Keeping Strife Out Of Your Life

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This is 0:01:27.800 --> 0:01:29.360 not an offer to buy your self securities, nor is 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:30.760 it investment, legal or tax advice. 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:33.959 Hi, this is Joel and Victoria. Thanks for listening to 0:01:34.000 --> 0:01:36.759 our podcast and thanks for supporting the ministry. 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:39.240 If you enjoy today's message, why don't you be a 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:40.800 blessing and share it with a friend. 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:43.840 We appreciate you and pray for God's very best in 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:48.040 your life. 0:01:55.640 --> 0:01:58.360 Oh God, bless you. It is always a joy to 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:01.480 come into your home that God has good things in 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:02.120 store for you. 0:02:02.440 --> 0:02:05.480 He rewards the people that seek after Him, and we 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:07.720 just counted an honor to spend this next half hour 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:08.520 or so with you. 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:10.040 So thanks for tuning in. 0:02:10.080 --> 0:02:12.120 And if you're ever in our area, I hope you'll 0:02:12.120 --> 0:02:14.400 stop by and be a part of one of our services. 0:02:14.560 --> 0:02:17.079 It's a lot better in person that it is on TV, 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:19.079 So come out and be a part of one of 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:20.800 these and we'd love to have you. But glad to 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:23.440 have you joining us by TV today. And I like 0:02:23.480 --> 0:02:25.400 to start with something funny each week. And I heard 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:28.240 about this pastor that was walking down the street and 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:30.960 he came upon this group of young boys that were 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:33.680 surrounding this little dog, and he asked them what they 0:02:33.680 --> 0:02:36.720 were doing, and they said, we're having a contest. Whoever 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:40.000 can tell the biggest lie can keep the dog. He 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:42.760 went into a ten minute sermon, beginning with don't you 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:45.919 know lying is a sin? And ending with when I 0:02:45.960 --> 0:02:47.800 was your age, I never told a lie. 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:49.600 There was complete silence. 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:51.840 Just when he thought he'd gotten through to them, the 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:53.440 youngest boy spoke up and said, all. 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:54.640 Right, give him the dog. 0:02:57.480 --> 0:02:59.480 All right, hold up your Bible. Say it like you 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:03.120 mean it. This is my Bible. I am what it says. 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:06.200 I am, I have what it says I have, I 0:03:06.240 --> 0:03:08.760 can do what it says I can do today. 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:10.560 I will be talked the word of God. 0:03:11.080 --> 0:03:15.799 I boldly confess my mind is alert, my heart is receptive. 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:19.920 I will never be the same. In Jesus' name, God 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:20.440 bless you. 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:23.760 I want to talk to you today about the importance 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:28.080 of being a peacemaker. If we're going to have healthy relationships, 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:30.639 then we've got to learn how to keep the strife 0:03:30.680 --> 0:03:34.600 out of our lives. And probably the greatest opportunity that 0:03:34.639 --> 0:03:37.600 we have for conflict is in dealing with people. 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:39.160 Because we're all different. 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:43.080 We have different personalities and different temperaments, and we've got 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:45.760 to learn to give everybody a little bit of room. 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:49.800 I've discovered just because somebody is not like me, and 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:53.040 just because they don't agree with every decision that I make, 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:56.560 that doesn't necessarily mean that I'm right and they're wrong. 0:03:56.680 --> 0:03:59.960 We're just different and it takes maturity to get along. 0:04:00.920 --> 0:04:04.720 It takes maturity to not start something over a little issue, 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:08.440 takes a mature person to not go around offended all 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:11.160 the time. And if we're going to keep the strife 0:04:11.200 --> 0:04:13.720 out of our lives, then we've got to learn how 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:15.920 to give people the benefit of the doubt. 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:18.599 We've got to learn how to overlook some things. 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:23.440 See, every person has faults, every one of us has weaknesses, 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:27.000 and we should not expect the people we're in relationship 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:30.080 with to be perfect, no matter how great of a 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:32.840 person they are, no matter how much you love them, 0:04:33.160 --> 0:04:35.440 if you're around them long enough, you will have an 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:39.039 opportunity to be offended. You'll have an opportunity to get 0:04:39.040 --> 0:04:42.279 into strife. There's no such thing as a perfect spouse, 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:46.640 a perfect boss, or even a perfect pastor. Although I'm 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:52.520 very close, and what are you all laughing at? But 0:04:52.600 --> 0:04:56.880 if we're putting these unrealistic expectations on people, expecting them 0:04:56.880 --> 0:05:00.720 to be perfect, not only is that not fair that person, 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:03.320 but it's going to be a source of frustration for us. 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:06.080 We're always going to be disappointed. And I know people 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:08.440 that kind of have the attitude, well, I love you 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:10.680 as long as you never hurt me, as long as 0:05:10.720 --> 0:05:13.320 you never make a mistake, or I'll be your friend, 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:15.800 as long as you treat me just right, as long 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:17.920 as you do it my way, then I'll accept you. 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:20.960 Then I'll be happy. You know, that's very unfair. That's 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:24.120 way too much pressure on that person. And the scripture 0:05:24.160 --> 0:05:29.720 says that love makes allowances for people's weaknesses. Love covers 0:05:29.760 --> 0:05:32.640 a person's faults. In other words, you've got to give 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:35.680 people a little room. You've got to learn to overlook 0:05:35.760 --> 0:05:40.440 some things. Quit picking at people, Quit demanding perfection out 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:42.839 of your spouse, out of your children, out of the 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:44.440 people you're in relationship with. 0:05:44.760 --> 0:05:46.279 Learn to show a little mercy. 0:05:46.760 --> 0:05:49.919 I know, even with Victoria, I couldn't find a better wife. 0:05:50.440 --> 0:05:54.000 I couldn't find a more loving, caring, generous person. And 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:56.960 yet there are some things I have to overlook. There 0:05:56.960 --> 0:05:59.480 are some things that I have to make allowances for. 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:02.720 It nothing wrong with her, She's just human. But if 0:06:02.760 --> 0:06:05.680 I were a fault finder, if I were critical and 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:09.160 picking out things here and there, and keeping an account 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:12.640 of everything she did wrong, then our relationship wouldn't be 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:13.640 what it is today. 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:15.080 You know as well as I do. 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:17.279 All that does is open up the door to strife, 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:21.479 and before long we'd bid odds with each other, arguing, fighting, 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:25.800 No make allowances for each other's weaknesses, and learn not 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:29.599 to wear your feelings on your shoulder. Don't be easily offended. 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:33.080 There is nothing worse than living with a touchy person. 0:06:33.520 --> 0:06:36.480 And if somebody offends you, if somebody. 0:06:36.240 --> 0:06:37.080 Does you wrong. 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:39.120 You've got to learn to just shake it off and 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:44.920 move on. The scripture says love believes the best in people. Hey, 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:47.200 you said, Joel, my husband, he hardly even spoke to 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:49.400 me this morning, or he didn't even thank me for 0:06:49.440 --> 0:06:52.760 cooking dinner the other night. Well, that's a great opportunity 0:06:52.800 --> 0:06:56.880 to show him some mercy. Love covers a fault instead 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:59.360 of going through the day all offended and all upset. 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:02.279 Have you ever thought about the fact that maybe he 0:07:02.400 --> 0:07:04.960 wasn't feeling enough to part, Maybe he's under a lot 0:07:04.960 --> 0:07:07.480 of pressure at work, Maybe he's a little stressed out. 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:09.840 Why don't you give him the benefit of the doubt. 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:13.600 Why don't you believe the best in him? My father 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:16.720 used to say, everybody has the right to have a 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:18.360 bad day every once in a while. 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:21.000 If somebody does something you don't. 0:07:20.840 --> 0:07:24.080 Like, if they're rude, or they walk by without speaking, 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:25.800 let me tell you you're gonna have to be the 0:07:25.800 --> 0:07:28.920 bigger person. You got to swallow your pride and say, 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:31.160 you know what, I don't believe they really meant to 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:31.560 do that. 0:07:31.800 --> 0:07:33.480 I'm gonna overlook it and move on. 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:37.760 See what I'm saying is instead of immediately going to 0:07:37.800 --> 0:07:40.560 the negative and seeing the worst. Let's get in a 0:07:40.600 --> 0:07:43.440 habit of immediately going to the positive. Let's get in 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:46.080 a habit of believing the best in people. That's what 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:46.920 it means. 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:47.760 To cover a fault. 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:51.560 And the scripture says here in First Corinthians thirteen, verse five, 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:55.960 that love keeps no record of wrongs done to it. 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:59.240 And some of you would see your relationships go to 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:01.680 a whole new lefs if you just get rid of 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:05.160 the record book. I know people that have a mental 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:08.520 list of everything anybody's done wrong to them for the 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:11.920 last twenty years. I mean, they'd make a great accountant. 0:08:12.160 --> 0:08:15.640 They've got a detailed record every time their spouse hurt them, 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:18.520 every time their boss was a little rude, and every 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:20.920 time their parents missed the grandkid's ballgame. 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:24.520 Now get rid of your record book. Let those things go. 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:27.800 Somebody told me the other day, Joel, every time my 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:30.960 wife and I have a little disagreement, she brings up 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.880 every mistake I've made for the last ten years. Well, 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:36.600 you did this last year, and ten years ago, you 0:08:36.720 --> 0:08:37.760 did that last month. 0:08:37.840 --> 0:08:38.320 You hurt me. 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:41.280 Know, as long as you're bringing up all that junk, 0:08:41.520 --> 0:08:44.320 you're going to have strife in your life. You say, Joel, 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:47.120 it's true. I'm telling now I'm the one that's right. Well, 0:08:47.200 --> 0:08:49.040 let me ask you, do you want to be right 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:51.160 or do you want to have peace? Do you want 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:52.800 to have your way all the time? Or do you 0:08:52.840 --> 0:08:56.320 want to have healthy relationships? Many times we can't have both. 0:08:56.960 --> 0:09:00.240 I heard somebody say any married man should forget his 0:09:00.320 --> 0:09:03.640 mistakes because there's no point in two people remembering the 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:04.160 same thing. 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:08.440 You get the message. Get rid of those record books. 0:09:09.440 --> 0:09:12.800 And in our relationship, especially in our marriages, it's so 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.000 important that we not keep score. 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:16.600 I've heard people say. 0:09:16.480 --> 0:09:18.920 Well, I took out the trash last week, I did 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:21.600 the dishes and I changed the diapers. You have it. 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:23.480 I had to go to work, I dealt with the boss, 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:26.800 I put up with the traffic. Now put away your scorecard. 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:30.240 All that does is make you more competitive. It's going 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:33.760 to bring out bitterness and resentment, and before long you're 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:35.600 going to be treating that person less than you know 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:39.800 you should. You've got to work together, be respectful, and 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:42.400 learn not to pick at little things here and there. 0:09:43.160 --> 0:09:46.840 Friends, there is strength in unity. There is strength when 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:47.800 you're in agreement. 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:51.200 You and your spouse are more powerful together than you 0:09:51.280 --> 0:09:54.640 are apart, and sometimes in order to keep the peace, 0:09:54.920 --> 0:09:57.439 you just got to be the bigger person. And overlook 0:09:57.520 --> 0:10:00.760 some things you say, Joe, and my husband is lazy 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:03.400 and he does this and he does that. Well, that 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:05.640 may be true, but that tells me you got your 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:09.000 record book out. That tells me you're keeping a detailed account. 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:12.880 I'm asking you today to throw that thing away. I'm 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:16.160 asking you to make allowances for the sake of peace. 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:19.240 And even if you don't do it for yourself, do 0:10:19.320 --> 0:10:21.880 it for your family, do it for your children. 0:10:22.400 --> 0:10:23.320 Lets some things go. 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:25.679 I mean, you got to make an effort to keep 0:10:25.720 --> 0:10:28.839 strife out of your life. I heard about this lady 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:32.080 that was driving through an intersection. She accidentally turned too 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:35.960 sharply and she sideswiped this other car and she couldn't 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:39.240 believe it. It was her brand new car, a wedding gift. 0:10:39.640 --> 0:10:42.360 She was so upset. So she pulled over to the 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:44.559 side of the road and this older. 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:46.560 Gentleman got out of his car and he began to 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:48.920 examine the damage, and it was pretty beat up. The 0:10:48.920 --> 0:10:51.560 front bumper was messed up, and so he went over 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:54.040 to where she was and she was sitting in her 0:10:54.080 --> 0:10:57.680 car there just crying, so distraught, and she said, you know, 0:10:57.920 --> 0:11:01.480 I just got married and gave me this car as 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:03.959 a wedding gift, and he is going to be so upset. 0:11:04.320 --> 0:11:06.160 I don't know what I'm going to do. And that 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:09.440 older gentleman tried to console her. He said, no, it'll 0:11:09.480 --> 0:11:12.560 be okay. I'm sure he'll understand. And after they talked 0:11:12.559 --> 0:11:14.559 for a few minutes, he said, if I could just 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:17.880 get your insurance information and we'll exchange that and be 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:20.240 on our way. And she said, you know, I don't 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:23.079 even know if I have an insurance card, and he said, well, 0:11:23.080 --> 0:11:24.280 it's usually in the glove compartment. 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:25.000 Why don't you check. 0:11:25.360 --> 0:11:27.240 She opened it up and sure enough it was there, 0:11:27.800 --> 0:11:31.200 and attached to the little envelope that the insurance card 0:11:31.320 --> 0:11:34.559 was in, there was a note. It said, honey, just 0:11:34.600 --> 0:11:38.120 in case you ever have an accident, please remember I 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:42.080 love you and not the car. That's the kind of 0:11:42.080 --> 0:11:43.680 people we need to strive to be. 0:11:44.480 --> 0:11:50.080 Show mercy. Don't keep a record of every mistake. Learn 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:52.520 to cover some of those weaknesses. 0:11:52.720 --> 0:11:55.200 You said, Joel, my spouse and I we're just not 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:56.400 really that compatible. 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:58.880 We just can't get along. We are so different. 0:11:59.559 --> 0:12:02.440 No do you know, God puts you with someone different 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:03.760 than you are on purpose. 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:05.400 That is not a mistake. 0:12:05.640 --> 0:12:10.160 Opposites attract. God knew what you needed. You have strengths 0:12:10.200 --> 0:12:13.560 and weaknesses. That other person has strengths and weaknesses, and 0:12:13.640 --> 0:12:17.200 most likely your strengths make up for their weaknesses, and 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:21.160 their strengths make up for your weaknesses. You compliment each other. 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:24.360 You should not compete with that other person. You should 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:25.720 complete that other person. 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:27.760 Really, you need each other. 0:12:28.160 --> 0:12:30.800 But you've got to learn to get along and not 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:35.200 allow these little weaknesses or little quirks in people's personalities 0:12:35.320 --> 0:12:39.400 to cause conflict cause strife. For instance, maybe you're a 0:12:39.520 --> 0:12:42.440 very neat and a tidy person. You like everything put 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:45.920 perfectly into place. But your husband, he's a little more sloppy. 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:49.320 He tends to leave things lying around, and you've told 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:51.840 him a thousand times to not leave his shoes in 0:12:51.840 --> 0:12:54.320 front of the TV. So you go in there one night, 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:57.280 and sure enough, there they are. That just really aggravates you, 0:12:57.679 --> 0:12:59.679 and so you make the mistake of going in there 0:12:59.679 --> 0:13:00.520 and find him. 0:13:00.679 --> 0:13:01.080 You stay. 0:13:01.400 --> 0:13:03.320 When are you ever going to start picking up your shoes? 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:05.400 All I do is clean up around here. I'm so 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:08.520 tired of working at this house. Oh, that's the wrong approach. 0:13:08.679 --> 0:13:10.840 Why don't you be the peace banker, Why don't you 0:13:10.880 --> 0:13:12.920 be the bigger person. You need to learn to just 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:16.040 pick the shoes up and put them away quietly so. 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:17.880 You can enjoy the rest of your evening. 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:20.880 What I'm saying is, don't make a big deal out 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:23.440 of things that are not a big deal. That really 0:13:23.600 --> 0:13:26.560 is not worth allowing strife into your home, that is 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:28.440 not worth starting an argument over. 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:30.120 Why don't you just let that go? 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:32.600 Well, you said, Joe, and my wife, I've told her 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:35.400 a thousand times to put the garage down when she 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:38.120 comes home, but she forgets, and that just aggravates me. 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:39.280 That gets on my nerves. 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:42.040 Oh, why don't you cover for Why don't you make 0:13:42.080 --> 0:13:44.520 allowances for her weaknesses. 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:45.120 Like she does yours. 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:47.680 But you said, Joel, when's she ever gonna change? When's 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:49.400 he ever going to change? Let me tell you when 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:51.880 people are going to change. They'll change when you quit 0:13:51.960 --> 0:13:54.959 nagging them. They'll change when you keep a good attitude 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:57.880 and quit complaining about it. And see if you'll do 0:13:58.040 --> 0:14:01.120 your best to cover a weakness and go out of 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:03.400 your way to keep strife out of your life. 0:14:03.520 --> 0:14:04.320 You know what you're doing. 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:07.600 You're so in a seed for God to change that person. 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:11.439 You can't change people, only God can. You can nag 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:13.960 them night and day, but it's only going to make 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:16.520 matters worse. It's only going to bring more strife and 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:20.240 more division. And the scripture in Romans twelve, verse sixteen 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:24.160 says we need to adapt and adjust. 0:14:24.040 --> 0:14:25.200 In order to keep the peace. 0:14:26.000 --> 0:14:30.280 It doesn't say that everybody should adapt and adjust to us. Now, 0:14:30.400 --> 0:14:32.760 we've got to be willing to change if we're going 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:34.000 to have peace in our lives. 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:36.680 That means you can't have the attitude. 0:14:37.240 --> 0:14:39.320 If my wife starts doing what I ask her to, 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:42.200 then we'll have peace in our home. If my husband 0:14:42.240 --> 0:14:44.840 will start putting his stuff away, then we'll begin to 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:47.720 get along. Or if my boss will start treating me better, 0:14:48.000 --> 0:14:51.280 then I'll start treating him. Okay, now you have to 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:54.560 make adjustment in order to keep the peace. In other words, 0:14:54.600 --> 0:14:56.880 you've got to just swallow your pride and go put 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:59.680 the shoes away, and then don't go announce to him 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:02.080 that you, well, I picked up your shoes again. I've 0:15:02.080 --> 0:15:03.920 done it a thousand times. I don't know when you're 0:15:03.920 --> 0:15:06.760 ever going to learn. No, just put the stinking shoes 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:11.200 away and move on. We'll make sure you get it today. 0:15:12.440 --> 0:15:15.440 But you may not realize when you do your part 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:18.680 to keep strife out of your home, you are honoring God. 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:21.840 And when you honor God, God will always honor you. 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:24.760 And now, I believe one of the main keys is 0:15:24.880 --> 0:15:28.480 we have to adapt. We have to make adjustments. Quit 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:31.240 waiting for the other person to change. You be the 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:35.520 peacemaker in your family. And sometimes we allow strife in 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:40.080 over the smallest, most insignificant things. We argue over things 0:15:40.120 --> 0:15:43.400 that don't even matter, little petty things. I remember one 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:45.920 time Victoria and I were driving out of our neighborhood 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:48.280 and we stopped to look at this new house that 0:15:48.400 --> 0:15:51.440 was being built, and I simply made the comment, I 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:53.360 wonder why they put the garage over there. 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:54.720 That's not the way I would have done it. 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:57.720 And Victoria said, well, I think he did that so 0:15:57.760 --> 0:15:58.920 he'd give him more room. 0:15:58.760 --> 0:15:59.360 On his lot. 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:01.640 I kind of studied it and I said, no, that 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:03.840 wouldn't give him any more room. She said, sure, would 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:05.360 Joe give him a whole lot more room? 0:16:05.760 --> 0:16:06.120 Do you know? 0:16:06.280 --> 0:16:09.360 Fifteen minutes later, we were still debating why that guy 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:12.400 put his garage where he did. Our voice tones were 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:16.200 getting louder, our words were getting sharper. Finally it dawned 0:16:16.240 --> 0:16:18.360 on me, why are we arguing over where this guy 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:20.720 put his garage. We don't even know who the man is. 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:25.480 That's not worth losing our joy over. That's not worth 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:29.600 losing your peace over. And I'm asking you today to 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:32.960 let go of all of this petty stuff. I'm asking 0:16:33.000 --> 0:16:36.640 you to quit arguing over things that don't matter. You know, 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:40.200 I know people that have gotten a divorce all because 0:16:40.280 --> 0:16:42.680 they stayed stirred up over these. 0:16:42.560 --> 0:16:45.840 Little insignificant things. They allow it to fester. 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:49.400 It takes root, and before long they're living at each 0:16:49.440 --> 0:16:52.720 other's throat. And the funny thing is, they know, deep 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:55.640 down in here they really love each other. But through 0:16:55.680 --> 0:16:58.880 the years they've allowed strife to get in. They didn't 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:02.600 take it seriously. They begin to argue, They started treating 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:07.600 each other disrespectfully, and sure enough, eventually that relationship was destroyed. 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:09.080 Jesus said in. 0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:13.440 The Book of Matthew, a house divided is continually being 0:17:13.480 --> 0:17:18.120 brought to destruction, and it will not stand notice. Jesus said, 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:22.040 if you allow strife into your relationship, it is being 0:17:22.280 --> 0:17:26.400 brought to destruction. In other words, it may not happen overnight, 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:29.200 may not happen in a couple of months or even 0:17:29.240 --> 0:17:32.240 a couple of years. But if you allow strife to 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:36.879 stay and you don't think anything about arguing, holding grudges 0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:40.320 and keeping the record book and making sarcastic remarks, you 0:17:40.359 --> 0:17:43.399 may not realize it, but that relationship is in the 0:17:43.480 --> 0:17:47.479 process of being destroyed. That strife is chipping away at 0:17:47.520 --> 0:17:51.879 your foundation. And unfortunately, unless you make a decision to 0:17:51.920 --> 0:17:54.320 do something about it, you could very well look up 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:56.679 one day and think to yourself, man, what in the 0:17:56.720 --> 0:18:00.159 world have I done now? I'm challenging you today to 0:18:00.200 --> 0:18:03.680 do whatever it takes to keep strife out of your life. 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:07.520 Don't be hard headed, don't be stubborn. Some of you 0:18:07.960 --> 0:18:10.359 have been at odds with people in your life, month 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:13.840 after month after month, not speaking to them, giving them 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:16.880 the cold shoulder. Listen, you need to make things right. 0:18:17.400 --> 0:18:19.400 Life is way too short to live it that way. 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:21.800 I talked to a man a while back, and he 0:18:21.880 --> 0:18:23.800 was so broken, so defeated. 0:18:24.200 --> 0:18:25.359 I asked him what was wrong. 0:18:25.880 --> 0:18:28.879 He explained how he and his father got at odds 0:18:28.920 --> 0:18:32.040 with each other over a business decision, and they hadn't 0:18:32.080 --> 0:18:35.359 spoken in over two years time, and he said, Joel, 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:37.800 I knew deep down in here that I needed to 0:18:37.840 --> 0:18:40.520 make it right, but I just kept putting it off 0:18:40.600 --> 0:18:43.040 and putting it off and putting it off. And earlier 0:18:43.080 --> 0:18:45.440 that week he had got a call from somebody telling 0:18:45.520 --> 0:18:47.600 him that his father had had a heart. 0:18:47.400 --> 0:18:49.520 Attack and was no longer with us. 0:18:49.760 --> 0:18:52.640 You can imagine what he has to deal with now. 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:55.600 Don't wait until you cannot do it, do it today. 0:18:56.400 --> 0:19:00.320 Swallow your pride and apologize, even if it wasn't your fault. 0:19:01.119 --> 0:19:03.800 Quit having to have the last word in every argument. 0:19:04.560 --> 0:19:07.320 How many times have we heard the still small voice 0:19:07.400 --> 0:19:10.919 right down in here tell us walk away, keep the peace, 0:19:11.040 --> 0:19:13.919 just let it go, But we ignore it. We end 0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:16.920 up getting into a great, big argument, and all kinds 0:19:16.920 --> 0:19:19.680 of turmoil could have been avoided if we'd just been 0:19:19.720 --> 0:19:23.679 the bigger person and walked away. And understand, it's not 0:19:23.800 --> 0:19:27.680 always about being right. It's about keeping strife out of 0:19:27.720 --> 0:19:31.520 your life. Because you can win every argument in the world, 0:19:32.200 --> 0:19:34.840 but if it opens the door to turmoil, if it 0:19:34.880 --> 0:19:37.720 brings division and tears you the part, in the end, 0:19:37.880 --> 0:19:40.359 you really didn't win at all. You'd been much better 0:19:40.400 --> 0:19:42.919 off to just let it all go and some of 0:19:42.960 --> 0:19:46.359 you today. If you don't make some changes, if you 0:19:46.400 --> 0:19:49.879 don't heed what's being said, then that relationship is not 0:19:49.960 --> 0:19:53.080 going to last. And I believe that God always gives 0:19:53.160 --> 0:19:56.080 us a warning. God always gives us a wake up call, 0:19:56.560 --> 0:20:01.000 and he's simply saying today, quit being so argument, quit 0:20:01.080 --> 0:20:04.640 being a fault finder, quit keeping your record books, let 0:20:04.680 --> 0:20:08.680 all that stuff go, and start being a peacemaker. Well, 0:20:08.720 --> 0:20:10.280 you say, Joel, I'll do it as soon as my 0:20:10.359 --> 0:20:13.200 husband changes. I'll do it as soon as my boss 0:20:13.200 --> 0:20:16.320 starts treating me better. No, if you wait for somebody 0:20:16.359 --> 0:20:19.000 else to be the peacemaker in your life, you may 0:20:19.000 --> 0:20:23.000 wait around your whole lifetime. Peace starts with you. You've 0:20:23.040 --> 0:20:26.600 got to make the first move. Well, Joel, I apologize first, 0:20:26.680 --> 0:20:27.200 last time. 0:20:27.240 --> 0:20:28.000 That's not fair. 0:20:28.320 --> 0:20:31.560 It's his turn to apologize. Well, it may not be fair, 0:20:31.640 --> 0:20:34.919 but it can keep you together. Swallow your pride, be 0:20:35.040 --> 0:20:38.040 the bigger person. Do it anyway. When you do that, 0:20:38.280 --> 0:20:40.880 you're so in a seed. When you do it, you're 0:20:40.960 --> 0:20:43.640 passing the test. Let me tell you, God will always 0:20:43.640 --> 0:20:46.200 make it up to you. I think about the story 0:20:46.280 --> 0:20:49.000 of Abraham. One time he moved to a new land 0:20:49.320 --> 0:20:52.400 with his nephew Lot, but the land wasn't big enough 0:20:52.400 --> 0:20:55.000 to support both of them, and the Bible says in 0:20:55.160 --> 0:20:59.880 Genesis thirteen, verse seven that Lot's herdsman begin to get 0:20:59.880 --> 0:21:03.600 it to strife with Abraham's herdsman. Well, what did Abraham do? 0:21:04.160 --> 0:21:07.640 He immediately begin to deal with it. He knew if 0:21:07.640 --> 0:21:11.000 he allowed that strife to continue before long, it would 0:21:11.040 --> 0:21:13.840 not only be affecting the herdsman, but it would affect 0:21:13.840 --> 0:21:17.280 his relationship with Lot. He knew that strife would eventually 0:21:17.359 --> 0:21:21.040 bring turmoil to the whole family, and so Abraham. 0:21:20.600 --> 0:21:21.520 Took the high road. 0:21:22.280 --> 0:21:24.800 He said in verse eight, Lot, I don't want there 0:21:24.800 --> 0:21:27.639 to be any strife between you and me, and he 0:21:27.800 --> 0:21:31.639 let Lot choose the best piece of land. In other words, 0:21:31.840 --> 0:21:36.280 to avoid strife. He allowed Lot to be right. He 0:21:36.359 --> 0:21:40.119 allowed Lot to have it his way, even though technically Abraham, 0:21:40.600 --> 0:21:43.000 he was the older gentleman, he should have been able 0:21:43.040 --> 0:21:45.679 to choose the best piece of land. My point is, 0:21:46.119 --> 0:21:48.840 sometimes you're gonna have to let the other person be 0:21:49.000 --> 0:21:52.600 right simply for the sake of peace. Sometimes you're gonna 0:21:52.600 --> 0:21:55.120 have to swallow your pride, and no matter how much 0:21:55.119 --> 0:21:57.240 it hurts. You got to let the other person do 0:21:57.320 --> 0:22:00.159 it their way just so you can keep strife out 0:22:00.200 --> 0:22:00.640 of your life. 0:22:01.400 --> 0:22:02.560 It may not be fair. 0:22:03.280 --> 0:22:05.359 You may know beyond a shadow of a doubt that 0:22:05.440 --> 0:22:07.040 you're right and they're wrong. 0:22:07.320 --> 0:22:07.920 Doesn't matter. 0:22:08.080 --> 0:22:10.800 You got to just bite your tongue, let it go, 0:22:11.119 --> 0:22:13.600 and trust God to make it up to you. The 0:22:13.640 --> 0:22:17.800 Bible says that because Abraham kept the peace because he 0:22:17.880 --> 0:22:21.560 refused to get into strife, God turned it around and 0:22:21.640 --> 0:22:22.560 honored him. 0:22:22.680 --> 0:22:24.080 By giving him the whole country. 0:22:24.840 --> 0:22:27.200 And you too, If you will make a decision to 0:22:27.320 --> 0:22:30.880 keep the peace, even though it's not your fault, even 0:22:30.960 --> 0:22:33.040 though somebody's done you wrong and you've got a good 0:22:33.119 --> 0:22:35.640 cause to get in there and argue. If you'll keep 0:22:35.680 --> 0:22:38.200 the peace anyway, let me tell you, God will honor 0:22:38.240 --> 0:22:40.800 you and bring you out with an abundance. 0:22:40.760 --> 0:22:41.639 And some of you today. 0:22:42.000 --> 0:22:44.159 The only thing that's keeping you from getting out of 0:22:44.160 --> 0:22:47.679 strife is the fact that you know you're right and 0:22:47.720 --> 0:22:50.240 you know the other person's wrong, and you just can't 0:22:50.320 --> 0:22:50.719 let it go. 0:22:50.760 --> 0:22:52.000 You think, Joel, that's not fair. 0:22:52.640 --> 0:22:55.120 Well, it may not be fair, But if you will 0:22:55.200 --> 0:22:57.880 just leave it up to God, take the high road 0:22:57.960 --> 0:23:01.760 like Abraham did, and just refused to get into strife. 0:23:02.160 --> 0:23:03.720 Then in the end, God's going to bring you out 0:23:03.760 --> 0:23:06.760 better off than you were before. The Bible doesn't say 0:23:06.800 --> 0:23:09.560 that if we're in strife as long as it's not 0:23:09.640 --> 0:23:12.720 our fault, and it's okay. Now, when we're in strife, 0:23:12.800 --> 0:23:14.840 no matter whose fault it is, it's going to bring 0:23:14.880 --> 0:23:18.520 destruction and turmoil. We have to make adjustments to keep 0:23:18.520 --> 0:23:18.880 the peace. 0:23:18.920 --> 0:23:20.080 We have to do our part. 0:23:20.840 --> 0:23:23.520 I heard about this couple that had made your problems 0:23:23.520 --> 0:23:26.560 in their marriage, and the truth is the man was 0:23:26.600 --> 0:23:30.280 the main cause. He was very selfish, very argumented it, 0:23:30.760 --> 0:23:33.680 and basically he was just a very hard to get 0:23:33.680 --> 0:23:37.880 along with, critical, negative person. And neither of these two 0:23:37.920 --> 0:23:40.720 people would give an inch. Now, this woman, she really 0:23:40.760 --> 0:23:44.040 loved God. She went to church every week and did 0:23:44.080 --> 0:23:46.720 her best to live a life of integrity. But the man, 0:23:46.760 --> 0:23:49.120 he was just the opposite, wouldn't have anything to do 0:23:49.400 --> 0:23:52.439 with the things of God, very cold and sarcastic about that. 0:23:53.119 --> 0:23:55.919 And so this lady prayed and prayed for God to 0:23:56.000 --> 0:23:59.520 change her husband. Year after year went by, nothing got better. 0:23:59.560 --> 0:24:02.200 They just can continued to live in strife. And one 0:24:02.280 --> 0:24:04.679 day she was praying and she said, God, why do 0:24:04.760 --> 0:24:07.280 I have to live in such a terrible environment. When 0:24:07.280 --> 0:24:09.960 are you ever going to change my husband? And God 0:24:10.119 --> 0:24:12.119 spoke something back to her, not out loud, but right 0:24:12.200 --> 0:24:14.560 down in here, and he said, I'm going. 0:24:14.560 --> 0:24:18.800 To change your husband as soon as you change. She said, God, 0:24:18.800 --> 0:24:19.120 what do. 0:24:19.119 --> 0:24:22.160 You mean, he's the problem, He's the one that mean 0:24:22.200 --> 0:24:25.520 inn argument if I go to church every Sunday. God said, no, 0:24:26.000 --> 0:24:28.560 you're not doing all you can to keep the peace. 0:24:29.080 --> 0:24:32.240 You become indifferent to this situation and you're being a 0:24:32.280 --> 0:24:35.080 part of allowing that strife to stay into your home. 0:24:35.720 --> 0:24:39.119 Then God said something very interesting. He said, I'm going 0:24:39.200 --> 0:24:43.080 to hold you responsible because you know the truth, you 0:24:43.240 --> 0:24:45.560 know the right thing to do, and when you start 0:24:45.600 --> 0:24:48.840 doing that, I'll begin to change your husband. See the 0:24:48.840 --> 0:24:52.840 scripture says to him that knows what's right and doesn't 0:24:52.840 --> 0:24:55.680 do it, then it's sin. And a lot of times 0:24:55.760 --> 0:24:57.800 we're waiting for the other person to change. We know 0:24:57.880 --> 0:25:00.480 they're wrong, we know they're at fault. We have to 0:25:00.560 --> 0:25:04.159 realize God is going to hold us responsible to do 0:25:04.240 --> 0:25:07.280 what we know to do. When we allow strife into 0:25:07.280 --> 0:25:10.320 our homes, we just simply opened up the door to trouble. 0:25:10.760 --> 0:25:13.240 A few years ago, Victoria and I and our two 0:25:13.359 --> 0:25:16.480 children went for a bike ride together out at the park, 0:25:16.960 --> 0:25:19.240 and this day had not gone real well for me. 0:25:19.600 --> 0:25:22.360 I was kind of aggravated at something Victoria had done. 0:25:22.680 --> 0:25:24.600 I didn't think it was right. It just kind of 0:25:24.640 --> 0:25:28.000 irritated me. I remember so clearly that I chose to 0:25:28.040 --> 0:25:31.359 hold on to it. I could have so easily overlooked it. 0:25:31.359 --> 0:25:32.560 It wasn't any big deal. 0:25:33.000 --> 0:25:33.720 I could have so. 0:25:33.680 --> 0:25:36.760 Easily just let it go and enjoyed the day at 0:25:36.800 --> 0:25:40.199 the park, but no, I chose to stay sour. I 0:25:40.280 --> 0:25:42.159 was kind of giving her the cold shoulder, didn't want 0:25:42.200 --> 0:25:43.879 to have too much to do with her. And so 0:25:43.920 --> 0:25:45.879 we're out at the park riding our bikes, and I 0:25:45.880 --> 0:25:48.720 gotten my little daughter, Alexandra on my bike seat behind me, 0:25:49.320 --> 0:25:51.560 and Jonathan had just learned how to ride his bike 0:25:51.600 --> 0:25:53.840 a few months earlier, so we had to go kind 0:25:53.840 --> 0:25:56.320 of slow. He wasn't real sure of himself, and I 0:25:56.359 --> 0:25:59.280 had gotten maybe fifty or one hundred yards ahead of 0:25:59.320 --> 0:26:01.480 he and Victim for you, and all of a sudden, 0:26:01.520 --> 0:26:04.520 this biker came riding the other way, had passed. 0:26:04.320 --> 0:26:06.520 Me, going very very fast, and. 0:26:06.200 --> 0:26:08.840 My first thought was, man, I hope Jonathan is careful, 0:26:08.840 --> 0:26:11.600 this guy is flying well. Sure enough, just as he 0:26:11.640 --> 0:26:14.159 got up there close to Jonathan, Jonathan saw him and 0:26:14.240 --> 0:26:16.800 he got spooked and he turned right into his path 0:26:17.000 --> 0:26:19.240 and they had head on. Now. I mean it was 0:26:19.280 --> 0:26:22.560 a loud collision. I thought for sure he had broken 0:26:22.600 --> 0:26:23.880 an arm or a leg or something. 0:26:23.880 --> 0:26:25.080 It just sounded so bad. 0:26:25.119 --> 0:26:27.560 And I set my bike down and I ran back 0:26:27.560 --> 0:26:29.560 there as fast as I could, and I picked up 0:26:29.600 --> 0:26:32.600 little Jonathan, and I was amazed that he wasn't hurt 0:26:32.640 --> 0:26:34.879 that badly. I mean, he was skinned up on his legs, 0:26:34.880 --> 0:26:38.040 in his arms, he didn't have any broken bones. Fortunately, 0:26:38.080 --> 0:26:41.080 that other writer was okay as well. But when everything 0:26:41.240 --> 0:26:44.760 kind of calmed down, something said on the inside of 0:26:44.800 --> 0:26:48.680 me so strongly, Joel, you brought all this on yourself. 0:26:49.400 --> 0:26:52.199 You had the choice to make things right. You had 0:26:52.280 --> 0:26:54.320 the choice to keep the strife out, but. 0:26:54.240 --> 0:26:55.159 You chose not to. 0:26:56.000 --> 0:26:58.560 And see, I knew better. I can relate to what 0:26:58.600 --> 0:27:01.280 that lady was saying. I knew I was holding onto 0:27:01.280 --> 0:27:04.520 the offense. I knew I wasn't treating Victoria right. And 0:27:04.600 --> 0:27:08.400 this is what happens. The scripture says, don't give any 0:27:08.440 --> 0:27:11.359 foothold to the enemy. All he's looking for is a 0:27:11.359 --> 0:27:15.399 little foothold of strife, a foothold of arguing, a foothold 0:27:15.520 --> 0:27:16.879 of hav an unforgiveness. 0:27:17.320 --> 0:27:18.400 And of course I'm. 0:27:18.200 --> 0:27:20.919 Not saying that every accident is because of this, but 0:27:21.040 --> 0:27:21.880 I knew I. 0:27:21.840 --> 0:27:23.560 Had brought this on ourselves. 0:27:23.760 --> 0:27:26.320 And see, when we choose to hold on to strife 0:27:26.760 --> 0:27:29.360 and to not forgive, and to be hard headed and 0:27:29.400 --> 0:27:33.000 to not overlook little things, what we're really doing is 0:27:33.000 --> 0:27:35.879 stepping out of God's protection. We're stepping out of God's 0:27:35.880 --> 0:27:38.879 blessings and favor. And that's why I'm challenging you today 0:27:39.119 --> 0:27:42.080 to do everything you can to keep strife out of 0:27:42.080 --> 0:27:44.679 your life. Don't be hard headed like I was, be 0:27:44.800 --> 0:27:48.200 the bigger person, Swallow your pride and keep the peace. 0:27:48.960 --> 0:27:51.840 Learn to overlook some things, give people the benefit of 0:27:51.880 --> 0:27:55.560 the doubt. Remember, you and I have to adapt and 0:27:55.600 --> 0:27:58.520 adjust if we're going to have peace. And again, it 0:27:58.560 --> 0:28:01.680 may not always be fair, but we have to ask ourselves, 0:28:01.880 --> 0:28:03.720 do I want to be right or do I want 0:28:03.760 --> 0:28:04.359 to have peace? 0:28:05.040 --> 0:28:07.040 And I know God's dealing with some of you right. 0:28:06.960 --> 0:28:09.800 Now, and I believe today can be a turning point 0:28:09.800 --> 0:28:12.119 in your life if you will just simply make a 0:28:12.160 --> 0:28:15.520 decision that you're gonna swallow your pride and you're gonna 0:28:15.560 --> 0:28:17.840 do everything it takes to keep the peace. Let me 0:28:17.840 --> 0:28:20.040 tell you, if you do that, God promises you're gonna 0:28:20.040 --> 0:28:23.440 be blessed. He said, blessed are the peacemakers. If you 0:28:23.480 --> 0:28:26.119 will have that kind of attitude, your relationships are going 0:28:26.160 --> 0:28:28.359 to get better and better. And I believe you're going 0:28:28.440 --> 0:28:31.040 to experience the life of victory that God has in store. 0:28:31.080 --> 0:28:33.600 Amen. How many to receive it today? But I know 0:28:33.640 --> 0:28:33.879 you do. 0:28:35.800 --> 0:28:38.800 We never like to close our broadcast without giving you 0:28:38.840 --> 0:28:41.600 an opportunity to make Jesus the lord of your life. 0:28:42.000 --> 0:28:43.000 Would you pray with me? 0:28:43.560 --> 0:28:48.920 Just say, Lord, Jesus, I repent of my sins, Come 0:28:48.920 --> 0:28:49.640 into my heart. 0:28:50.720 --> 0:28:52.440 I'll make you my Lord and savior. 0:28:53.720 --> 0:28:56.120 Friends, if you prayed that simple prayer, we believe you 0:28:56.160 --> 0:28:59.280 got born again. Get in a good Bible based church, 0:28:59.520 --> 0:29:02.280 keep God on first place. He's gonna take your places 0:29:02.360 --> 0:29:03.280 you've never dreamed of. 0:29:03.920 --> 0:29:07.360 Thank you for listening to the Joel Loustine podcast. Help 0:29:07.480 --> 0:29:10.200 us continue to share the message of hope with those 0:29:10.280 --> 0:29:14.160 all over the world. 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