Healing Words

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Be a part of one of our services. 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:49.720 I'll promise you we'll make you feel right at home. 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:52.800 I like to start with something funny, and I heard 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:56.440 about this teenager that just got his driver's license. He 0:01:56.520 --> 0:01:59.920 asked his father about borrowing the car. The dad says, 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:02.440 I'll make a deal with you. If you bring your 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:06.360 grades up, read your Bible every day, and cut your hair, 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:09.200 I'll let you borrow it. He came back a few 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:12.200 weeks later asking about it again. The dad said, son, 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:15.320 you brought your grades up, you've been reading your Bible, 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:17.959 but you still haven't cut your hair. He said, dad, 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:21.720 I've been thinking about it. Moses had long hair. Samson 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:25.400 had long hair, even Jesus had long hair. The dad 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:30.239 said yes, son, and they walked everywhere they went, say 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:33.280 it like you mean it. This is my Bible. I 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:35.680 am what it says I am. I have what it 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:38.120 says I have. I can do what it says I 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:41.280 can do. Today I will be taught the word of God. 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:46.080 I boldly confess. My mind is alert, my heart is receptive. 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:50.120 I will never be the same. In Jesus' name, God 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:53.480 bless you. I want to talk to you today about 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:57.760 healing words. Our words have the power to lift people, 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:01.040 to help them get through a challenge, to push them 0:03:01.120 --> 0:03:05.200 into their destinies. When you tell someone I love you, 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:09.080 I'm proud of you, you did great on that project. 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:14.000 You're not just being kind. Those are healing words. We 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:17.520 don't know what people are going through. They may smile 0:03:17.680 --> 0:03:22.359 on the outside, but on the inside, they're hurting. They're lonely, 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:27.760 they're discouraged. Many people have wounds from the past, wounds 0:03:27.800 --> 0:03:31.359 from a relationship that didn't work out, wounds from people 0:03:31.440 --> 0:03:34.720 trying to push them down. And just a simple word 0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:38.640 of encouragement, I believe in you. I'm praying for you. 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:43.160 A simple compliment. You look beautiful today. It's no big 0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:46.920 deal to you, but to them, it's helping heal the wounds. 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:51.640 It's lifting their spirits, it's causing them to believe in themselves. 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:56.160 Your words can be what keeps them moving forward. And 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:59.520 God puts people in our lives on purpose so we 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:03.920 can bring healing. The security guard at the office, don't 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:07.240 just pass by him every day for the next twenty years. 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:11.400 Take a moment to bless him with your words. You 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:14.560 don't have to spend ten minutes, just as simple. Great 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:17.880 to see you today. I appreciate you taking care of us. 0:04:18.520 --> 0:04:22.480 You just spoke a blessing over his life, letting people 0:04:22.600 --> 0:04:26.440 know that your care does more than you imagine. Because 0:04:26.480 --> 0:04:29.360 we live in a society that's filled with a lot 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:34.640 of negative chatter through the internet, social media, it's becoming 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:39.760 normal to be disrespectful. People think nothing of being condescending, 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:45.599 saying hurtful, critical things. More than ever, people need your 0:04:45.720 --> 0:04:49.919 healing words. You have the power to put someone on 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:52.960 their feet. You have the power to keep them from 0:04:53.000 --> 0:04:56.720 falling into depression. You have the power to cause them 0:04:57.000 --> 0:05:02.280 to pursue their dreams. But without your blos without your encouragement, 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:07.159 your compliments, they won't become what they should become. Don't 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:10.920 miss these opportunities. Don't be too caught up in your career, 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:15.320 in your challenges. Take time to be a healer, to 0:05:15.400 --> 0:05:19.360 be a lifter. God needs you. He has no voice 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:23.640 to encourage on this earth except your voice. He's counting 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:26.800 on you to help heal the people in your life. 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:30.719 When somebody does something good for me, when they're kind, 0:05:31.240 --> 0:05:34.800 I'm grateful, of course I tell them thank you. But 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:38.680 when somebody does something good for my children, when they 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:41.240 go out of their way to help them in a 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:44.960 time of need as a parent, there's nothing I won't 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:48.839 do for them. That's the way God is. When you 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:51.760 go out of your way to bless one of his children, 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:56.040 When you make it your business to encourage the coworker 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:59.280 that's down, when you stop by to see the friend 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:03.240 that's not feeling well, when you call your relative just 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:07.000 to say that you love them. Because you're taking care 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:11.279 of his children, God will make sure somebody is always 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:14.120 there to take care of you, to bring healing, to 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:17.760 bring encouragement, to show your favor. Those are seeds that 0:06:17.800 --> 0:06:21.440 you're sowing. And look around at who's in your life. 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:25.359 The clerk at the grocery store, the attendant at the 0:06:25.400 --> 0:06:29.000 gas station, the friend at the gem. They're not there 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:33.800 by accident. They need what you have. They need encouragement, 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:37.880 they need affirmation. They need to know that you believe 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:42.880 in them. Don't keep the healing to yourself. Be free 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:47.719 with your compliments. A blessing is not a blessing until 0:06:47.760 --> 0:06:52.440 it's spoken your thoughts. Don't bless anybody. You can think 0:06:52.520 --> 0:06:55.440 well of your friend all day long, but if you 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:59.960 never tell them, they'll never know. When I see Victorian 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:04.040 many times, I think she is so beautiful. But it's 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:07.920 easy for me to think. She knows she's beautiful. People 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:10.800 have been telling her she's beautiful her whole life. I 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:13.720 told her last week she's beautiful. She doesn't need to 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:16.920 hear it again. I've learned, even though she knows it, 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:20.400 tell her anyway. Do you know she has never once 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:23.920 said to me, Joel, quit telling me I'm beautiful. I 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:26.720 know I'm beautiful. My parents told me as a child, 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:31.080 no matter how many times you complimented a person, when 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:35.679 that thought comes up, tell them again, that's God bringing 0:07:35.680 --> 0:07:39.200 it up. You don't know what they're going through. You 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:42.080 don't know the battles they're fighting the people trying to 0:07:42.120 --> 0:07:45.720 push them down. God wouldn't have brought it up if 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:49.000 he didn't want you to tell them. These days, it's 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:52.240 easier than ever. If they're not they're in person, you 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:54.560 can send them a text. Hey, I want you to 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:58.280 know I love you and I think you're beautiful. The 0:07:58.320 --> 0:08:03.000 scripture says, a gentle tongue brings healing. When we think 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:06.320 of healing, many times we think of praying for people 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:09.480 for healing, and yes, that's one way. But what I 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:13.800 want us to see is your words have healing. When 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:18.360 you're kind, when you're encouraging, when you don't just think 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:22.360 something good, but you verbalize it, you'll be in a healer. 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:26.960 It's amazing what one kind word can do. We don't 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:30.120 think anything about it, but to the other person, it 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:34.760 breathes life into their spirit. A few years ago, Victoria 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:37.880 was walking down the hallway after a service. On her 0:08:37.920 --> 0:08:41.360 way upstairs, there were hundreds of people in the hallways, 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:45.160 very crowded. A young lady came passing by going the 0:08:45.200 --> 0:08:49.559 other direction. Victoria happened to notice her. She stopped her 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:53.800 and said, you are so beautiful. Just a five second 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:58.320 conversation and they moved on, no big deal. It seemed 0:08:58.360 --> 0:09:01.920 like that Victoria was just being nice, just being kind. 0:09:02.679 --> 0:09:06.439 But God wouldn't have given you that compliment. He wouldn't 0:09:06.440 --> 0:09:09.400 have put that thought in you if the other person 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:13.160 didn't need it. You may not know them, it may 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:16.319 not make sense to you, but God knows what he's doing. 0:09:16.480 --> 0:09:20.640 There's a reason they need your healing. If you saw 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:24.280 someone that was sick, they were fighting in illness, and 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:27.280 you had the cure, you had the medicine that would 0:09:27.320 --> 0:09:30.160 cause them to get well, you would be quick to 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:32.800 get it to them. You go over as fast as 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.240 you could. Here, Take this right now. I don't want 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:39.280 you to suffer anymore. That's the way you need to see. 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:44.720 Your compliments, your kind words, your encouragement. It's the healing 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:49.040 that people need. Don't withhold it, don't try to reason 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:51.840 it out. Well, they look like they're doing fine. Joy, 0:09:52.320 --> 0:09:55.600 they don't need my encouragement. You're looking on the outside. 0:09:56.240 --> 0:10:00.200 You don't know what's happening on the inside. I've learned, 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:04.760 and everyone is going through something. Even the people that 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:08.160 look like they have it all together, that are so happy, 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:11.440 so blessed, so strong, Can I tell you they don't 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:15.280 have it all together. There's always something that they're dealing with. 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:19.120 A couple of months later, this young lady showed up 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:23.520 in the visitor's reception. She said to me, Victoria will 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:26.840 never know what she did for me. That day. She 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:30.600 told how she had gone through a bitter divorce. She 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:35.600 felt so unattractive, so beaten down. Every voice told her 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:38.800 she wasn't worth anything, that she would never love again. 0:10:39.840 --> 0:10:42.920 She said. When Victoria looked me in the eyes and 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:47.000 said you were so beautiful, it was like strongholds were 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:51.800 broken in my mind. All of a sudden, that depression 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:57.199 lifted off of her. She had a new perspective. She realized, 0:10:57.520 --> 0:11:00.800 I'm still beautiful, I'm still a child of the most 0:11:00.880 --> 0:11:05.080 time God. I'm still fearfully and wonderfully made. For the 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:08.760 next couple of months, anytime she was tempted to be discouraged, 0:11:09.040 --> 0:11:12.360 she would replay that phrase over and over, you are 0:11:12.440 --> 0:11:17.960 so beautiful. We don't understand the power of a simple compliment, 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:21.920 the power of I believe in you. You're going to 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:26.200 make it. Great things are in store. Victoria thought she 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:30.440 was just being kind. She didn't realize there were healing 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:35.480 in her words. God had already ordained those words to 0:11:35.600 --> 0:11:39.480 help push that young lady past the hurts, pass the 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:43.320 injustice into the new beginning that God had in store. 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:47.840 And your words may seem ordinary to you, but when 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:53.079 God breathes on them, they become extraordinary to the other person. 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:59.720 Somebody today needs your healing words. Somebody won't get past 0:11:59.800 --> 0:12:04.640 the depression without you speaking blessings over them. Somebody will 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:07.280 give up on a dream, They'll get talked out of 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:11.200 God's best unless you step up and encourage them. Will 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:14.280 you be a healer? Will you use your words to 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:19.680 lift people? Proverbs eighteen says our words can be life 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:25.760 giving water. I found people are thirsty, they've gone through heartaches, 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:29.360 they've been beaten down in life. We have something to 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:34.240 offer them. Our words can help heal the hurts. Be 0:12:34.360 --> 0:12:37.679 aware of who's in your life. Be sensitive to what 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:41.400 you're feeling down in here. Take time to let people 0:12:41.480 --> 0:12:45.200 know that you care. In my early twenties, a young 0:12:45.280 --> 0:12:47.920 man started coming up to the gym to play basketball 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:51.760 with us. He was a loner. He was very unfriendly, 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:56.719 very cold. He never talked even during the games. He 0:12:56.760 --> 0:13:01.640 wouldn't interact with us. Most of the guys just ignored him. 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:04.920 But something down in here told me to reach out 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:08.600 to him and make him feel welcome. I found out 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.480 that his name was Bo. When he would come into 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:13.439 the gym, I would go over and say, hey, Bo, 0:13:13.880 --> 0:13:17.199 it's great to see you today. He never said anything. 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:21.560 He just hit his chest twice and walked away. I 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:23.760 didn't know what that meant, but I hit my chest 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:29.080 twice and walked away. This went on for several years. 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:32.480 I saw him four or five times a week. Well, 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:35.760 I stopped playing basketball there, and I hadn't seen Bou 0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:39.800 in over twenty years. One Sunday he showed up at church. 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:43.400 I saw him. Afterwards, I thought, where do I know 0:13:43.480 --> 0:13:46.599 this guy from? He said, I'm Bo. We used to 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:50.080 play basketball together. That's the most I'd ever heard him talk. 0:13:50.880 --> 0:13:53.400 He went on to tell how he grew up in 0:13:53.440 --> 0:13:57.400 the projects. At fourteen, he started living on his own. 0:13:58.000 --> 0:14:02.960 Nobody wanted him. He never felt loved or accepted. He said, 0:14:03.120 --> 0:14:05.240 one of the main reasons I went up to the 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:09.520 gym was to hear you say great to see you today, 0:14:10.080 --> 0:14:13.000 because nobody had told me that they were glad to 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:16.679 see me. I didn't know it at the time, but 0:14:16.760 --> 0:14:21.960 Bau was thirsty those simple words letting him know that 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:26.960 I cared were like life giving water. Today bo is married. 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:30.360 He introduced me to his children. He's setting a new 0:14:30.440 --> 0:14:34.960 standard for his family. What am I saying? Nobody is 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:38.760 in your life by accident. Don't ignore what you feel 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:44.000 on the inside, that compassion to encourage them, that desire 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:48.280 to be their friend. They're thirsty. You have the water. 0:14:49.200 --> 0:14:52.800 Take time to make them feel loved. Doesn't have to 0:14:52.840 --> 0:14:56.000 be something big. Just good to see you. I believe 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:59.000 in you. I'm praying for you. Just let them know 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:03.440 that you can. We're so busy these days. We've got 0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:07.320 our own challenges. If we're not careful, we'll pass right 0:15:07.440 --> 0:15:11.880 by the thirsty people. If there's no greater feeling than 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:15.720 to give them water. Nothing is more rewarding than to 0:15:15.800 --> 0:15:19.240 help someone else rise higher. And when we come to 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:22.040 the end of life, we can be known for a 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:25.840 lot of things. We were successful in our career. Joel 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:29.040 had a big church, She was talented. They lived in 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:32.080 a nice place. That's all good, nothing wrong with that, 0:15:32.800 --> 0:15:36.680 But I'd rather people say about me. Joel was a healer. 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:40.760 He lifted me when I was down. He encouraged me 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:44.080 when I felt stuck. He told me I could accomplish 0:15:44.200 --> 0:15:48.000 dreams that I never thought I could accomplish. Where are 0:15:48.000 --> 0:15:52.840 the healers? Where are the lifters? There are enough people 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:59.160 saying negative, critical, judgmental words. Our attitude should be who 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:02.680 can I bless to? Who can I help heal? Who 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:06.600 can I feel better about themselves? Why don't you start 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:11.040 with your own family? How long has it been since 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:13.960 you've told the people in your life, I love you, 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:19.320 I'm glad you're mine. Don't let a stranger complement your 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:23.800 spouse more than you do. Don't let a coach, a teacher, 0:16:23.920 --> 0:16:28.080 a friend make your children feel more special than you 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:33.840 do every day. Bless your children with your words. Tell 0:16:33.880 --> 0:16:36.840 them how proud you are of them, Tell them what 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:41.160 they can to come, call out their seeds of greatness. 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:44.960 Remind them that they're made in the image of Almighty God, 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:48.680 that they are full of potential, that they're supposed to 0:16:48.760 --> 0:16:52.600 go further than you, that the anointing is increasing with 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:56.640 each generation. They have so much to deal with these days, 0:16:57.080 --> 0:17:02.360 the social chatter, all the bullying, the hurtful words. But 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:06.600 when you tell your child I love you, I'm blessed 0:17:06.600 --> 0:17:09.879 to have you as my child, that's not only helping 0:17:09.920 --> 0:17:13.520 to heal the wounds, but that's protecting them. That's what 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:17.520 causes those hurtful words to bounce off of them. The 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:21.040 more people speak negative over you and your family, your friends, 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:24.639 the more you need to speak these positive, faith filled, 0:17:24.760 --> 0:17:30.320 healing words. Growing up in our family, there were five 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:33.560 of us children. When it was one of our birthdays, 0:17:34.000 --> 0:17:38.360 my mother had a special tradition at dinner time, we 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:41.639 all had to say one good thing about the person 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:44.520 that was having a birthday. I didn't like doing that. 0:17:45.119 --> 0:17:48.800 I wasn't used to expressing my feelings, especially when it 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:51.640 was my brother Paul's birthday and it took me thirty 0:17:51.680 --> 0:17:55.119 minutes to think of something good. But I thought, Mama, 0:17:55.200 --> 0:17:58.400 they know I love them, they know they're special, they 0:17:58.440 --> 0:18:02.960 know they're beautiful. But my thoughts weren't blessing anybody. My 0:18:03.080 --> 0:18:07.439 thoughts weren't bringing healing. I realize now my parents weren't 0:18:07.520 --> 0:18:10.840 just doing that to make the birthday person feel special. 0:18:10.920 --> 0:18:13.760 That was one reason, But they were teaching us the 0:18:13.800 --> 0:18:18.360 importance of speaking the blessing, of verbalizing what we liked, 0:18:18.600 --> 0:18:22.840 of being free with our compliments. I wouldn't be standing 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:26.720 here without all the people that have spoken the blessing 0:18:26.840 --> 0:18:30.080 over my life. So many people have told me I 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:33.560 could do things I never dreamed I could do. I 0:18:33.600 --> 0:18:37.000 had a coach my freshman year of high school. I 0:18:37.080 --> 0:18:41.120 was very small, about six inches shorter than average. They 0:18:41.160 --> 0:18:44.080 called me peanut. I was on the Hey, don't laugh, 0:18:44.359 --> 0:18:47.800 I was on the basketball team. And of course in 0:18:47.880 --> 0:18:51.160 high school there were a lot more kids than junior high. 0:18:51.280 --> 0:18:54.960 It was a lot more competitive. I was a little intimidated, 0:18:55.000 --> 0:18:57.840 thinking how am I going to play basketball with all 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:01.879 these bigger guys. I was walking down the hallway at 0:19:01.920 --> 0:19:04.320 school with some of my friends on the basketball team. 0:19:04.800 --> 0:19:08.040 My coach called me over. He's a big, tough guy. 0:19:08.520 --> 0:19:11.800 He said, hey, Peanut, come over here. That didn't make 0:19:11.840 --> 0:19:14.800 me feel too confident. He called me peanut too. All 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:18.040 my friends were standing around watching. He leaned down to 0:19:18.080 --> 0:19:21.360 my level. He said, listen to here, Peanut. You may 0:19:21.400 --> 0:19:24.840 be small, but you have a big heart, and you're 0:19:24.880 --> 0:19:27.960 going to do great this year. In fact, you're going 0:19:28.000 --> 0:19:32.000 to be my starting point guard. When he said that, 0:19:32.560 --> 0:19:35.480 I felt ten feet tall. I went out and played 0:19:35.520 --> 0:19:39.800 like I was Michael Jordan. I'm white. I still can't jump, 0:19:39.840 --> 0:19:43.560 but I'm fast, but my coach. He didn't have to 0:19:43.600 --> 0:19:46.679 say that. He could have just thought it, or he 0:19:46.680 --> 0:19:50.360 could have told me in private. But when you compliment 0:19:50.520 --> 0:19:55.400 someone in front of people, it carries more weight, it's magnified. 0:19:55.960 --> 0:19:58.000 And yes, there are times you need to do it 0:19:58.040 --> 0:20:01.640 in private, but when you can and speak a blessing 0:20:01.760 --> 0:20:04.919 in public. After all, a lot of people don't have 0:20:04.920 --> 0:20:09.160 any problem saying negative things in front of people. Why 0:20:09.200 --> 0:20:12.160 don't you spread some good things about the people you love. 0:20:12.760 --> 0:20:16.120 Use your words to help push them into their destinies, 0:20:16.640 --> 0:20:20.520 to encourage them to pursue their dreams, to let them 0:20:20.560 --> 0:20:24.400 know that you believe in them. So many times, you 0:20:24.440 --> 0:20:27.920 can see things in people that they can't see in themselves. 0:20:28.560 --> 0:20:32.679 Your blessing, your encouragement can be what causes them to 0:20:32.760 --> 0:20:36.240 step up to who they were created to be. Your 0:20:36.320 --> 0:20:41.320 destiny is connected to the people God's put in your life. 0:20:41.359 --> 0:20:44.040 If you're going to reach your full potential, this is 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:47.960 not an option. Look around. Who can you bless? Who 0:20:47.960 --> 0:20:52.000 can you help heal? Who can you show favor to? Well? Joel, 0:20:52.080 --> 0:20:55.000 as soon as my husband starts doing what I want 0:20:55.040 --> 0:20:58.400 him to do, then I'll start encouraging him. Then I'll 0:20:58.440 --> 0:21:03.000 compliment him. Key if you'll quit nagging him for what 0:21:03.119 --> 0:21:07.120 he's doing wrong and start praising him for what he's 0:21:07.160 --> 0:21:12.120 doing right, then he'll begin to change. People respond to praise, 0:21:12.800 --> 0:21:17.400 not criticism, not being nag not being berated. The scripture 0:21:17.480 --> 0:21:20.720 even says it is better to live in the desert 0:21:21.240 --> 0:21:24.720 than with a nagging wife. Can I expand it? A 0:21:24.840 --> 0:21:29.040 nagging husband, a nagging friend, a nagging neighbor. Don't be 0:21:29.080 --> 0:21:33.200 a nagger. Nobody wants to be around somebody. It's always 0:21:33.280 --> 0:21:37.560 harping on them, pouring out what's wrong, finding fault. I 0:21:37.600 --> 0:21:42.000 heard a saying some people are like clouds. When they disappear, 0:21:42.400 --> 0:21:47.840 it's a beautiful day. We should be so full of encouragement, 0:21:48.560 --> 0:21:52.200 so full of compliments, that people want to be around us. 0:21:52.520 --> 0:21:55.639 They're glad to see us coming. Not turn around and 0:21:55.720 --> 0:22:00.640 head off toward the desert. Ladies, instead of nagging you husband, 0:22:00.960 --> 0:22:03.600 why don't you mow the lawn? Can't you see how 0:22:03.680 --> 0:22:07.360 high the grass is? Next time, try a different approach. 0:22:07.840 --> 0:22:10.080 When you see him out there mowing it, tell him 0:22:10.119 --> 0:22:13.560 how strong he is, and how muscular he looks, and 0:22:13.640 --> 0:22:16.600 what a great physique you have. You are so handsome. 0:22:16.840 --> 0:22:19.119 You brag on him like that he'll mow the lawn 0:22:19.119 --> 0:22:26.119 every day. Praise, encouragement, honor, that's what people respond to. 0:22:27.240 --> 0:22:30.000 A man opened his front door one morning and was 0:22:30.040 --> 0:22:32.679 about to go out and get his newspaper, but the 0:22:32.760 --> 0:22:36.040 dog from across the street was sitting on his front 0:22:36.080 --> 0:22:39.560 porch with his newspaper in his mouth. The man was 0:22:39.640 --> 0:22:42.560 pleasantly surprised he didn't have to walk out to the 0:22:42.640 --> 0:22:45.480 curb to get it. He started petting the dog and 0:22:45.560 --> 0:22:48.480 praising him. He even went in and got a treat, 0:22:48.720 --> 0:22:51.840 came back and brought it to the dog. The next morning, 0:22:52.080 --> 0:22:54.760 the man opened his front door and there were eight 0:22:55.000 --> 0:22:58.360 newspapers on his front porch. The dog had gone from 0:22:58.400 --> 0:23:03.560 house to house picking up different newspapers. Like that animal, 0:23:03.840 --> 0:23:08.239 we respond to praise. I have these friends that had 0:23:08.240 --> 0:23:11.440 been coming to Lakewood my whole life since it started. 0:23:11.600 --> 0:23:15.080 They're my parents' age, and they've always been very supportive, 0:23:15.119 --> 0:23:17.400 and they used to sit on the front road during 0:23:17.440 --> 0:23:20.520 the early service before the wife went to be with 0:23:20.600 --> 0:23:24.400 the Lord. After our prayer time. I would always go over, 0:23:25.000 --> 0:23:27.640 give her a hug and tell her that I loved her. 0:23:28.240 --> 0:23:31.239 She would always tell me how proud she was of 0:23:31.280 --> 0:23:35.720 me and how handsome I was. Anytime I saw her, 0:23:36.160 --> 0:23:40.080 I made sure to go say hi. She thought I 0:23:40.119 --> 0:23:42.200 was just coming over to tell her I loved her. 0:23:42.520 --> 0:23:45.359 She didn't realize I was coming to see if I 0:23:45.400 --> 0:23:49.960 was still handsome. Later in life, she's way up in 0:23:49.960 --> 0:23:54.080 her eighties. She started having some dementia and wasn't real clear, 0:23:54.119 --> 0:23:56.720 And all of her thinking didn't matter to me. As 0:23:56.720 --> 0:23:58.840 long as she told me I was handsome, I knew 0:23:58.920 --> 0:24:04.040 she was. Okay. What am I saying? Everyone needs encouragement. 0:24:04.800 --> 0:24:09.159 Everyone needs somebody that's cheering them on, somebody that sees 0:24:09.240 --> 0:24:13.679 the best, somebody that tells you you're still handsome. You 0:24:13.720 --> 0:24:16.480 can be that person for the people in your life. 0:24:17.240 --> 0:24:19.640 You can be the one they count on, the one 0:24:19.640 --> 0:24:23.200 that doesn't find fault, the one that has healing words, 0:24:23.720 --> 0:24:27.760 words that uplift, words that encourage. If there are no 0:24:27.920 --> 0:24:32.160 compliments in your home, no praise, no encouragement, If it's 0:24:32.200 --> 0:24:35.400 all nagging, why don't you do better? That other person 0:24:35.840 --> 0:24:38.560 is not going to want to come home. The reason 0:24:38.680 --> 0:24:41.040 I went to see my friend every time she was 0:24:41.080 --> 0:24:45.240 there is because she lifted me. She fueled me, She 0:24:45.440 --> 0:24:48.879 made me want to do better. Why don't you start 0:24:48.920 --> 0:24:52.560 doing that? In your home. You can change the atmosphere. 0:24:53.119 --> 0:24:56.840 You can bring healing to a relationship. It starts with 0:24:56.960 --> 0:25:02.560 your words, by blessing your spouse, blessing your children, complimenting them. 0:25:03.000 --> 0:25:05.600 I love you, I'm proud of you, I'm glad you're 0:25:05.640 --> 0:25:09.720 in my life. Compliments are the glue that hold a 0:25:09.800 --> 0:25:14.320 relationship together. They have enough people already pushing them down, 0:25:15.040 --> 0:25:19.040 the accusers, already telling them everything they're not. Why don't 0:25:19.080 --> 0:25:22.160 you use your words to build them up, to tell 0:25:22.200 --> 0:25:24.879 them what they can become, to make them feel better 0:25:24.920 --> 0:25:29.040 about themselves. My mother had polio when she was a child. 0:25:29.560 --> 0:25:32.600 She had to wear braces on her legs. Now one 0:25:32.680 --> 0:25:36.080 leg is much smaller than the other. For years she 0:25:36.240 --> 0:25:39.320 was very self conscious about it. She tried to cover 0:25:39.400 --> 0:25:42.600 them up and wear clothes that would hide them. But 0:25:42.720 --> 0:25:46.040 in her early thirties, not long after she married my father, 0:25:46.640 --> 0:25:49.240 a guest minister was coming to speak at the church. 0:25:49.840 --> 0:25:53.600 This man's always positive and uplifting, and my mother was 0:25:53.680 --> 0:25:56.760 walking in front of him. He turned to my father 0:25:56.840 --> 0:26:00.840 and said, John, look at Dodie. She walks like a princess. 0:26:01.840 --> 0:26:05.040 Up to that point, my mother had never heard anything 0:26:05.160 --> 0:26:08.280 good about how she walked. In fact, she was kind 0:26:08.280 --> 0:26:11.080 of embarrassed by it because she walks with a limp, 0:26:11.640 --> 0:26:14.560 she has to walk much slower. But when she heard 0:26:14.640 --> 0:26:18.720 him say that, it changed her whole attitude. She quit 0:26:18.760 --> 0:26:21.840 being embarrassed by it. She put her shoulders back and 0:26:21.880 --> 0:26:26.080 started walking like she was royalty. That was over forty 0:26:26.200 --> 0:26:30.679 years ago, and my mother remembers that like it was yesterday. 0:26:31.840 --> 0:26:36.480 One compliment can have an impact for a lifetime. But 0:26:36.560 --> 0:26:39.040 what if that man would have just thought it and 0:26:39.080 --> 0:26:41.840 not said it. What if he had talked himself out 0:26:41.880 --> 0:26:45.160 of it, maybe my mother would still be self conscious. 0:26:45.480 --> 0:26:50.440 Don't withhold your blessing, your encouragement, your compliments. That can 0:26:50.520 --> 0:26:53.480 be what causes them to step up to who they 0:26:53.480 --> 0:26:56.879 were created to be. There are people in your life 0:26:56.960 --> 0:27:01.040 right now that need your healing. They need your blessing, 0:27:01.680 --> 0:27:06.200 they need your encouragement. They're thirsty. You have life giving water. 0:27:07.000 --> 0:27:09.600 You can be the one that helps them walk like 0:27:09.640 --> 0:27:12.560 a princess for the next forty years. You can be 0:27:12.680 --> 0:27:16.199 the one that reminds them that they're beautiful and the 0:27:16.320 --> 0:27:20.320 change of depression will be broken. Look around this week, 0:27:20.960 --> 0:27:24.200 live with the attitude. Who can I bless Who can 0:27:24.240 --> 0:27:27.280 I help heal who can I help push into their destiny? 0:27:28.080 --> 0:27:31.760 If you'll develop this habit of speaking healing words, I 0:27:31.840 --> 0:27:35.119 believe and declare you're not only going to help others 0:27:35.200 --> 0:27:37.800 rise higher, but those seeds are going to come back 0:27:37.800 --> 0:27:40.760 to you. God is going to cause you to rise higher. 0:27:41.119 --> 0:27:46.000 You're going to accomplish dreams, overcome obstacles, and become everything 0:27:46.320 --> 0:27:49.840 God's created you to be. 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