Kiss It Goodbye

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See terms and conditions at UNEs 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:30.080 dot co. 0:01:31.080 --> 0:01:34.800 Hi, this is Joel and Victoria. Thanks for downloading our podcast. 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:37.880 We enjoy spending this time with you. I hope you'll 0:01:37.959 --> 0:01:38.679 leave Inspire. 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:41.959 Make sure you subscribe to get new messages every week. 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:45.199 We appreciate your support. It helps keep the ministry going. 0:01:45.640 --> 0:01:56.880 Enjoy the message. 0:01:58.440 --> 0:02:00.640 Well, God bless you joy. 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:02.720 To come into your homes and if you're ever in 0:02:02.760 --> 0:02:05.480 our area, please stop by be a part of one 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:06.360 of our services. 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:09.120 I promise you we'll make you feel right at home. 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:12.000 I like to start with something funny, and I heard 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:15.239 about this senior citizen. He was driving down the freeway 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:19.160 in his brand new Corvette with the top down, going 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:22.960 eighty miles an hour when he saw flashing red lights 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:26.040 in his rear view mirror from a state trooper. Without 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:28.560 thinking about it, he floored it. Took it up to 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:31.839 one hundred miles an hour. He heard the sirens behind him, 0:02:31.960 --> 0:02:35.400 finally came to his senses and pulled over. He said, Officer, 0:02:35.520 --> 0:02:38.160 I am so sorry. I don't know what I was thinking. 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:42.320 The trooper said, listen, it's Friday, four o'clock. My shift 0:02:42.360 --> 0:02:44.799 is over in thirty minutes. If you tell me a 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:46.960 reason why you were speeding that. 0:02:46.960 --> 0:02:49.000 I've never heard before, I'll let you go. 0:02:49.680 --> 0:02:52.160 The man thought about it and said, Officer, years ago, 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:55.280 my wife ran off with a state trooper, and I 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:59.640 thought you were bringing her back. The officer said, have 0:02:59.720 --> 0:03:02.920 a great We can say it like you mean it. 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:06.160 This is my Bible. I am what it says I am. 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:08.920 I have what it says I have. I can do 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:11.640 what it says I can do. Today I will be 0:03:11.720 --> 0:03:15.520 taught the word of God. I boldly confess. My mind 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:18.840 is alert, my heart is receptive. I will never be 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:23.639 the same. In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want 0:03:23.639 --> 0:03:27.160 to talk to you today about kiss it goodbye. There's 0:03:27.200 --> 0:03:31.160 a lady in the scripture named Naomi. She left Bethlehem 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:35.080 with her husband and two sons because of a famine. 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:38.200 They moved to the city of Moab. They had plenty 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:43.160 of food. Life was good until her husband unexpectedly died. 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:47.160 She never dreamed she'd be a widow. Ten years later, 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:50.840 both of her grown sons passed away, and she was 0:03:50.880 --> 0:03:54.520 so discouraged she decided to move back home to Bethlehem. 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:59.000 She told her two daughters in law, Ruth and Orpah, 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:02.160 that they should moved back to their hometowns as well 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:05.680 and start a new life. Ruth said, no, Naomi, I'm 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:08.600 staying with you. I'm going to Bethlehem to help take 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:12.400 care of you. The other daughter in law, Orpah, took 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:14.840 her advice and said she was going to leave and 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:18.880 move back home. You would think Naomi would have been 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:22.960 a little sour and thought, after all I've done for you, Orpah, 0:04:23.360 --> 0:04:25.160 you're going to leave me now. 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:26.400 At my lowest moment. 0:04:26.960 --> 0:04:29.920 You can go get remarried, you can find another job. 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:32.680 I'm an old lady who's going to take care of me. 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:38.360 She could have felt betrayed insulted. Instead, the scripture says 0:04:38.760 --> 0:04:45.880 Naomi kissed Orpa goodbye. Orpah represented the broken dreams, the hurts, 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:51.039 the disappointments, the things she didn't understand. Naomi was saying 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:54.600 by that kiss, life has thrown me a curve. It 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:57.000 hasn't been fair, but I'm at peace. 0:04:57.480 --> 0:04:59.240 I know God is still in control. 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:02.520 And if you're going to reach your destiny, you have 0:05:02.600 --> 0:05:06.440 to learn to kiss things goodbye. You're not going to 0:05:06.560 --> 0:05:11.360 understand everything that happens. People may walk away, life may 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:14.320 not turn out the way you thought. It's easy to 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:18.359 get bitter, hold a grudge, lose your passion, or do 0:05:18.560 --> 0:05:22.839 like Naomi, kiss the bitterness goodbye. Kiss the person that 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:27.880 left you goodbye. Kiss the dream that didn't work out goodbye. 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:31.120 God wouldn't have allowed it to happen if he didn't have. 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:32.920 Something better up in front of you. 0:05:33.800 --> 0:05:37.520 But sometimes God will close the door. He'll move people 0:05:37.640 --> 0:05:42.480 out of your life. There are people and opportunities that 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:45.919 were ordained for your past that are not ordained for 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:46.640 your future. 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:50.920 They were right for a season, but that season can 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:51.839 come to an end. 0:05:52.480 --> 0:05:56.360 The key is how we handle the closed doors, how 0:05:56.400 --> 0:05:59.280 you handle the disappointments, how you handle. 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:00.680 The people that did you wrong. 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:05.800 Sometimes instead of kissing them goodbye, we smacked them goodbye, 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:08.880 good riddance. I didn't like you in the first place. 0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:11.239 Don't let the door hit you on the way out. 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:15.520 Naomi could have turned away angry, thought I'm not going 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:18.840 to kiss you. Orpah, some friends you are. That would 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:21.600 have kept her from the new things God had in store. 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:25.640 She moved back to Bethlehem with her daughter in law, Ruth. 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:30.279 Ruth married Boaz, a wealthy man that owned all the land. 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:34.200 They had a baby. Naomi took care of their son 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:36.200 like he was her own. 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:40.280 After all, she had been through, all the broken dreams, 0:06:40.320 --> 0:06:44.080 all the loss. While holding the little baby, Naomi said, 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:47.640 in effect, I never dreamed I could be this happy, 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:52.760 this fulfilled. Her latter days were better than her former days. 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:56.279 God knows how to give you beauty for ashes. He 0:06:56.400 --> 0:07:00.440 knows how to turn mourning into dancing. But it never 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:04.880 happened if she had not kissed or Pa goodbye. Are 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:07.960 you at peace with your past or are you bitter 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:08.880 over the loss? 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:11.680 Upset because your plans didn't work out. 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:16.080 Holding a grudge because that person walked away. It's time 0:07:16.480 --> 0:07:20.600 to kiss some things goodbye. Don't bring bitterness into a 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:24.000 new year. Don't bring self pity. A chip on your 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:27.400 shoulder that was in your past. It doesn't belong in 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:31.360 the future. You cannot embrace the new things God has 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:34.200 in store as long as you're holding on to the old. 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:36.480 My father went to be with. 0:07:36.480 --> 0:07:40.440 The Lord back in nineteen ninety nine, some twenty years ago, 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:41.600 I lost one. 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:42.440 Of my best friends. 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:46.000 I still miss him, but I realized the loss of 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:48.040 my father is in my past. 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:49.600 It's not in my future. 0:07:50.360 --> 0:07:53.320 If I would have brought all the hurt, the questions, 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:56.920 the self pity, I wouldn't be where I am. You 0:07:57.000 --> 0:08:00.760 won't have the strength to move forward if you're over 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:04.360 what's behind. Takes a lot of energy to think about 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:08.520 the past, relive the hurts, wonder why it didn't work out. 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:12.440 That person you lost, If they were supposed to be here, 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:16.160 they would still be here. If somebody left you, I 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:17.760 say it respectfully, you. 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:19.040 Don't need them. 0:08:19.280 --> 0:08:21.600 If it didn't work out the way you had planned, 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:25.720 it wasn't supposed to. God's ways are not our ways. 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:29.600 Will you trust him when it doesn't make sense. Start 0:08:29.720 --> 0:08:33.840 kissing things goodbye. You spent enough energy on the past 0:08:34.000 --> 0:08:38.920 that doesn't take you anywhere. Kiss that disappointment goodbye. That 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:42.520 door didn't close by accident. God is directing your steps. 0:08:43.080 --> 0:08:45.520 It was either not the right time or because he 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:48.840 has something better. A friend of mine owned a very 0:08:48.880 --> 0:08:50.119 successful business. 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:51.120 For years. 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:53.560 He was a leader in his field and saw all 0:08:53.679 --> 0:08:57.320 kinds of growth and increase. He had big dreams to 0:08:57.400 --> 0:09:00.800 leave his company to his children to continue the legacy. 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:04.959 After twenty five years, things started to slow down. The 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:09.720 competition around him increased, so he started working harder, going 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:10.480 in earlier. 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:13.239 I would call him and he was meeting. 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:16.319 With staff at six in the morning. He was determined 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:19.959 to make it work. He did everything he possibly could. 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:24.600 But God is called the Alpha and the omega, the 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:29.199 beginning and the end. We get excited about the beginning, 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:32.240 talk a lot about God doing a new thing, but 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:35.720 we don't hear a lot about the omega the end. 0:09:36.280 --> 0:09:40.240 But just as God opens doors, sometimes God will close 0:09:40.280 --> 0:09:40.640 the door. 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:42.600 He'll bring things to an end. 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.880 And this can be hard for us because it feels 0:09:45.920 --> 0:09:48.800 like a setback, and after all the hard work. 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:51.160 My friend's company didn't make it. 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:54.720 He was so discouraged for several months he would hardly 0:09:54.760 --> 0:09:56.120 talk on the phone. 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:58.280 He told me how he felt like a failure. 0:09:58.800 --> 0:10:01.560 He had all these plans, but it didn't work out 0:10:01.600 --> 0:10:04.520 the way he thought. Now I told him what I'm 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:07.520 telling you. The best thing you can do is just 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:13.040 kiss it goodbye. Don't bring a failure from yesterday into today. 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:17.679 If one dream dies, get back up and dream another dream. 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:18.640 He got his. 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:22.840 Passion back and went out and started a consulting business. 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:25.520 All kinds of doors begin to open. 0:10:25.960 --> 0:10:30.640 Today he has more clients, more influence, more opportunities than 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:34.640 he's ever had. His new company is many times more 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:39.000 successful than his own. When life doesn't turn out the 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:43.040 way you thought, remind yourself God is still in control, 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:47.480 and instead of being sour losing your joy, kiss the 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:49.119 disappointment goodbye. 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:51.280 Quit reliving mistakes. 0:10:51.320 --> 0:10:54.360 You've made, things that you wish you would have done different, 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:58.160 wondering why it didn't work out. Like my friend, you 0:10:58.240 --> 0:11:01.240 may have done your best, given it your all, but 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:05.920 it didn't succeed. Accept it as God's plan and move on. 0:11:06.800 --> 0:11:10.400 Our attitude should be God, I trust you, not just 0:11:10.440 --> 0:11:14.320 with my successes. I trust you with my failures. I 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:16.880 trust you with the betrayals. I trust you with. 0:11:16.840 --> 0:11:18.320 The things that don't make sense. 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:23.120 When you kiss the past goodbye, it releases you into 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:23.800 your future. 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:27.600 You have to be at peace with what's behind you. 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:32.320 It's not enough to just move forward, angry, bitter, mad 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:37.960 at God. That's why Naomi kissed Orpah. It was symbolizing 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:39.319 this is painful. 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:43.160 I don't like it. I feel betrayed, but I'm at peace. 0:11:43.920 --> 0:11:48.120 Takes maturity to kiss things that don't feel good. This 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:51.280 is what the prophet Samuel had to do. He spent 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:55.319 years mentoring a young man named Saul. He took him 0:11:55.360 --> 0:11:57.960 under his wing, and he trained him to become the 0:11:58.000 --> 0:12:02.120 next king of Israel. You can imagine how proud Samuel 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:05.800 was when he saw this young man, now grown and 0:12:05.920 --> 0:12:10.240 leading the Israelites. Everyone looked up to King Saul. He 0:12:10.320 --> 0:12:13.480 was tall and handsome, he looked like a king. But 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:15.920 over time Saul got off course. 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:17.760 He made poor decisions. 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:23.880 He eventually lost the throne. Samuel was so disappointed. He thought, God, 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:26.960 I put all this time and energy into him. I've 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:29.920 invested my life, and it seems like it was all 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:31.719 a big waste. 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:32.480 You would think. 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:35.800 God would say, I understand Samuel, too bad it didn't 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:39.760 work out, But God didn't let him feel sorry for himself. 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:44.080 He said, Samuel, how long are you going to mourn over? 0:12:44.160 --> 0:12:44.480 Saul? 0:12:45.280 --> 0:12:48.360 God is asking us, how long are you going to 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:51.679 mourn over what you've lost? How long are you going 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:54.719 to be discouraged over who hurts you and what you 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:58.600 didn't get and the boss that wasn't fair. I don't 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:02.280 believe in giving people the right to feel sorry for themselves, 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:05.720 not because they don't have a good reason. Some people 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:08.640 have gone through things that nobody should have to go through. 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:12.840 But I've learned if you stay in self pity with 0:13:12.960 --> 0:13:15.840 a chip on your shoulder, thinking you have a reason 0:13:15.920 --> 0:13:21.079 to live defeated, you will never see the vindication, the restoration, 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:25.480 the promotion, the favor that belongs to you. God wants 0:13:25.520 --> 0:13:26.199 to pay you. 0:13:26.280 --> 0:13:30.240 Back for what was unfair. Don't sit around in self pity. 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:35.200 Kiss the bad break, Goodbye, kiss the unfair childhood, Goodbye, 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:36.720 kiss that injustice. 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:37.680 Goodbye. 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:42.240 God told Samuel, fill your horn with oil. I am 0:13:42.320 --> 0:13:45.400 sending you to the house of Jesse. I have chosen 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:48.800 one of his sons as the next king. God was 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:53.680 saying Samuel. If you'll kiss this disappointment goodbye and start 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:57.760 moving forward, I'll show you the new King. One of 0:13:57.800 --> 0:14:01.199 your dreams may have died, that did stop God's plan. 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:02.920 He has another dream. 0:14:03.520 --> 0:14:06.959 One relationship may not have worked out. If you'll kiss 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:10.960 goodbye the old, God will show you the new. David 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:13.880 went on to become the greatest king that ever lived. 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:17.600 When God makes up for what you lost, it's not 0:14:17.679 --> 0:14:18.680 going to be less than. 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:21.480 It's not going to be equal. It's going to be better. 0:14:22.280 --> 0:14:24.800 Just because it hasn't turned out the way you thought 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:28.640 doesn't mean you have to settle for second best. God 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:31.160 has to come up with a plan be God already 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:34.360 knew what would happen. He knew every door that would close, 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:36.480 he knew every person that would walk away. 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:39.560 He knew how you'd spend time and energy. But a 0:14:39.680 --> 0:14:40.960 dream not come to pass. 0:14:41.720 --> 0:14:44.920 All that is getting you prepared for where God has 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:45.520 taken you. 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:46.280 Now. 0:14:46.360 --> 0:14:51.240 Don't get stuck mourning over Saul, disappointed over a bad break, 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:56.160 bitter because of a loss, Kiss it goodbye, Move forward. 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:58.720 And you will see your David's You will see more 0:14:58.760 --> 0:14:59.960 than you can ask or think. 0:15:01.120 --> 0:15:03.640 When we were trying to buy property to build a 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:08.120 new sanctuary. Twice the land we found was sold out 0:15:08.120 --> 0:15:11.160 from under us. We had an appointment at eight o'clock 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:14.400 in the morning to close on the first property. We 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:17.720 showed up at seven forty five. The secretary walked out 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:21.120 and said, I'm sorry, the owner sold the property last night. 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:23.840 I couldn't believe that he didn't keep his word. 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:27.720 I went home so disappointed, and I told Victoria what 0:15:27.920 --> 0:15:31.040 happened and how we didn't have the property, and how 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:33.760 we'd never be able to build, how we were stuck, 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:37.000 how we couldn't keep growing. I had a sad song, 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:40.080 and I thought I was convincing. She looked at me 0:15:40.120 --> 0:15:42.840 and said, Joel, God is still on the throne. 0:15:43.240 --> 0:15:44.960 This is not a surprise to him. 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:48.240 We are going to stay in faith and believe something 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:49.200 better is coming. 0:15:50.000 --> 0:15:51.040 I didn't want to hear that. 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:55.160 I wanted to feel sorry for myself. The flesh likes 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:57.920 to have a pity party. She was telling me what 0:15:57.960 --> 0:15:59.400 I'm telling you, kiss. 0:15:59.120 --> 0:16:00.680 It goodbye forward. 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:04.960 When things happen like that that you don't understand, you 0:16:05.040 --> 0:16:08.320 can be sure God is up to something. He is 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:09.960 working behind the scenes. 0:16:10.520 --> 0:16:10.600 Now. 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:13.600 I came back to a place of peace. I knew. 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:17.040 If God wanted us to have that property, no person 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:20.720 could have stopped us. And just the opposite, If God 0:16:20.840 --> 0:16:24.960 doesn't want us to have something, all of our efforts won't. 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:28.440 Make it happen. He's the Alpha and the Omega. 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:32.040 He knows how to not only open doors that no 0:16:32.160 --> 0:16:35.520 man can shut, he knows how to close doors that 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:36.760 no man can open. 0:16:37.720 --> 0:16:41.160 Are you upset over a door? God closed people? 0:16:41.200 --> 0:16:43.800 He moved out of your life, a dream he didn't 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:47.760 let come to pass. Yet six months later we received 0:16:47.800 --> 0:16:51.960 word that the Compact Center was coming available. Right then 0:16:52.120 --> 0:16:55.920 I knew why those doors closed. Buying property would have 0:16:55.960 --> 0:17:00.560 been second best. That would have been keeping solved. Center 0:17:00.760 --> 0:17:04.920 is David more than we can imagine. I'm asking you 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:08.960 to be at peace with your past, Peace with things 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:10.080 you don't understand. 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:13.840 Not bitter, not angry, not with a chip on your shoulder. 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:18.000 Maybe you didn't have a good childhood. Nobody was there 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:21.000 to speak faith into you. God knew how you would 0:17:21.040 --> 0:17:24.440 be raised. That's not going to keep you from your destiny. 0:17:24.720 --> 0:17:28.600 It's leading you to your destiny. Kiss it goodbye and 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:32.520 move forward. You can't become who you were created to 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:35.680 be with a chip on your shoulder, thinking that you're 0:17:35.720 --> 0:17:36.960 at a disadvantage. 0:17:37.440 --> 0:17:40.640 If you'll take the hand you've been dealt and make the. 0:17:40.560 --> 0:17:43.720 Most of it, God will open doors you couldn't open. 0:17:44.119 --> 0:17:46.840 His favor on your life will take you where you 0:17:46.880 --> 0:17:50.159 couldn't go on your own. Why don't you kiss the 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:56.560 self pity goodbye, Kiss that condescending spirit, goodbye, Kiss always 0:17:56.600 --> 0:17:57.480 having to be right? 0:17:57.600 --> 0:17:58.199 Goodbye. 0:17:58.920 --> 0:18:01.440 Don't bring a bad ass attitude into a new year 0:18:02.119 --> 0:18:03.240 being sarcastic. 0:18:03.840 --> 0:18:04.760 Some people can. 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:09.000 Wear designer clothes, put on makeup, have nice hair. They 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:12.800 look great on the outside. The problem is none of 0:18:12.840 --> 0:18:15.240 that can cover up what's on the inside. 0:18:15.680 --> 0:18:17.040 If we would work half. 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:20.200 As much on the inside as we do the outside, 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:24.360 we'd be much better off. But if you don't kiss 0:18:24.400 --> 0:18:27.719 a bad attitude goodbye, the problem is you'll be at 0:18:27.760 --> 0:18:30.520 the same place next year as you are right now. 0:18:31.160 --> 0:18:34.960 And sometimes we're waiting for God to change things. God 0:18:35.160 --> 0:18:38.760 is waiting for us to make a decision. You have 0:18:38.840 --> 0:18:41.080 to put your foot down and say, I am not 0:18:41.359 --> 0:18:45.000 coming into a new year with old thinking. I am 0:18:45.119 --> 0:18:48.800 kissing the chip on my shoulder goodbye. I am kissing 0:18:48.840 --> 0:18:53.160 the guilt goodbye. I'm kissing a barely get by mentality. 0:18:53.240 --> 0:18:57.000 Goodbye. When you kiss it, this means in your mind 0:18:57.160 --> 0:18:58.440 you're putting an endo it. 0:18:59.119 --> 0:19:03.320 You're saying this addiction is not going to control me anymore. 0:19:03.560 --> 0:19:05.119 I am free. 0:19:05.200 --> 0:19:07.880 Well you've made a lot of mistakes, yes, but I've 0:19:07.960 --> 0:19:11.959 kissed them goodbye. I am not living in regrets, beating 0:19:12.000 --> 0:19:15.600 myself up. I am forgiven, i am redeemed. I'm wearing 0:19:15.600 --> 0:19:17.159 a robe of righteousness. 0:19:17.840 --> 0:19:20.920 Well, you've always been in dysfunction. That's how you were raised. 0:19:20.920 --> 0:19:23.680 You've always been hot tempered, you've always been angry. 0:19:23.880 --> 0:19:26.160 Yes, that's how I was raised. 0:19:26.240 --> 0:19:29.840 But that's not who I am. I'm kissing that goodbye. 0:19:29.920 --> 0:19:33.200 I'm putting an end to what's been passed down. I'm 0:19:33.280 --> 0:19:37.440 breaking the generational curse and I'm starting the generational blessing. 0:19:39.040 --> 0:19:42.960 You need to announce to that dysfunction. You may have 0:19:43.080 --> 0:19:46.600 been in my twenty eighteen, but I have bad news. 0:19:46.760 --> 0:19:48.520 You are not in my twenty nineteen. 0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:55.960 Mediocrity, depression, bitterness, anger. I'm kissing you goodbye. I won't 0:19:55.960 --> 0:19:59.760 be seeing you this year. We are parting ways. Hate 0:19:59.760 --> 0:20:02.440 tous say it. Not gonna miss you, see you, not 0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:05.560 gonna be your kiss loneliness. 0:20:05.600 --> 0:20:06.520 Goodbye, Father. 0:20:06.680 --> 0:20:10.880 Thank you that you have somebody awesome already headed my way. 0:20:11.160 --> 0:20:13.960 Thank you that the right person is chasing me down. 0:20:14.760 --> 0:20:19.679 Goodbye lack struggle, not having enough. You were in my yesterday, 0:20:19.960 --> 0:20:21.720 but sorry you're not in my today. 0:20:22.040 --> 0:20:24.359 Father. Thank you that I will lend and not borrow. 0:20:24.760 --> 0:20:27.560 Thank you that whatever I touch will prosper and succeed. 0:20:28.280 --> 0:20:30.959 Maybe you need to kiss goodbye to the way you 0:20:31.000 --> 0:20:37.560 see yourself inferior, unattractive, not a good personality, not talented enough. 0:20:38.040 --> 0:20:41.000 Kiss that wrong self image. Goodbye. 0:20:41.080 --> 0:20:46.520 Victory starts in your thinking, abundance, health, freedom, It starts. 0:20:46.119 --> 0:20:46.800 In our mind. 0:20:47.520 --> 0:20:51.119 You can't think the same way and expect different results. 0:20:51.800 --> 0:20:56.320 Start embracing who God says you are. You are fearfully 0:20:56.440 --> 0:21:00.399 and wonderfully made. You are a masterpiece. You have been 0:21:00.480 --> 0:21:04.760 crowned with favor. You have royal blood flowing through your veins. 0:21:05.320 --> 0:21:08.920 Nobody in this world has your same fingerprints. You didn't 0:21:08.960 --> 0:21:12.080 come off an assembly line. You are an original, one 0:21:12.160 --> 0:21:15.399 of a kind maid in the image of Almighty God. 0:21:16.880 --> 0:21:20.000 I wonder where you could be at this time next 0:21:20.080 --> 0:21:25.919 year if you'd start kissing things. Goodbye, kiss the offense, goodbye, 0:21:26.560 --> 0:21:30.040 quit letting people hurt your feelings. Quit letting what they 0:21:30.080 --> 0:21:31.440 say ruin your day. 0:21:31.760 --> 0:21:34.800 Tune it out. They have a right to say what 0:21:34.880 --> 0:21:35.399 they want. 0:21:35.760 --> 0:21:38.640 You have a right to ignore it. You shouldn't let 0:21:38.680 --> 0:21:42.159 that get down in your spirit. Well, Joe, I'm praying 0:21:42.160 --> 0:21:44.840 that these people at work will quit talking about me. 0:21:45.480 --> 0:21:47.880 I don't want to discourage you, but they may never 0:21:48.000 --> 0:21:51.520 quit talking about you. They are jealous of the favor 0:21:51.680 --> 0:21:55.639 and blessing on your life. Take it as a compliment. 0:21:56.800 --> 0:22:00.600 They don't talk about average people. They talk about acception people. 0:22:01.280 --> 0:22:03.960 They don't talk about people that aren't doing anything. They 0:22:04.000 --> 0:22:06.840 talk about people that are taking new ground, people that 0:22:06.920 --> 0:22:07.560 are making. 0:22:07.359 --> 0:22:09.560 A difference, people that stand out. 0:22:09.920 --> 0:22:13.439 It's a test God is seeing if you're ready to 0:22:13.560 --> 0:22:16.360 go to the next level. Are you going to get 0:22:16.440 --> 0:22:19.520 upset start thinking about how you're going to pay them back, 0:22:20.080 --> 0:22:23.400 or are you going to kiss it goodbye and keep 0:22:23.480 --> 0:22:28.560 running your race, enjoying your life. Those adversaries are getting 0:22:28.640 --> 0:22:33.080 you prepared for your destiny. Where you're going, there will 0:22:33.119 --> 0:22:37.240 be opposition, critics, people trying to pull you down. The 0:22:37.280 --> 0:22:40.920 good news is no weapon formed against you will prosper. 0:22:41.240 --> 0:22:43.800 They cannot stop you. The forces that. 0:22:43.760 --> 0:22:46.719 Are for you are greater than the forces that are 0:22:46.760 --> 0:22:51.000 against you. Stay on the high road and stay focused 0:22:51.080 --> 0:22:54.080 on what God has put in your heart. You don't 0:22:54.119 --> 0:22:57.560 have time to get distracted by all the negative chatter. 0:22:58.320 --> 0:23:01.400 What people think about you is none of your business. 0:23:01.960 --> 0:23:05.960 What they're saying shouldn't concern you. There'll always be somebody 0:23:05.960 --> 0:23:07.000 that doesn't like you. 0:23:07.240 --> 0:23:09.520 Kiss it goodbye and keep moving forward. 0:23:10.600 --> 0:23:15.040 Now, there may be some relationships you need to kiss goodbye. 0:23:15.160 --> 0:23:18.080 And I'm not talking about your husband or your wife. 0:23:18.760 --> 0:23:21.360 Somebody just thought they got their word for twenty nineteen. 0:23:22.680 --> 0:23:27.080 Your time is too valuable to spend it with peace stealers, 0:23:27.600 --> 0:23:30.399 people that try to get you all riled up, or 0:23:30.440 --> 0:23:34.040 with dream killers, people that tell you what you can't become, 0:23:34.480 --> 0:23:37.600 or with compromisers, people that cause you to give in 0:23:37.640 --> 0:23:38.320 to temptation. 0:23:39.280 --> 0:23:41.200 Joel, I've had this friend a long time. 0:23:41.320 --> 0:23:43.480 If I don't hang out with them, they may get upset. 0:23:44.359 --> 0:23:47.800 What you're unwilling to walk away from is where you'll 0:23:47.840 --> 0:23:52.080 get stuck. If you don't kiss the wrong people goodbye, 0:23:52.160 --> 0:23:55.199 you'll never meet the right people. And if someone is 0:23:55.240 --> 0:23:58.800 not adding value to your life, making you better, pushing 0:23:58.840 --> 0:24:01.959 you toward your destiny, you need to make a change 0:24:02.240 --> 0:24:05.600 and sometimes it's just a new season. The friends you 0:24:05.720 --> 0:24:08.840 had five years ago may not be the friends you 0:24:08.920 --> 0:24:13.720 need now. Everybody can't go where you're going. It doesn't 0:24:13.720 --> 0:24:17.600 mean they're not good people. You've just outgrown them. You're 0:24:17.680 --> 0:24:21.600 going at a faster pace. If you continue hanging around them, 0:24:21.880 --> 0:24:24.960 it will limit your growth. You need to gradually spend 0:24:25.000 --> 0:24:29.040 less and less time with them. Naomi's daughter in law, Orpa, 0:24:29.359 --> 0:24:33.040 she was a good person. Naomi loved her. They had 0:24:33.080 --> 0:24:38.240 spent years together. But Naomi recognized ORPA's part in her 0:24:38.359 --> 0:24:42.080 story was over. She didn't try to talk her into stay. 0:24:43.080 --> 0:24:45.960 If someone is supposed to be in your life, you 0:24:46.000 --> 0:24:50.440 can't make them leave. And if someone leaves easily, they're 0:24:50.440 --> 0:24:53.919 not supposed to be there. Quit trying to talk people 0:24:53.960 --> 0:24:57.680 into staying. You don't have to convince anyone to love you, 0:24:58.080 --> 0:25:01.480 to call you, to come see you. You are a gift, 0:25:02.000 --> 0:25:05.280 You are a prize, You have something amazing to offer. 0:25:05.560 --> 0:25:07.920 If they don't want to be there, that's a sure 0:25:08.000 --> 0:25:12.000 sign they're not supposed to be there. God has people 0:25:12.400 --> 0:25:16.840 already ordained that you can't make leave people that want 0:25:16.840 --> 0:25:19.760 to celebrate you, people that love spending time with you. 0:25:20.320 --> 0:25:23.200 If somebody wants to leave. Let them leave. 0:25:23.840 --> 0:25:27.240 Your destiny is not tied to the people that walked away. 0:25:27.760 --> 0:25:33.200 Be respectful, but kissed the orphers goodbye. God told Abraham 0:25:33.480 --> 0:25:36.520 to leave his relatives and move to a different city. 0:25:37.040 --> 0:25:40.280 I'm sure he loved his relatives. For a season, everything 0:25:40.400 --> 0:25:44.040 was fine. But when God was about to promote Abraham 0:25:44.359 --> 0:25:47.439 and do something big in his life, he knew his 0:25:47.560 --> 0:25:51.280 relatives and the people where he lived wouldn't be able 0:25:51.320 --> 0:25:55.320 to handle it. The people closest to you may not 0:25:55.560 --> 0:25:59.679 see the greatness in you when they're familiar. They can 0:25:59.720 --> 0:26:03.520 dis miss you as just being ordinary. And sometimes you 0:26:03.600 --> 0:26:07.120 have to kiss people goodbye so you can become all 0:26:07.200 --> 0:26:08.280 you were created to be. 0:26:09.160 --> 0:26:12.080 This is what my father had to do at seventeen. 0:26:12.480 --> 0:26:15.480 He knew he had more in him, but his parents 0:26:15.520 --> 0:26:18.040 told him to just stay on the farm and pick 0:26:18.080 --> 0:26:20.720 cotton with them the rest of his life. And they 0:26:20.760 --> 0:26:23.760 loved my father. They were trying to protect him, but 0:26:23.840 --> 0:26:24.720 they couldn't. 0:26:24.400 --> 0:26:26.440 See his seeds of greatness. 0:26:26.760 --> 0:26:29.320 They didn't see a man that would touch nations. They 0:26:29.400 --> 0:26:32.640 just saw their son, nothing special, He just one of us. 0:26:33.480 --> 0:26:37.760 My father very respectfully kissed them goodbye and went out 0:26:37.800 --> 0:26:41.880 and started ministering, God opened amazing doors, and he went 0:26:41.920 --> 0:26:45.560 on to leave his mark. Don't let people talk you 0:26:45.680 --> 0:26:48.600 out of what God put in your heart. When you 0:26:48.640 --> 0:26:50.919 come to the end of life, you're not going to 0:26:51.000 --> 0:26:53.679 have to stand before people and give an account. 0:26:53.840 --> 0:26:55.320 You're going to stand before God. 0:26:56.040 --> 0:27:00.200 And I would rather disappoint people than disappoint God. I 0:27:00.200 --> 0:27:03.280 would rather hurt a few feelings than to miss my destiny. 0:27:04.320 --> 0:27:06.920 Is there something you need to kiss goodbye? 0:27:07.359 --> 0:27:11.320 A hurt, a bad attitude, an area that you're compromising in. 0:27:11.880 --> 0:27:14.800 Don't bring it into a new year. That's in your past. 0:27:15.119 --> 0:27:18.639 Does it belong in your future? The apostle Paul said, 0:27:18.960 --> 0:27:23.159 forgetting what lies behind, I press to the high calling. 0:27:24.000 --> 0:27:27.199 If there's a high calling, that means there's a low calling. 0:27:27.920 --> 0:27:31.600 You can go through life holding onto hurts, wrong attitudes 0:27:31.840 --> 0:27:34.159 with people that are not good for you, but that 0:27:34.240 --> 0:27:37.560 will keep you from new levels, from the high calling 0:27:37.840 --> 0:27:42.560 that belongs to you. It's time to start kissing things goodbye. 0:27:42.760 --> 0:27:45.160 Kiss that failure, goodbye. 0:27:44.600 --> 0:27:46.040 This is a new day. 0:27:46.240 --> 0:27:50.840 Kiss guilt goodbye, you've been forgiven. Kiss the bad break goodbye. 0:27:51.000 --> 0:27:52.359 God has something better. 0:27:52.920 --> 0:27:56.600 If you'll do this, I believe and declare you're about 0:27:56.640 --> 0:27:59.639 to come into the high calling. New doors are going 0:27:59.680 --> 0:28:04.800 to open in new relationships, favor, healing, breakthroughs, the fullness 0:28:04.840 --> 0:28:08.640 of your destiny in Jesus' name, and if you receive it, 0:28:08.720 --> 0:28:10.240 can you say him in Today. 0:28:11.800 --> 0:28:14.480 I'd like to give you an opportunity to make. 0:28:14.440 --> 0:28:17.600 Jesus the Lord of your life. Would you pray with me? 0:28:18.200 --> 0:28:23.720 Just say, Lord, Jesus, I repent of my sins. Come 0:28:23.720 --> 0:28:29.159 into my heart. 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