Learn To Love Well

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He said, I 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:12.840 pray that your love would abound in knowledge and depth 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:17.639 of insight. His prayer to the Philippian Church was this. 0:02:18.360 --> 0:02:20.760 I want you to agree with me. That's why I'm 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:27.240 sending you this letter, that your love would grow, increase multiply. 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:29.160 Now, let me tell you something. 0:02:29.200 --> 0:02:33.320 He wasn't writing this letter to them because he had 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:39.359 noticed in his visits that they weren't people of love historically, 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:43.919 they were people who loved. But he was saying to them, 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:47.239 this is such an important prayer because your love has 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:51.200 so much potential to go so much further and build 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:54.720 such a greater foundation in your life. 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:56.720 He was saying, agree every. 0:02:56.560 --> 0:02:59.839 Day with me, as I pray for you, that your 0:03:00.480 --> 0:03:03.840 will reach its fullest. You see, that's what we need 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:08.000 to pray every single day. God, would your love abound 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:12.120 in me more and more in depth and insight and 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:14.079 knowledge and wisdom. 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:14.800 You see. 0:03:14.800 --> 0:03:20.080 We have to learn to love well because the way 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:24.360 we love, how we show our love, the mercy we give, 0:03:24.560 --> 0:03:30.480 the grace we extend. You see, it's a direct impact 0:03:30.800 --> 0:03:33.640 on our own life. The way we love has a 0:03:33.720 --> 0:03:38.880 direct impact on our own life. We need to learn 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:43.640 to love well. We can't just put our love on autopolts. 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:47.160 We can't just push it, you know, on cruise control. 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:49.160 Let's just say that, because we all have a cruise 0:03:49.160 --> 0:03:50.360 control on our car. 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:52.760 We set the speed and go. 0:03:53.600 --> 0:03:56.840 We can't just set the speed and allow it to 0:03:56.880 --> 0:04:01.960 say stay the same all the time, every situation. We 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:06.240 have got to understand that our love has to mature, 0:04:06.640 --> 0:04:09.320 it has to develop, and it has to grow. And 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:11.640 in order for it to do that, we have to 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:16.039 make a commitment to love, because it's all about commitment, 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:17.760 focus and determination. 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:19.680 I mean, why do you pray? 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:23.920 You pray because you want something to change, you're committed 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:26.840 to it. You pray because you know God has your 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:28.440 answer and that if you'll. 0:04:28.320 --> 0:04:30.080 Give it to him, he'll help you. 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:34.360 So we can't just set our love once and keep 0:04:34.400 --> 0:04:36.320 it set at that same speed. 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:37.080 You know. 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:39.039 I heard this woman. I heard a story about this 0:04:39.080 --> 0:04:42.000 woman who was talking to her husband and she said 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:45.040 to him, honey, do you really love me? And he 0:04:45.080 --> 0:04:47.800 looked at her so strangely, and he said, why would 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:51.599 you ask me that question? He said, I told you 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:54.800 twenty five years ago when I married you that I 0:04:54.880 --> 0:04:58.000 loved you, and if it changes, I'll let you know. 0:05:00.400 --> 0:05:04.800 You see, that man had one speed. He didn't understand 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:06.880 that love grows. 0:05:07.720 --> 0:05:10.440 You See. It's interesting because as people. 0:05:10.160 --> 0:05:15.520 We evolve, we grow, we change, our situations change, things 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:18.840 in our life change. So we have to be willing 0:05:19.880 --> 0:05:25.560 to adapt our love to that change. We cannot just 0:05:26.080 --> 0:05:29.799 let it stay the same. I think about my children. 0:05:29.839 --> 0:05:33.599 When they were small, I'd scoop them up anytime I 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:36.200 wanted to. They could be walking across the floor and 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:38.000 I want to grab them and show them my love. 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:41.440 I just scoop them right up, Tickle their little bellies, 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:44.960 you know, just cuddle with them, poke little food in 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:47.360 their mouth, you know, all those things you do to babies, 0:05:47.400 --> 0:05:52.000 and they can't do anything about it. It's so fun 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:55.000 and you're showing your affection, you're showing your love, and 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:59.279 you're showing your joy. But now my children are grown, 0:06:00.680 --> 0:06:04.200 I can't cuddle them, poke food in their mouths, tickle 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:09.279 their bellies. No, they're adults. I have to understand. My 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:13.440 love has to adapt and grow to who they are. 0:06:14.080 --> 0:06:16.800 If I want to grow with them, I'm going. 0:06:16.760 --> 0:06:20.080 To have to make some changes. Yes, I wish they 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:23.200 stay babies forever. Yes, I wish I could show them 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:26.440 the same love. I would love to say, just put 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:30.479 that on cruise control and let it happen. But life changes, 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:36.760 we change, we evolve, and our love must be willing 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:41.080 to evolve. I study my children now, I let them 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:46.279 have an opinion. I adapt to their abilities. I try 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:50.840 to find ways to communicate with them in a better way, 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:55.600 a way that will enrich our lives and our relationship. 0:06:56.120 --> 0:07:00.400 I want insight to who they are and what I 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:03.279 can do to serve them well with my love. 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:10.960 You see, you adapt love is smart. That's what Paul 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:11.640 was saying. 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:14.120 He said, I pray that your love would grow in 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:19.280 abound in knowledge and depth of insight. Your love should 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:25.120 have wisdom. Your love should see beyond the superficial. 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:29.720 It should see beyond what's happening right now. 0:07:29.920 --> 0:07:33.520 Our love should not be limited to the love we're receiving. 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:37.200 We can't just set a standard. If you give me love, 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:38.080 I'll give you love. 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:42.800 That's not building that foundation that God wants to build 0:07:42.800 --> 0:07:46.520 in us. Can I tell you when we decide we're 0:07:46.560 --> 0:07:49.040 going to be the person that comes up higher, We're 0:07:49.080 --> 0:07:52.720 going to be the person that loves in spite of 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:56.120 how someone is showing us love. It does something to 0:07:56.160 --> 0:08:01.200 the inside of you. It strengthens your resolve. It causes 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:04.520 you to be able to be better. 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:07.040 And you know what, how many of you want to 0:08:07.040 --> 0:08:07.960 get better in here? 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:12.880 I know I do. I long to get better. We 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:15.560 kind of be smart with our love. We can't be 0:08:15.680 --> 0:08:21.320 reckless and careless. Can I tell you something. Love doesn't 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:25.320 wait for things to happen. Love doesn't just hang around waiting. 0:08:26.240 --> 0:08:28.120 Love makes stuff happen. 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:36.760 Love bills relationships, Love serves, Love gives. Love just doesn't 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:40.840 give what it wants to give. Love is willing to 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:45.960 look into a situation and give what the situation is 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:50.520 in need of. Love is smart. I want that. I 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:52.079 want to get up every morning and. 0:08:52.080 --> 0:08:55.400 Agree with Paul. I'm agreeing with that prayer. 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:58.800 Anytime you see a prayer in the Bible, like Paul said, 0:08:58.840 --> 0:09:02.440 he said, I'm rightaing to you because I am praying 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:06.800 this for you. Basically, find those things in the Bible, 0:09:07.160 --> 0:09:10.640 get in contact with them, get an agreement with them, 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:12.439 pray them over yourself. 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:17.280 They have so much truth. The way we show love, 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:19.960 it's going to impact our life. 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:23.120 It's thirty years Joel and I have been studying each 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:24.680 other and adapting to one another. 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:28.560 We've made love happen. We haven't waited for it to happen. 0:09:29.720 --> 0:09:34.360 You know, love it's a feeling, but love is also 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:35.200 an action. 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:40.960 That feeling can either grow or that feeling can fizzle out. 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:45.400 I want my love to grow into a bound. 0:09:45.640 --> 0:09:49.199 I want it to produce, because that's what love does, 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:53.280 That's what God love does. It produces good fruit in 0:09:53.320 --> 0:09:56.320 your life. Can I tell you something, You will eat 0:09:56.720 --> 0:10:00.400 of the fruit that you produce. We're not going to 0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:04.080 be able to eat fruit that you don't produce. You 0:10:04.120 --> 0:10:08.840 can eat only from the fruit that you produce, just 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:12.960 like you can't drink out of an empty glass. You know, 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:15.120 some of you are saying to me, Victoria, I have 0:10:15.280 --> 0:10:19.240 loved and loved and loved, and I'm not getting love back. 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:22.560 Then I have to tell you something. You're drinking from 0:10:22.600 --> 0:10:26.440 an empty glass. And the reason I can say that is, 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:32.319 in reality, the only way that we can love is to. 0:10:32.400 --> 0:10:35.960 Allow the love of God in us first. That is 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:38.640 the only way that we can love. 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:47.080 We don't have the potential in our human ability alone 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:50.839 to love. We may be able to try to love, 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:55.079 but we don't have the capacity to love on our own. 0:10:55.559 --> 0:10:59.880 In fact, Jesus told the Pharisees this in Matthew two. 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:03.160 They said, Jesus, what's the greatest command in the Law 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:07.160 of Moses? And he said, the greatest and first command 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:10.240 the command that you should keep the most the one 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:13.520 that is the most important is this love the Lord, 0:11:13.600 --> 0:11:16.920 your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:19.640 and with all of your strength. 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:22.680 See, they wanted to keep the law. 0:11:23.360 --> 0:11:25.840 They thought if they could keep the law, they would 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:29.480 be right with God. And Jesus was saying this. He 0:11:29.559 --> 0:11:32.880 was saying, you can't keep the law by yourself. You 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:36.839 can't do it by yourself. You need a savior. That's 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:40.000 why I'm here to keep the continual. 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:42.120 Flow of love coming. 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:48.080 Listen, when my love tanks low, I'm trying to drink 0:11:48.120 --> 0:11:49.559 out of an empty glass. 0:11:49.880 --> 0:11:53.920 There is a source of love that never runs dry. 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:58.160 And it's the Lord Jesus Christ. It's God, the Father. 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:03.319 He is love. The Bible says he is love. 0:12:03.360 --> 0:12:05.960 When you come to him, you are coming to love. 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:09.360 I think about the woman at the well. There's a 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:12.360 story in the Bible, and Jesus met this woman at 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:16.400 the well, a Samaritan woman, and he was talking to her. 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:17.880 She was coming to. 0:12:17.840 --> 0:12:20.200 Fill her jug up of water so she would have 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:24.280 sufficient water for the day. And he told her something 0:12:24.720 --> 0:12:28.199 very insightful. He says, you drink water. 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:32.680 That will go away. You will thirst again with the 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:33.960 water that you drink. 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:38.720 He was saying, what you have will not last, but 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:42.240 he says, if you receive what I have, I have 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:45.760 water that will cause you to never be thirsty again. 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:52.040 I have a flow of living water, of living love. 0:12:53.320 --> 0:12:55.120 That will fill you up. 0:12:56.760 --> 0:13:01.240 That's the only way this love that is talking about 0:13:01.520 --> 0:13:02.240 can abound. 0:13:03.160 --> 0:13:03.240 You. 0:13:03.320 --> 0:13:06.600 See, if you want good relationships, if you want your 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:10.840 life impacted, you got to come to God. You got 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:13.439 to let him transform you. You got to let that 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:17.040 foundation of love be built in you. And then as 0:13:17.080 --> 0:13:21.120 you release that love, there'll be a flow of love. 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:23.920 That'll strengthen you and it'll continue. 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:27.640 It's interesting because the Pharisees just asked him what the 0:13:27.679 --> 0:13:31.160 first commandment was, but he went ahead and told them 0:13:31.400 --> 0:13:33.920 what the second one was. And he said, let me 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:36.320 tell you what the second one is. And it's the 0:13:36.360 --> 0:13:42.400 same as the first. Love your neighbor as yourself. What 0:13:42.520 --> 0:13:44.760 he was saying, if you get the first part of 0:13:44.800 --> 0:13:48.120 the equation right, the second part of the equation will 0:13:48.160 --> 0:13:49.200 come much easier. 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:52.079 Do you want to agree with me as I agree 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:57.800 with Paul that this love of God would just abound, abound, abound. 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:03.280 It wouldn't depend on our outer circumstances, but it would 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:05.720 depend on what's going on in the inside of us 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:10.240 the well that we're connected to, the one with living love. 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:13.920 We want to pray for us right now, Father, I 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:17.480 just thank you, just as Paul prayed, we come into 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:21.960 agreement with that prayer, that Father, our love would increase 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:26.120 in abound, in knowledge and depth of insight. That God, 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:29.720 we aren't superficial in our love, but it runs deep, 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:33.720 It has roots, It is full of wisdom and knowledge. 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:37.960 It adapts and it adjusts, and it brings us good fruit. 0:14:38.600 --> 0:14:40.160 Father, I thank you that. 0:14:40.200 --> 0:14:43.760 Every day we'll fill our spicot with the living love, 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:47.800 the living water that causes us to be able to 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:52.040 abound and to release it to the people around us. Father, 0:14:52.120 --> 0:14:55.120 we thank you that you are love and that you 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:57.360 love us with an everlasting love. 0:14:57.920 --> 0:15:00.080 Father. 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