notes of taming 0:26:46.119 --> 0:26:48.800 the Tongue, I knew that's what I was supposed to share. 0:26:49.520 --> 0:26:52.920 About ten minutes later, Jonathan sent me a text back 0:26:52.960 --> 0:26:55.959 and said thanks Dad, You're the best dad in all 0:26:56.040 --> 0:26:58.320 the world, and said a few more kind things about 0:26:58.359 --> 0:27:00.159 me and ended by saying I want to be just 0:27:00.240 --> 0:27:05.360 like you. And it's amazing how those few sentences breathe new. 0:27:05.200 --> 0:27:06.520 Life into my spirit. 0:27:07.080 --> 0:27:10.480 I felt a lifting, a new strength, a new joy. 0:27:10.760 --> 0:27:13.600 I went from being stuck, this is hard, nothing is 0:27:13.640 --> 0:27:19.080 coming to being excited. Passionate ideas started flowing, creativity all 0:27:19.160 --> 0:27:24.000 sparked from a few kind words. James said, the tongue 0:27:24.280 --> 0:27:27.639 is like a fire. One spark can set a whole 0:27:27.720 --> 0:27:31.840 forest on fire. One word can start a major problem, 0:27:32.320 --> 0:27:36.000 one word can start a major blessing. I'm asking you 0:27:36.119 --> 0:27:41.119 to start some good fires. Ignite people's dreams, ignite their hopes, 0:27:41.359 --> 0:27:44.960 ignite their passions. Your words have the ability to put 0:27:45.000 --> 0:27:48.360 people on their feet, to breathe new life into their spirit. 0:27:48.760 --> 0:27:53.040 Be a healer, be an encourager, be a lifter. And 0:27:53.080 --> 0:27:55.200 when you're tempted to say things and we all are 0:27:55.280 --> 0:28:00.760 to be condescending, sarcastic, argumentative, be disciplined enough to zip 0:28:00.760 --> 0:28:04.520 it up, put that sword down. Don't go through life 0:28:04.560 --> 0:28:08.440 cutting people up with hurtful words. Go through life building 0:28:08.480 --> 0:28:12.000 people up with encouraging words. If you'll do this, I 0:28:12.119 --> 0:28:16.320 believe and declare because you're taming your tongue, you will 0:28:16.440 --> 0:28:20.240 enjoy your life more. You will have better relationships. You 0:28:20.280 --> 0:28:24.320 will receive your inheritance and become everything God's. 0:28:24.040 --> 0:28:27.640 Created you to be. 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