Reframe It

0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:02.240 Hi, this is Joel and Victoria. 0:00:02.320 --> 0:00:05.320 Thanks for listening to our podcast and thanks for supporting 0:00:05.360 --> 0:00:08.280 the ministry. If you enjoy today's message, why don't you 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:10.480 be a blessing and share it with a friend. We 0:00:10.560 --> 0:00:13.800 appreciate you and pray for God's very best in your life. 0:00:14.120 --> 0:00:17.280 God bless you. It's great to be with you today. 0:00:16.960 --> 0:00:19.480 And I hope you'll stay connected with us during the 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:23.599 week through our daily podcast, our YouTube channel, social media, 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:25.880 and you can come visit us in person. 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:27.920 We'd love to have you be a part of one 0:00:27.960 --> 0:00:30.560 of our services. THO. I'd like to start with something 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:33.680 funny and I heard about this couple. They were planning 0:00:33.720 --> 0:00:34.360 their wedding. 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:38.760 They asked the bakery to inscribe the scripture reference first 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:42.559 John four eighteen on the cake. It says there is 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:45.880 no fear in love, but perfect love cast out fear. 0:00:46.479 --> 0:00:46.639 Well. 0:00:46.680 --> 0:00:51.040 The baker accidentally left off the one and instead inscribed 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:56.280 John for eighteen. It reads for you have had five husbands, and. 0:00:56.200 --> 0:01:00.120 The men you're with now is not your husband. I'm 0:01:00.160 --> 0:01:02.280 a mistake. Okay, y'all say it like you mean it. 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:03.960 This is my Bible. 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:06.800 I am what it says, I am, I have what 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:09.400 it says I have, I can do what it says 0:01:09.440 --> 0:01:12.199 I can do. Today I will be taught the word 0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:16.480 of God. I boldly confess my mind is alert, my 0:01:16.600 --> 0:01:21.000 heart is receptive. I will never be the same. In Jesus' name, 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:24.959 God bless you. I want to talk to you today 0:01:25.000 --> 0:01:29.560 about reframe it. How you see things will determine how 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:30.440 you're going to live. 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:34.080 We don't always see them as they are. We see 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:37.680 them as we are. We all have filters from which 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:38.760 we view the world. 0:01:39.319 --> 0:01:44.280 How we were raised, past experiences, our personality, the culture. 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:49.040 All these things affect our perspective. You can take two. 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:52.520 People and put them in the same situation a lot 0:01:52.560 --> 0:01:54.720 of good things happening and a few negative. 0:01:55.400 --> 0:01:58.760 One will be happy, content, enjoy and life. 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:03.480 The other will be discouraged, worried, complaining about where they are. 0:02:04.400 --> 0:02:06.080 The difference is their filter. 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:10.960 If your filter is contamidated, it's going to distort everything 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:14.880 you see in make your negative and critical. And I 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:20.720 can't overcome this challenge. The problem is our perception becomes 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:24.639 our reality. How we view it becomes real to us. 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:28.160 The Scripture says to the purer, all. 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:31.120 Things are pure. You have to reframe it. 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:37.160 You could have a great life, great family, to love, health, opportunity. 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:40.520 But if you have the wrong frame and you're seeing 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:42.079 it through a distorted lens. 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:44.680 You want to enjoy what God has given you. 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:50.400 See it from a new perspective, positive, grateful, thanking God 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:54.360 for what you have focused on the good. See, every 0:02:54.520 --> 0:02:59.280 blessing brings a burden. You can't be blessed without having 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:00.000 more challenge. 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:03.200 You prayed for that bigger house, but you have to 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:03.680 clean it. 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:06.880 You believe for that spouse, but he can get on 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:10.520 your nerves. You dream to those children, they take a 0:03:10.520 --> 0:03:14.160 lot of work. If you focus on the burden, you'll 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:17.760 miss the blessing. Yet the burden is only a fraction 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:21.320 of what the blessing is. I hear people say, hey, 0:03:21.400 --> 0:03:24.680 I gotta go to work today. The truth is you 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:25.919 don't have to go to work. 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:28.840 You get to go to work. God gave your breath 0:03:28.840 --> 0:03:29.760 to breathe. 0:03:30.000 --> 0:03:33.240 He woke you up this morning, gave you that job, 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:36.600 open that door, put talent in you. 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:39.640 You need to reframe it. Lord, Thank you that I 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:42.480 get to go to work today. Thank you for blessing 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:46.160 me with this position. Now, Joel, they don't treat me right. 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:51.400 This coworker always leads me out, says derogatory things that 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:55.040 doesn't have to steal your joy. Reframe it, Father, thank 0:03:55.120 --> 0:03:58.720 you that you are fighting my battles. In the meantime, 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:01.680 I'm gonna shine right where you have me. I'm going 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:05.520 to prosper where I'm planning. Don't go the next twenty 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:08.680 years missing the blessing because you're. 0:04:08.520 --> 0:04:09.560 Focused on the burden. 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:14.120 Well, I got to drive in traffic. It's always backed up. 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:18.000 It takes me forever. The fact that you're in traffic 0:04:18.240 --> 0:04:21.320 tells me. God's blessed you with a car. He's blessed 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:25.640 you with eyesight and a sound of mind. Reframe it, Lord, 0:04:25.680 --> 0:04:28.200 I thank you that I get to drive in traffic today. 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:31.880 Thank you for giving me the resources, the strength. The 0:04:31.960 --> 0:04:37.640 hell changes your whole attitude. Really, it dishonors God for 0:04:37.760 --> 0:04:41.360 us to go through the day complaining and focused on problems. 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:45.480 This day is a gift from God. Once we live it, 0:04:45.600 --> 0:04:48.640 we can't get it back. The enemy would love for 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:52.160 you to waste years living a blessed life. 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:53.479 But not recognizing it. 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:58.440 Walking in God's favor and protection goodness, but always seeing 0:04:58.480 --> 0:05:02.320 the burden, what's wrong, what you don't have while you 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:06.320 miss all the great things God has blessed you with. Well, 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:09.039 I got to clean the house again today seems like 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:10.040 that's all I do. 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:12.760 The fact is, you get to clean the house. 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:16.120 God blessed you with the place to live. It's given 0:05:16.200 --> 0:05:20.800 you strength, health to be productive. A lot of people 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:23.599 in the hospital that would love to be able to 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:24.680 get out and go to. 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:28.240 Work, go to the grocery store and mow the lawn. 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:29.600 Reframe it. 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:33.440 Set of complaining as you vacuum, Lord, thank you that 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:37.000 my arms work, thank you that my lungs function, Thank 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:38.960 you that I have energy and mobility. 0:05:40.000 --> 0:05:42.560 Hell, Joel, I do that, but my house is too small. 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:45.400 I don't like being here. Here's the key. 0:05:45.480 --> 0:05:48.560 If you don't get happy where you are, you probably 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:51.520 won't get to where you want to be. If you'll 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:55.279 learn to thank God for what you have, then God 0:05:55.360 --> 0:05:58.800 can multiply it. You remember when the disciples brought the 0:05:58.839 --> 0:06:01.320 five loaves and fish to Jesus. 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:04.240 It wasn't enough. There were five. 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:08.000 Thousand people they needed to feed. Jesus could have been discrunald, 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:11.200 What good is this? I need a whole lot more. 0:06:11.880 --> 0:06:14.720 But the scripture says he lifted up the loaves and 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:17.080 the fish and thank God for it. 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:19.760 When he gave thanks for what was. 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:23.480 Not enough, God multiplied it and it fed all five 0:06:23.520 --> 0:06:28.000 thousand people. Sometimes we're waiting for God to multiply are 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:33.640 not enough, but we're missing this step. We're discouraged complaining God, 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:37.359 When are you gonna change this? Try a different approach, Father, 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:40.279 I thank you for this small apartment. Lord, I thank 0:06:40.320 --> 0:06:44.360 you for this older car. God, I'm grateful for this job, 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:47.919 even though they're not treating me right. When you thank 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:51.440 God for what's not enough, that's when God can multiply 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:55.400 things and bring you into more than enough. Joel, I'm 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:58.839 so tired of taking care of my children, cooking meals 0:06:58.920 --> 0:07:01.360 and picking up their toys, having to. 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:03.880 Get up in the middle of the night. You need 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:08.200 to reframe it. You're focused on the burden, missing the blessing. 0:07:09.080 --> 0:07:11.440 Do you know how many people would love to have 0:07:11.560 --> 0:07:15.600 your children. I pray for couples after every service that 0:07:15.680 --> 0:07:17.000 are believing to conceive. 0:07:17.680 --> 0:07:19.560 Their dream is to have a child. 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:23.200 Some spend thousands of dollars on fertility treatments. 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:25.560 They'd give anything to have your child. 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:29.360 But when you're only focused on the burden, it'll drain 0:07:29.440 --> 0:07:33.840 your energy and take your joy, make you critical. You 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:36.320 don't enjoy who they are. You're just trying to get 0:07:36.320 --> 0:07:39.200 through the day. Got to get them through preschool, get 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:40.640 them through junior high. 0:07:40.840 --> 0:07:41.920 Have a new perspective. 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:46.080 Those children are a gift that God's entrusted you with. 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:49.560 He could have given them to anyone, but he chose you. 0:07:50.640 --> 0:07:52.720 Take time to celebrate who they are. 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:57.200 Laugh at the funny things they do, enjoy their personalities. 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:00.800 Life is flying by. You look up and they're grown. 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:04.480 Don't miss the beauty of this day. 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:07.960 What Joel. I understand about the house, the car, the kids. 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:10.800 But this spouse of mind, he gets on my nerves. 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:14.840 This woman I'm married too, she stresses me out. This 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:18.240 may surprise you, but some people would love to have 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:22.680 your spouse, that husband that irritates you, some ladies would 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:23.680 be thrilled. 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:26.119 To be his wife. I know some of you are thinking, 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:27.400 can I give you a phone number? 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:33.960 But the truth is everyone has flaws, everyone has weaknesses, 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:37.480 but most of the time they have many more good 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:41.560 things than they do negative. What are you focusing on 0:08:42.120 --> 0:08:46.520 the blessing or the burden. I've seen people break up 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:50.080 over little things that they let turn into big things. 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:53.240 You need to see the good in the people God 0:08:53.280 --> 0:08:56.400 has given you the love. The scripture says, to make 0:08:56.440 --> 0:09:00.880 allowances for their weaknesses, not make a list of their weaknesses. 0:09:01.679 --> 0:09:05.040 Not rehearse all the things you don't like, remind them 0:09:05.040 --> 0:09:06.199 where they fall short. 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:10.319 People respond to praise more than they do criticism. 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:14.920 Instead of complaining that your husband never mowst a lawn, 0:09:15.360 --> 0:09:18.480 never takes the trash out next time they do, try 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:22.800 praising him for it, complimenting him, man, you look so 0:09:23.000 --> 0:09:26.559 good mowing that line, while your muscles are so big 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:30.160 taking out that trash. You praise him like that, he'll 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:35.079 take the trash out every hour. Instead of complaining about 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:40.400 the things your wife does that you don't like, nitpicky, petty, 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:44.480 stirring things up, try telling her how beautiful she looks 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:47.040 all through the day and how glad you are that 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:49.920 she's your wife, and thank her for being such a 0:09:49.960 --> 0:09:54.599 great mother, making the home so loving, fond, and peaceful. 0:09:55.360 --> 0:09:56.880 This is not complicated. 0:09:57.160 --> 0:10:02.360 It's just reframing, shifting our restive from seeing what's wrong 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:06.160 to seeing what's right, from focusing on the burden to 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:11.000 focusing on the blessing. I read where in relationships your 0:10:11.040 --> 0:10:14.320 spouse is only going to have eighty percent of what 0:10:14.400 --> 0:10:18.960 you need. They can be the best person, loving, carrying kind, 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:23.000 but no person has one hundred percent. They're going to 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:26.319 be areas that they can't give you. If you don't 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:31.000 recognize they can't be everything. They're not superman or superwoman, 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:32.640 you'll get frustrated. 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:34.240 Now often we. 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:37.880 Focus on the twenty percent that they don't have, rather 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:41.760 than enjoying the eighty percent that they do have. Your 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:46.200 husband may be a hard worker, credibly responsible, he's great 0:10:46.240 --> 0:10:49.760 with the kids, but he's not a big talker. He's 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:54.840 more quiet. That's okay, he's got eighty percent. Instead of 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:57.960 being sour trying to get something from him that he 0:10:58.080 --> 0:11:02.840 can't give, Recognize that's who he is. Celebrate all his 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:06.319 good qualities. Go call a girlfriend and talk with them. 0:11:07.200 --> 0:11:10.480 That person I'm describing as me. I talk a lot 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:13.920 up here. I love to laugh and have fun, but 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:17.119 I'm not one to sit around talk about my deepest feelings, 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:19.360 find out all the latest information. 0:11:19.679 --> 0:11:20.920 My mind is more simple. 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:24.040 I have a friend that wrote his wife a poem 0:11:24.120 --> 0:11:25.280 for Valentine's Day. 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:27.640 It was so romantic, it. 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:32.040 Rhymed, it was moving, inspirational. I told him, you didn't 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:33.760 do this, Ai wrote this thing. 0:11:34.960 --> 0:11:36.080 He said, no, it was me. 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:39.880 I have to remind Victory all the time. You didn't 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:45.559 marry Romeo, you married Jolio. But some people, seriously, they 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:49.520 will leave the eighty percent that their spouse doesn't have. 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:53.320 They'll find that twenty percent that they were looking for 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:54.720 in another person. 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:58.400 The problem is this new person is not going to 0:11:58.440 --> 0:11:59.400 have the twenty percent. 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:03.920 They're lacking something their spouse has. If you don't understand 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:08.640 that nobody has one hundred percent, you'll get frustrated comparing 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:12.240 your friend's situation to yours, and her spouse does this 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:14.640 and that and the other. They're telling you all of 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:17.920 his strengths. They're not telling you that he leaves his 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:20.680 socks on the floor every night and when he snores 0:12:20.720 --> 0:12:23.720 you can hear it in Beaumont. They don't say anything 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:27.760 about the twenty percent that he's missing. You need to 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:31.920 remember the reason you fell in love, the joy, the laughter, 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:33.479 the great personality. 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:36.920 God has blessed you with that person as a gift. 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:40.800 It's easy to let petty things start to erode the 0:12:40.880 --> 0:12:45.760 love and lessen respect, diminish the good qualities. You need 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:49.880 to reframe it, start seeing the blessing that your spouse is. 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:55.360 Start complimenting them, expressing your love, treating them like they're. 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:56.240 A gift from God. 0:12:57.200 --> 0:13:01.160 When someone is good to your children and kind and 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:04.560 makes them feel valuable as a parent, you would do 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:07.920 anything for that person. They're taking care of your child, 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:10.200 your most precious possession. 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:12.480 That's the way it is with God. 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:16.959 When you treat people with love and compassion, you make 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:22.280 them feel valuable, attractive, worthy. You are taking care of 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:26.240 God's greatest treasure. You can be assured that God will 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:30.200 take care of you. The scripture says, husbands, if we 0:13:30.200 --> 0:13:34.000 don't treat our wives right, then it will hinder our prayers. 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:36.560 Makes a difference how we treat people. 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:41.360 We shouldn't be contentious, always wanting to argue, having to 0:13:41.400 --> 0:13:45.000 be right or pity, making a big deal out of 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:49.439 little things, holding grudges, saying things we know we shouldn't. 0:13:50.240 --> 0:13:55.319 When we mistreat people, we're mistreating God's creation. Many times, 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:58.600 the root cause is we're focusing on the twenty percent 0:13:58.720 --> 0:14:03.720 that we don't like. Were magnifying their negative qualities. Reframe it, 0:14:04.040 --> 0:14:07.360 focus on the good. I know a couple that lives 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:10.480 in another state and they were always complaining about their 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:13.839 house and how it was too small and they didn't 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:16.920 care for the neighbors. Plus, this house was far from 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:19.760 the city, took a long time to drive to work. 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:23.760 They wanted something closer in It was a constant source 0:14:23.840 --> 0:14:24.600 of frustration. 0:14:25.040 --> 0:14:27.440 Year after year, they weren't happy. 0:14:27.880 --> 0:14:32.240 Unfortunately, business went down and the husband was laid off. 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:35.280 The wife had to get a part time job. 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:38.800 And the husband kept looking for work, but they didn't 0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:40.560 have the funds to make their house payment. 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:43.960 Things got tighter and tighter and looked like they were 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:46.800 going to lose their house, and they were very distraught. 0:14:47.320 --> 0:14:50.240 Right when it was about to be foreclosed on, a 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:53.800 bank stepped in and allowed them to refinance and they 0:14:53.840 --> 0:14:54.480 were able to. 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:58.480 Save their house. They were so happy. They called me 0:14:58.600 --> 0:15:01.600 like they had won the lottery. Joel, God stepped in. 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:04.320 Everything fell into place. We don't have to move out. 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:08.440 This was the house they didn't like, the same place 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:12.320 they complained about for years. But when it was almost 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:14.960 taken away, they had a new perspective. 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:16.720 They loved that house. 0:15:17.280 --> 0:15:19.960 They didn't see the burden of it being too far, 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:24.440 too small, unfriendly neighbors. They were going over to their 0:15:24.440 --> 0:15:28.480 neighbors for dinner the same neighbors they said were unfriendly. 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:30.120 Here's my point. 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:33.800 They had what they needed to be happy the whole time, 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:36.800 they just didn't see it. Now, I wonder if there 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:40.400 are things that we're complaining about, things you don't like 0:15:41.120 --> 0:15:44.640 that are frustrating you, your job, your spouse, your child, 0:15:45.520 --> 0:15:48.160 But if it was taken away, you would have a 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:49.200 different perspective. 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:54.080 Are you focused on the burden missing the blessing? Now? 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:57.280 I'm not saying to not dream and want to rise higher, 0:15:57.920 --> 0:16:01.240 but while you're waiting for things to change, don't get 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:02.200 sour and. 0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:03.640 Miss the beauty of this day. 0:16:04.840 --> 0:16:07.600 Enjoy where you are while you're on the way to 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:11.320 where God is taking you. Too often, like this couple, 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:13.600 we're not gonna be happy until we get the new 0:16:13.680 --> 0:16:16.600 job or that new car, get rid of this piece 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:19.040 of junker, that new relationship. 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:22.720 I can't be happy with my spouse. But if you're 0:16:22.720 --> 0:16:24.840 putting off your happiness. 0:16:24.280 --> 0:16:28.000 To a later time till things fall into line, you 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:31.760 get what you're believing for, you're gonna miss years of 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:36.160 your life not being happy. The truth is, you have 0:16:36.320 --> 0:16:39.480 what you need to be happy right now. If you'll 0:16:39.560 --> 0:16:42.960 just reframe it, you don't need a new job, a 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:44.320 new spouse, a new car. 0:16:44.760 --> 0:16:45.720 All you need is. 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:49.720 A new mindset, a new perspective, to learn to focus 0:16:49.760 --> 0:16:53.240 on the eighty percent that's good and not the twenty 0:16:53.280 --> 0:16:56.840 percent that's not. About a month ago, there was a 0:16:56.880 --> 0:16:59.680 Tuesday where I scheduled a lot of things that I 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:01.960 didn't want to do. I had to go to a 0:17:02.000 --> 0:17:05.800 clinic seven o'clock and give blood for a health checkup. 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:07.120 Ten o'clock. 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:10.280 I had an eye doctor's appointment that afternoon. I had 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:13.199 to meet a contractor at the house and run errands, 0:17:13.480 --> 0:17:16.240 all these things I'd been putting off, none of which 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:19.399 I was looking forward to a couple of weeks before. 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:22.440 I started dreading that day, thought I don't want to 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:24.159 be at the clinic at seven. I want to get 0:17:24.240 --> 0:17:28.080 up and go through my normal routine. When we dread things, 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:31.199 we're making plans to have a hard day. It's like 0:17:31.240 --> 0:17:33.760 we're using our faith but in the wrong direction. 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:35.359 Every time I. 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:39.640 Thought about that Tuesday, I'd feel more heaviness and more discouragement. 0:17:40.359 --> 0:17:44.160 About a week out, I realized I was making myself miserable. 0:17:44.720 --> 0:17:46.120 I'm focused on the burden. 0:17:46.760 --> 0:17:48.400 I got to do a few things I don't want 0:17:48.400 --> 0:17:53.320 to do. The blessing is I'm alive, I'm healthy, God, opportunity, 0:17:53.600 --> 0:17:54.600 beautiful family. 0:17:54.800 --> 0:17:59.320 A sound mind had to reframe it. I'd let the 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:03.359 negative take over. I shifted my perspective to I'm going 0:18:03.400 --> 0:18:05.879 to have a great day that Tuesday. I'm going to 0:18:06.080 --> 0:18:07.000 enjoy that day. 0:18:07.960 --> 0:18:10.240 I made up my mind that I was going to 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:13.760 be a blessing to people wherever I went. I was 0:18:13.800 --> 0:18:18.440 going to lift someone's spirit, brighten their day, encourage them. 0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:20.879 Every time I was tempted to dread it, I thought, no, 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:24.200 I'm on a mission. I'm gonna be good to somebody 0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:28.600 that day. Sometimes the reason where sour is we're only 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:33.959 thinking of ourselves, my plans, my goals, my problems. 0:18:33.520 --> 0:18:36.639 What I don't want to do. We weren't created to 0:18:36.720 --> 0:18:41.160 be ingrown. I realized it's not all about me. God 0:18:41.240 --> 0:18:42.560 is ordering my steps. 0:18:43.040 --> 0:18:45.359 If He has me there, then I need to be 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:46.840 there with a good attitude. 0:18:47.280 --> 0:18:50.080 I need to leave that place better than it was before. 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:52.200 You think about how. 0:18:52.280 --> 0:18:55.280 There may be eight billion people on the earth, but 0:18:55.400 --> 0:18:58.800 on an average day, you may come across a dozen 0:18:58.880 --> 0:19:00.199 people that you interact with. 0:19:00.840 --> 0:19:02.919 People at work, the clerk at. 0:19:02.760 --> 0:19:06.040 The grocery store, the receptionist at the Gem. 0:19:06.280 --> 0:19:08.560 It's not thousands, it's just a handful. 0:19:09.480 --> 0:19:13.280 Those are people God has ordained to come across your path. 0:19:13.880 --> 0:19:16.720 It's not random. God is divinely. 0:19:16.320 --> 0:19:20.320 Orchestrating where you are, and that's an opportunity to be 0:19:20.440 --> 0:19:24.639 a blessing, to brighten their day, to lift their spirits. 0:19:25.359 --> 0:19:29.760 Maybe just a smile, a kind word, a simple compliment, 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:33.960 holding the door open for him, something that leaves them better, 0:19:34.560 --> 0:19:38.960 makes them feel valuable, lets them know that you care. See, 0:19:38.960 --> 0:19:41.560 we all have things that we can dread, things we're 0:19:41.600 --> 0:19:45.720 not looking forward to. And sometimes it's not simple things 0:19:45.960 --> 0:19:50.080 like me on that Tuesday. It's taking treatment for the cancer. 0:19:50.600 --> 0:19:53.399 It's going through the legal battle, it's dealing with a 0:19:53.480 --> 0:19:56.879 child that's off course. Yes, it's difficult, but you have 0:19:56.960 --> 0:20:00.760 to reframe it. You've been armed with strength that battle. 0:20:01.400 --> 0:20:03.840 God wouldn't have allowed it if it was going to 0:20:03.880 --> 0:20:04.920 stop your destiny. 0:20:05.760 --> 0:20:07.800 Don't go in with the defeated mentality. 0:20:08.440 --> 0:20:11.080 This is not fair. I'll never get through it. No, 0:20:11.240 --> 0:20:13.480 be strong, be of good courage. 0:20:13.680 --> 0:20:15.320 The Lord your God is with you. 0:20:16.359 --> 0:20:21.200 Dreading takes your strength, weakens your faith, sours your attitude. 0:20:21.359 --> 0:20:24.120 You have to see that challenge through the right lens, 0:20:24.320 --> 0:20:27.679 the lens of faith, the lens of no weapon formed 0:20:27.720 --> 0:20:31.360 against you will prosper, the lens of what God started. 0:20:30.920 --> 0:20:32.800 In your life. He's going to finish. 0:20:33.640 --> 0:20:38.399 It's interesting that David never called Goliath a giant. The 0:20:38.480 --> 0:20:42.200 other men in the army described as stature. They ran 0:20:42.280 --> 0:20:45.080 in fear when he came out and taunted them each morning. 0:20:45.840 --> 0:20:49.840 David could have been intimidated God, I don't have a chance, but. 0:20:49.840 --> 0:20:50.760 He reframed it. 0:20:51.160 --> 0:20:55.240 He said, who is this uncircumcised philistine that he should 0:20:55.280 --> 0:20:58.840 defy the armies of the living God. He was saying, 0:20:58.880 --> 0:21:01.320 I'm not focused on how how big he is. I'm 0:21:01.359 --> 0:21:04.960 focused on how big my God is. The scripture says, 0:21:05.160 --> 0:21:07.560 do not be intimidated by your enemies. 0:21:08.320 --> 0:21:09.639 When you face giants. 0:21:10.119 --> 0:21:12.560 You shouldn't go around talking about how big they are, 0:21:13.240 --> 0:21:16.280 how you'll never get wound, never get out of debt, 0:21:16.400 --> 0:21:20.920 never meet the right person. Quit calling your problems giants. 0:21:21.240 --> 0:21:24.359 If you're making them bigger in your mind, it's making 0:21:24.400 --> 0:21:29.000 you smaller. Do like David, reframe it in the natural. 0:21:29.119 --> 0:21:32.840 It may look big, but God is supernatural. He's not 0:21:33.000 --> 0:21:36.320 limited by what limits us. And this is where the 0:21:36.440 --> 0:21:40.240 Israelites missed it. They came to the Promised Land. God 0:21:40.280 --> 0:21:42.560 had already told them it was theirs, but they had 0:21:42.560 --> 0:21:43.520 to go in and take it. 0:21:44.119 --> 0:21:46.840 So Moses sent twelve men to spy out the land. 0:21:47.560 --> 0:21:50.320 After forty days, ten came back, saying, we don't have 0:21:50.320 --> 0:21:54.040 a chance. There are giants in the land. We were 0:21:54.040 --> 0:21:58.760 in our own sites like grasshoppers. Notice their lens can't 0:21:58.760 --> 0:22:02.359 do it too big, We're like grasshoppers. 0:22:03.359 --> 0:22:06.160 There were two other spies, Joshua and Caleb. 0:22:06.680 --> 0:22:10.480 They came back and says Moses, we are well able. Yes, 0:22:10.600 --> 0:22:13.680 the people are big, but we know our God is bigger. 0:22:14.080 --> 0:22:16.240 Let us go in at once and take this land. 0:22:17.400 --> 0:22:20.080 They saw the same people as the first ten spies, 0:22:20.760 --> 0:22:22.960 same giants, same land. 0:22:23.280 --> 0:22:25.800 But their perspective was just the opposite. 0:22:26.560 --> 0:22:29.800 They were seeing through a different lens, a lens of faith. 0:22:30.560 --> 0:22:34.639 Those first ten spies never did go into the Promised Land. 0:22:35.040 --> 0:22:38.680 The only two from that whole group were Joshua and Caleb. 0:22:39.640 --> 0:22:43.080 Makes the difference what lens you're seeing things from. 0:22:44.160 --> 0:22:44.280 Well. 0:22:44.359 --> 0:22:48.640 Years later, the Israelites made it to Jericho. The Promised 0:22:48.720 --> 0:22:51.760 Land was on the other side. Joshua was sent men 0:22:51.880 --> 0:22:55.720 to spy off that land. A lady named Rayhab took 0:22:55.760 --> 0:22:59.200 the spies in and hid them in her home, kept. 0:22:59.040 --> 0:23:00.000 Them from being caught. 0:23:00.880 --> 0:23:04.119 She said to the spies and Joshua too, we are 0:23:04.200 --> 0:23:07.960 all afraid of you, living in terror, for we have 0:23:08.119 --> 0:23:11.840 heard how the Lord your God has parted the red seas. 0:23:12.359 --> 0:23:15.879 Our hearts have melted with fear. No one has the 0:23:16.000 --> 0:23:18.639 courage to fight after hearing those things. 0:23:19.600 --> 0:23:20.560 Here's what's amazing. 0:23:21.000 --> 0:23:25.960 Those original ten spies felt like grasshoppers. But the truth 0:23:26.160 --> 0:23:30.280 is the opposition was afraid of them. They thought the 0:23:30.440 --> 0:23:33.760 Israelites were the giants. But look at what the wrong 0:23:33.920 --> 0:23:39.400 perspective can do. If you're seeing yourself small, limited, your 0:23:39.400 --> 0:23:43.400 problems too big, that's going to keep you from your destiny. 0:23:43.560 --> 0:23:47.440 If you knew the truth the enemy is afraid of you, 0:23:47.440 --> 0:23:48.800 you are powerful. 0:23:49.000 --> 0:23:51.359 You have the spirit of the Most High God on 0:23:51.440 --> 0:23:55.399 the inside, the same spirit that raised Christ from the dead, 0:23:55.880 --> 0:23:59.480 the same spirit that opened blind eyes, shut the mouths 0:23:59.520 --> 0:24:02.520 of life, wiped out one hundred and eighty five. 0:24:02.440 --> 0:24:06.000 Thousand enemies in one moment. That's who you are. 0:24:06.840 --> 0:24:11.040 Now. Get rid of that grasshopper lens, that defeated mentality. 0:24:11.680 --> 0:24:15.439 You may have some giants, reframe it greater is he 0:24:15.520 --> 0:24:18.560 that's in you than what's trying to stop you. You're 0:24:18.600 --> 0:24:21.159 not a grasshopper, You're a giant killer. 0:24:21.880 --> 0:24:23.119 You're a history maker. 0:24:23.760 --> 0:24:26.480 You are here to take new ground, to go where 0:24:26.520 --> 0:24:29.959 no one in your family has gone. This is what 0:24:30.000 --> 0:24:32.760 I had to do when my father passed. I saw 0:24:32.880 --> 0:24:37.240 myself as limited and reserved and too quiet, and I thought, 0:24:37.240 --> 0:24:40.280 I can't pass to the church, speak in front of people. 0:24:40.400 --> 0:24:41.600 I don't have that ability. 0:24:42.480 --> 0:24:45.879 I had to see myself through a different lens to 0:24:46.000 --> 0:24:49.199 be open to think, maybe there's talent in me that 0:24:49.280 --> 0:24:54.560 I haven't seen. Maybe I'm stronger, more courageous, more successful 0:24:54.720 --> 0:24:57.960 than I think I am. I was seeing myself through 0:24:58.000 --> 0:25:01.359 a lens of limitation, a lens of not enough, and 0:25:01.640 --> 0:25:03.240 I can't measure up to my father. 0:25:04.000 --> 0:25:06.040 But none of that was true. 0:25:06.240 --> 0:25:09.479 Like Rahab said about the ten Spies, we were afraid 0:25:09.520 --> 0:25:10.360 of you. 0:25:10.440 --> 0:25:14.639 We knew who you were. The tragedy is the spies 0:25:14.760 --> 0:25:17.520 didn't know who they were. Can I tell you the 0:25:17.640 --> 0:25:19.040 enemy knows who you are. 0:25:19.760 --> 0:25:25.679 He knows you're a masterpiece, talented, strong, smart, valuable, a 0:25:25.880 --> 0:25:30.639 history maker with seeds of greatness, destined to leave your mark. 0:25:31.560 --> 0:25:34.919 My challenge is, don't go through life and not know 0:25:34.960 --> 0:25:38.360 who you are. I would not be up here if 0:25:38.400 --> 0:25:41.600 I had not reframed it. I had to be open 0:25:41.640 --> 0:25:44.720 to the fact that maybe I haven't seen all of 0:25:44.760 --> 0:25:45.400 who I am. 0:25:46.040 --> 0:25:48.840 Maybe I've been looking through a distorted. 0:25:48.320 --> 0:25:52.600 Lens that's lessened who God made me to be. When 0:25:52.640 --> 0:25:56.320 I changed the frame, I stepped into favor and purpose 0:25:56.520 --> 0:26:00.320 that I never dreamed. Are there things that you need 0:26:00.359 --> 0:26:03.760 to reframe today? You're looking at how big the problem 0:26:03.880 --> 0:26:05.240 is instead of. 0:26:05.400 --> 0:26:06.879 Looking at how big our God is. 0:26:07.880 --> 0:26:12.320 You focused on the burden, missing the blessing, sour over 0:26:12.359 --> 0:26:15.280 the twenty percent, missing the eighty percent. 0:26:16.320 --> 0:26:19.960 Reframe it no more. I gotta go to work. Turn 0:26:20.000 --> 0:26:20.680 it around. Lord. 0:26:20.800 --> 0:26:23.040 Thank you that I get to go to work today. 0:26:23.520 --> 0:26:27.040 I'm grateful to have breath to breathe. Don't miss another 0:26:27.160 --> 0:26:28.199 day being sour. 0:26:29.119 --> 0:26:31.960 Learn to be happy where you are, find the good 0:26:32.080 --> 0:26:33.119 in each situation. 0:26:34.040 --> 0:26:37.560 If you'll do this, I believe and declare, like David, 0:26:38.040 --> 0:26:45.120 giants are about to come down, supernatural breakthrough, supernatural favor, healing, provision, 0:26:45.520 --> 0:26:50.120 the fullness of your destiny in Jesus's name, and if 0:26:50.160 --> 0:26:51.840 you receive it, can you say amen? 0:26:51.920 --> 0:26:54.800 Today? I'd like to give you. 0:26:54.760 --> 0:26:57.880 An opportunity to make Jesus the Lord of your life. 0:26:58.119 --> 0:27:01.639 Would you pray with me, just say, Lord, Jesus, I 0:27:01.760 --> 0:27:05.800 repent of my sins. Come into my heart. 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