Having Confidence In Yourself

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Start your comeback at Purdueglobal dot edu. 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:33.920 Hi, this is Joel and Victoria. Thanks for listening to 0:01:34.000 --> 0:01:36.720 our podcast and thanks for supporting the ministry. 0:01:36.880 --> 0:01:39.240 If you enjoy today's message, why don't you be a 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:40.759 blessing and share it with a friend. 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:43.800 We appreciate you and pray for God's very best in 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:57.480 your life. Now, God bless you. It's a joy to 0:01:57.600 --> 0:02:00.960 come into your homes. We love you, we know God 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:03.400 has good things in store for you, and we just 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:06.120 appreciate you tuning in and if you're ever in our area. 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:08.560 I hope you stop by and be a part of 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:10.560 one of our services. I promise you it will make 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:13.000 you feel right at home. But thanks for being with 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:15.240 us today. Thanks for all of you for coming out 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:17.400 as well. I like to get started each week with 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:20.000 something funny, and I heard about this man. He was 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:23.480 quietly reading his newspaper. His wife snuck up behind him 0:02:23.560 --> 0:02:25.519 and hit him on the head with a frying pan. 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:28.959 He said, what was that for? She said, that was 0:02:29.040 --> 0:02:31.400 for the note I found in your pocket with the 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:34.280 name Mary Lou on it. He said, oh, honey, that 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:36.519 was just one of the horses that I bet on 0:02:36.760 --> 0:02:40.800 at the racetrack last week. She apologized when about her business, 0:02:40.919 --> 0:02:43.040 and three days later she snuck up and hit him 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:45.320 on the head with a bigger frying pan. When he 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:47.200 came to, he said, what in the world was that for? 0:02:47.720 --> 0:02:54.119 She said, your horse just called you. All right, hold 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:56.679 up your Bible, say it like you mean it. This 0:02:57.000 --> 0:02:59.680 is my Bible. I am what it says I am. 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:02.959 I have what it says I have. I can do 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:05.799 what it says I can do. Today I will be 0:03:05.919 --> 0:03:10.120 taught the word of God. I boldly confess. My mind 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:13.840 is alert, my heart is receptive, I will never be 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:19.240 the same. In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:22.280 to talk to you today about your self esteem and 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:26.280 how important it is to think the right thoughts about ourselves. 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:30.040 Every one of us has a conversation going on with 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:35.840 ourselves throughout the day. It's called our internal dialogue. In fact, 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:38.880 we talk more to ourselves than we do anybody else, 0:03:39.640 --> 0:03:42.520 and sometimes we've been doing it for so long it's 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:46.200 like a record that plays over and over. This can 0:03:46.280 --> 0:03:50.000 either be good or bad. It depends on how we're 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:54.040 talking to ourselves. What do you meditate on positive thoughts, 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:58.760 empowering thoughts, affirming thoughts, or do you go around, like 0:03:58.840 --> 0:04:03.200 a lot of people think negative, defeated thoughts. I'm unattractive, 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:06.680 I'm not talented. I've made a lot of mistakes, Joel, 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:10.200 I'm sure God's not pleased with me. It's this kind 0:04:10.240 --> 0:04:13.600 of negative self talk that keeps so many people from 0:04:13.720 --> 0:04:16.680 rising higher. And when I say we talk to ourselves, 0:04:16.960 --> 0:04:21.480 sometimes it's even subconsciously. You're not even really thinking about it, 0:04:21.839 --> 0:04:24.120 but in the back of your mind you have these 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:29.960 reoccurring thoughts, and for most people it's always negative. I'm clumsy, 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:33.320 I'll never overcome my past. I don't have what it takes. 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:37.080 All through the day, they allow this defeated voice to 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:41.560 talk to them. They see somebody that's successful, somebody that's achieving, 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:44.240 that voice tells them that will never happen for me. 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:47.000 I don't have what they have. I'm not that talented. 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:51.200 Or they see somebody that's in shape, somebody that looks good, healthy, 0:04:51.600 --> 0:04:54.680 that voice tells them, I'm just not that disciplined. I'll 0:04:54.720 --> 0:04:58.279 never get back in shape. There's something on the inside 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:03.200 that's constantly telling something is wrong with them. You're not 0:05:03.320 --> 0:05:06.520 a good mother, you didn't work hard enough last week, 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:09.720 you got too many weaknesses. And if we make the 0:05:09.800 --> 0:05:13.120 mistake of dwelling on these lines and we allow this 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:17.360 negative self talk to take root, it not only saddens 0:05:17.400 --> 0:05:20.280 our spirit, but it limits how high we can go 0:05:20.440 --> 0:05:24.480 in life. And too many people are in mediocrity because 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:28.840 they're constantly playing that negative record day after day, over 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:31.839 and over again. And I found that some of these 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:36.400 wrong thinking patterns has started way back from childhood. The 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:39.880 people that should have been nurturing us and telling us 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:42.840 what we could become, building our confidence, they did just 0:05:42.920 --> 0:05:45.800 the opposite. I know people that are stuck in a 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:51.160 rut all because growing up, somebody mistreated them, somebody rejected them, 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:55.479 a parent of spouse spoke negative words over them. They 0:05:55.520 --> 0:05:57.520 didn't know any better. They just let it take root. 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:01.720 And now those wrong thinking or what's keeping them from 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:05.240 becoming all God's created them to be. It starts right here. 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:10.040 We have to reprogram our computer. Please, don't lie in 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:13.360 bed every morning thinking about everything that's wrong with you. 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:17.719 Don't lie there and rehearse all your mistakes, thinking about 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:20.200 what you can't do and how you don't have what 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:23.760 it takes. Does it matter who may have told you that, 0:06:24.000 --> 0:06:27.040 doesn't matter who has rejected you, doesn't matter how many 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:29.640 times you've tried and failed. You've got to shake that 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:33.000 off and put on the new record. You should be 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:35.600 dwelling on things like I am a child of the 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:38.840 Most High God. I have a bright future. God is 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:42.920 pleased with me. I am talented, I am creative, I 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:46.880 have what it takes. I will fulfill my destiny. That's 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:51.520 the way we should be talking to ourselves, not in arrogance, 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:55.520 but in a quiet confidence deep down on the inside. 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:58.400 All through the day, we should hear things like I 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:02.600 am annoying. It called I am chosen, I am equipped, 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:07.120 this is my season. Our internal dialogue should always be 0:07:07.320 --> 0:07:11.320 positive and hopeful. We should always talk to ourselves with 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:15.440 these empowering, affirming thoughts. We have to get out of 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:20.000 the habit of thinking negative faults toward ourselves. Don't go 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:24.960 around ever saying I'm so slow, I'm unattractive, I'll never 0:07:25.120 --> 0:07:28.880 overcome my past. Now, get those phrases out of your vocabulary. 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:31.720 If you make the mistake of dwelling on that junk, 0:07:32.080 --> 0:07:34.960 it will set the limits for your life. And you 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:36.800 may have gone through a lot in the past, you 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:40.200 may have had some unfair things happen, but don't allow 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:44.080 that to continue to pull you down by constantly playing 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:48.280 the negative record about yourself. You believe what you say 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:51.880 about yourself more than you believe what anybody else says. Now, 0:07:51.920 --> 0:07:53.880 I can tell you all day long that God's got 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:56.160 a great plan for your life. He has a bright 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:59.440 future in store for you. But until you get it 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:02.960 down on the inside and start replaying it over and 0:08:03.120 --> 0:08:05.560 over throughout the day, it's not going to do you 0:08:05.640 --> 0:08:09.320 any good. And I'm asking you today to pay attention 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:13.000 to how you talk to yourself. And I never want 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:15.440 to come off as being arrogant, But you know what 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:18.280 plays in my mind all day long. Joy. You have 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:20.800 what it takes. You can do what God's called you 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:24.200 to do. You're talented, you're creative, you're strong in the Lord. 0:08:24.240 --> 0:08:27.880 You're well able to fulfill your destiny. If you, too, 0:08:28.120 --> 0:08:31.120 will talk to yourself in the right way, you'll not 0:08:31.280 --> 0:08:34.959 only enjoy your life more, but you'll rise higher to 0:08:35.120 --> 0:08:37.640 a new level of confidence, a new level of boldness, 0:08:37.720 --> 0:08:40.319 and you'll become all that God's created. 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:40.240 You to be. 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:42.760 And I read a study where they took a group 0:08:42.840 --> 0:08:46.880 of college students and they gave them special eyeglasses that 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:51.000 turned everything upside down, totally opposite of what it should be. 0:08:51.559 --> 0:08:54.320 In the first few days, it was total confusion. They 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:57.679 were stumbling over everything. They couldn't read or write. They 0:08:57.720 --> 0:08:59.880 had to be led to class. I mean they could 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:04.760 even function. But day after day, little by little, they 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:07.400 started getting used to it. By the end of the 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:09.640 first week, they were able to go to class on 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:12.160 their own. They didn't need any help to get around. 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:15.800 And these researchers were so intrigued by it they decided 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:20.120 to keep the experiment going. After one month, those students 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:24.520 had totally adapted to it, their mind had compensated for it, 0:09:24.800 --> 0:09:27.720 and now they could read without any problem, they could write, 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:31.600 do their homework, type on the computer, all upside down. 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:35.920 This is exactly what can happen to us if we 0:09:36.080 --> 0:09:40.640 go around with these wrong mindsets long enough, telling ourselves, well, 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:43.600 I'm not a good parent, I've made too many mistakes. 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:47.800 Nothing good ever happens to me. Just like those college students, 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:51.240 even though it's totally backwards, even though it's not the 0:09:51.320 --> 0:09:55.400 way God created us, our minds will eventually adapt and 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:59.000 adjust and will end up living at that level. Some 0:09:59.160 --> 0:10:02.040 of you today, your world is kind of upside down. 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:05.920 In other words, you're living far below your potential, feeling 0:10:06.000 --> 0:10:10.079 wrong about yourself, without the confidence, the self esteem, And 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:14.440 it's all because of what you're constantly telling yourself. Your 0:10:14.600 --> 0:10:19.320 internal dialogue is negative. You have to change that before 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:22.960 anything else will change. I saw a lady on television 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:25.480 last week. She had lost one hundred and seventy five 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:28.720 pounds and she had surgery to remove the excess skin, 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:31.960 and everything went great. They showed the before and after 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:36.199 picture and she looked fantastic. Night and day difference, But 0:10:36.440 --> 0:10:39.520 several months later, they went back to interview her, and 0:10:39.640 --> 0:10:43.600 she was so depressed. She would hardly eat anything, no joy, 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:46.800 no victory. And they said, hey, what's wrong. You look great, 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:50.559 you look fantastic. She said, yeah, that's what everybody's telling me. 0:10:51.080 --> 0:10:54.480 But I guess in my mind, I'll always be a fat, 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:58.520 unattractive lady. I thought, you hit the nail on the head. 0:10:58.720 --> 0:11:02.040 It's in your mind. She had changed on the outside, 0:11:02.520 --> 0:11:05.360 but she had not changed on the inside. She was 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:09.479 still playing that old negative record, I'm fat, I'm unattractive, 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:12.079 I'll never be happy. She could have gotten down to 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:14.760 ninety pounds, she still wouldn't have been happy. You gotta 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:18.640 quit listening to all the voices that are pulling you down. 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:21.199 You may not look like you stepped out of a 0:11:21.280 --> 0:11:24.000 fashion magazine, but I can tell you this. You were 0:11:24.120 --> 0:11:27.640 made in the image of Almighty God. God formed you 0:11:28.040 --> 0:11:32.800 with his own hands. Quit allowing those negative voices to 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:36.080 put you down. Don't ever say to yourself, I'm fat, 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:39.160 I'm unattractive, I'll never lose this way, I don't like 0:11:39.280 --> 0:11:42.800 my hair. No, as long as you're rejecting yourself, you 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:45.640 will never be happy, and you will be amazed at 0:11:46.040 --> 0:11:48.560 how much more you'll enjoy your life and how much 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:51.319 better you will feel if you'll learn to talk to 0:11:51.440 --> 0:11:55.000 yourself in the right way, in a positive manner. And 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:57.480 even when we make mistakes, even when we do wrong, 0:11:57.840 --> 0:12:00.240 don't go around saying, well, I can't do anything right, 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:04.400 I'm so clumsy, I'm so slow. I've played sports with 0:12:04.559 --> 0:12:06.680 people and they make a mistake and they just beat 0:12:06.720 --> 0:12:10.000 themselves up. They'll call themselves by name, Bill, you can't 0:12:10.040 --> 0:12:13.160 make a shot, you sorry thing. No, don't ever talk 0:12:13.200 --> 0:12:15.560 to yourself like that. That's just gonna keep you right 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:18.280 where you are now. I know people that have gone 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:22.400 through setbacks in life, disappointments, failures, maybe some kind of divorce. 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:26.400 They go around so defeated, focused on what went wrong, 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:31.640 and they especially allow that negative record to just continually play. Man, 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:34.480 you blew it, you had your chance, you messed your 0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:36.920 life up. But you've got to learn to put on 0:12:37.040 --> 0:12:39.880 that new record. You need to be telling yourself things 0:12:40.040 --> 0:12:43.880 like I am forgiven, I am restored. God has a 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:46.839 new plan. Good things are in store. And I'm not 0:12:46.960 --> 0:12:49.200 saying to just take the easy way out and blow 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:52.360 everything off. But what I am saying is It does 0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:55.200 not do us any good to go around feeling wrong 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:58.640 about ourselves. And I know people that just live with 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:02.360 that black cloud falling them around, a vague feeling. They 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:05.200 can't even put their finger on it, but something's always 0:13:05.280 --> 0:13:08.480 telling them you're not right. You've been through too much. 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:11.760 You're never gonna be happy. Listen, you cannot just sit 0:13:11.920 --> 0:13:14.640 back and accept that. You gotta rise up in your 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:17.960 authority and start talking to yourself in a new way. 0:13:18.760 --> 0:13:21.040 All through the day, you should be telling yourself things 0:13:21.200 --> 0:13:24.319 like something good is gonna happen to me. God is 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:26.800 pleased with me, I have a bright future. The best 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.719 is still yet to come. You've got to change on 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:33.880 the inside before it's ever gonna happen on the outside. 0:13:34.679 --> 0:13:38.520 Pay attention to how you're talking to yourself. What kind 0:13:38.559 --> 0:13:41.120 of record is playing in your mind throughout the day. 0:13:41.920 --> 0:13:44.320 It would do us all good to lie in bed 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:47.520 in the morning and before we get up on purpose, 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:51.640 think good thoughts about ourselves. I'm a good parent, I'm 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:54.640 a good leader, I'm a good husband, I have a 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:57.839 bright future. God is pleased with me. We need to 0:13:57.920 --> 0:14:01.559 learn to think these thoughts on part us. I was 0:14:01.640 --> 0:14:04.840 blessed to be raised by parents that instilled this kind 0:14:04.880 --> 0:14:08.120 of confidence and self esteem in me. Growing up, my 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:10.600 parents always told me what I could do and how 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:14.000 proud they were of me. And having these nurturing people 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:17.559 in our lives, especially at a young age when we're 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:21.720 forming so many of our thought patterns, is very important. Parents, 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:25.080 I would encourage you to make sure that you instill 0:14:25.360 --> 0:14:30.200 these qualities into your children. They need your love, your encouragement, 0:14:30.440 --> 0:14:34.680 your approval, your affirmation. Don't ever put your children down. 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:38.680 Don't ever say things like why can't you make good 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:41.640 grades like your brother when you're just not very smart. 0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:43.600 If you keep that up, you're not going out to anything. 0:14:44.360 --> 0:14:47.600 You know, those words are like seeds. They can take 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:50.600 root and still be playing in their mind years and 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:53.760 years from now, and especially when our children are small 0:14:53.840 --> 0:14:56.680 and we have to correct them. Don't make the mistake 0:14:56.720 --> 0:14:59.440 of saying things like, well, you're just a bad boy 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:03.560 a bad girl. Now, they're not a bad person. They 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:05.840 may have done something wrong, but they are good. They're 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:08.840 made in the image of Almighty God. God didn't make 0:15:08.880 --> 0:15:15.239 any jump and parents, we have a responsibility to instill confidence, 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:20.760 self esteem, security into our children. I wonder how many 0:15:20.880 --> 0:15:26.000 adults today struggle in those same areas, all because they 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:28.640 didn't get what they should have from their parents or 0:15:28.680 --> 0:15:32.240 from the people that raise them. Instead of empowering them 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:35.760 and affirming them, they just beat them down. Or maybe 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:39.640 they only corrected them without showing them this other side, 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:43.680 the approval side. Parents, Let's not make this mistake. I 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:47.280 love the story my brother Paul told about their son Jackson. 0:15:47.880 --> 0:15:50.240 He and his wife Jennifer have the cutest little boy. 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:53.000 It's always happy, it's so much fun to be around. 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:56.760 And every night when Jennifer takes Jackson to bed, she'll 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:59.160 tell them a story and pray with him, and then 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:02.880 just before she leaves, she'll say, now, Jackson, let me 0:16:03.040 --> 0:16:06.240 remind you who you are, and she'll go through this 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:10.600 long list of superheroes. Jackson, you're my Superman, You're my 0:16:10.800 --> 0:16:15.160 Power Ranger. You're my buzz light Year, you're my rescue Hero, 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:19.160 you're my Lightney McQueen. You're a cowboy, you're a baseball player. 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:21.880 Little Jackson, he just lies there at the big smile 0:16:21.960 --> 0:16:24.680 on his face, taking it all in. You know what 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:28.880 she's doing. She's given him fuel for his internal dialogue, 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:32.080 even though he's only three years old. Jennifer, in her 0:16:32.120 --> 0:16:35.800 own unique way, is saying to him, Jackson, you're special, 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:38.680 you're valuable, You're going to do great things in life. 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:41.880 Then she goes through this same routine when she puts 0:16:41.920 --> 0:16:51.800 my brother Paul to bed. I couldn't resist, but instead 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:57.120 of using buzz light Year, she uses Elvis something funny. 0:16:57.200 --> 0:16:59.800 Half in the other day, they got home late and 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:02.960 Jennifer took Jackson to bed in a hurry, and she 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:05.639 couldn't go through the long list of superheroes. And a 0:17:05.720 --> 0:17:08.200 few minutes later she heard this little voice calling out 0:17:08.240 --> 0:17:12.040 from upstairs, Mama, Mama. Jennifer ran over there, said, yes, Jackson, 0:17:12.119 --> 0:17:15.240 what's wrong? He said, Mama, you forgot to tell me 0:17:15.560 --> 0:17:20.119 who I am. And really, there's a deeper truth to 0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:23.439 that simple statement. I found. If we don't tell our 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:25.960 children who they are, somebody else will. 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:26.639 Now. 0:17:26.680 --> 0:17:30.280 I don't know about you, but I'm going to tell 0:17:30.359 --> 0:17:33.680 my children. You've got what it takes. There's nothing you 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:37.160 can't do. Mother and Daddy are behind you. We're proud 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:39.399 of you. We believe in you. You are destined to 0:17:39.480 --> 0:17:43.760 do great things. Speak the blessing over your children, Speak 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:47.640 victory over their lives. They need your encouragement. They need 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:50.560 your approval, help them to have a big vision for 0:17:50.640 --> 0:17:54.240 their lives. I think about Moses. When he was born, 0:17:54.800 --> 0:17:57.479 the king put out a decree that all the children 0:17:57.560 --> 0:18:00.159 two years of age and under would be killed, and 0:18:00.240 --> 0:18:03.760 so Moses' mother hid him away. Eventually she put him 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:06.120 in a basket and sent him down the Nile River, 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:09.600 and one of Faedro's daughters found him and raised him. 0:18:10.200 --> 0:18:13.800 But Moses never knew his earthly father. He didn't have 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:17.280 that person speaking the blessing into his life. And many 0:18:17.400 --> 0:18:21.000 years later, God came to Moses and says, Moses, I'm 0:18:21.160 --> 0:18:25.280 choosing you to deliver the people of Israel. And it's interesting. 0:18:25.440 --> 0:18:28.920 The first words out of Moses's mouth were, God, who 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:32.160 am I? See when we don't tell our children who 0:18:32.200 --> 0:18:35.560 they are, when we don't instill the confidence and self 0:18:35.680 --> 0:18:39.040 esteem in them, it causes them to struggle with their identity, 0:18:39.520 --> 0:18:42.080 with who they are, with what they can do. God 0:18:42.160 --> 0:18:44.000 said Moses, don't say who am I. You're the one 0:18:44.040 --> 0:18:47.480 that I've chosen. Then Moses asked another question. He said, 0:18:47.520 --> 0:18:50.920 but God, who will listen to me? You know, God, 0:18:50.960 --> 0:18:53.919 I'm not a good speaker. You know I stutter. Notice 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:56.760 his lack of confidence. He too was playing the wrong 0:18:56.880 --> 0:19:00.800 record in his mind, no doubt, in part because he 0:19:00.880 --> 0:19:04.080 didn't have a father, a mother, or people speaking the 0:19:04.240 --> 0:19:08.720 right things into his life. Like Moses. Maybe you didn't 0:19:08.760 --> 0:19:11.640 have that either, But the good news is that does 0:19:11.720 --> 0:19:14.679 not have to hold you back in life. Your earthly 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:17.280 father may not have told you who you are, but 0:19:17.440 --> 0:19:20.040 allow me to help you out. You are a child 0:19:20.280 --> 0:19:21.280 of the most hied God. 0:19:23.119 --> 0:19:23.879 You have been. 0:19:23.920 --> 0:19:28.160 Crowned with God's glory and honor. You can do all 0:19:28.359 --> 0:19:32.280 things through Christ. You are full of potential. You are 0:19:32.400 --> 0:19:36.440 overflowing with creativity. There's nothing in your heart that you 0:19:36.560 --> 0:19:41.400 cannot accomplish. You have courage, strength, and ability. The favor 0:19:41.480 --> 0:19:44.680 of God surround you. Wherever you go, whatever you touch 0:19:44.800 --> 0:19:47.440 is going to prosper and succeed. You are blessed and 0:19:47.560 --> 0:19:51.480 you cannot be curse. That's who you really are. Now 0:19:51.520 --> 0:19:54.400 you got to put your shoulders back, hold your head 0:19:54.440 --> 0:19:56.320 up I and don't do like Moses and say who 0:19:56.359 --> 0:19:59.760 am I. You need to start telling yourself I am victorious, 0:20:00.160 --> 0:20:02.720 I am well able, I am more than a conquer 0:20:02.800 --> 0:20:05.520 I am the head and not the tell You got 0:20:05.640 --> 0:20:09.120 to get your thoughts going in the right direction toward yourself. 0:20:09.960 --> 0:20:12.120 All through the day, you should be thinking these things. 0:20:12.640 --> 0:20:15.920 And when the old negative record comes back, well, I'm 0:20:15.920 --> 0:20:18.480 not a very good parent. I've made a lot of mistakes. 0:20:18.520 --> 0:20:21.359 I'm sure God's not pleased with me. Now, just let 0:20:21.480 --> 0:20:23.679 that be a reminder to put on the new record. 0:20:23.920 --> 0:20:27.440 I'm anointed, i am well able, good things are in store. 0:20:28.320 --> 0:20:31.200 We have to make sure we keep the right record, 0:20:31.280 --> 0:20:34.679 the right thoughts playing in our mind. The other day 0:20:34.720 --> 0:20:36.959 I talked to a young lady here in the lobby. 0:20:37.280 --> 0:20:40.240 She was a beautiful girl. On the outside, she seems 0:20:40.280 --> 0:20:42.119 so happy, like she is on top of the world. 0:20:42.600 --> 0:20:44.760 But on the inside she had a war going on. 0:20:45.359 --> 0:20:48.680 She didn't like herself. She thought she was unattractive, she 0:20:48.800 --> 0:20:51.800 thought she was overweight. She had this long list of 0:20:51.880 --> 0:20:55.359 everything wrong with her. Come to find out, she was 0:20:55.520 --> 0:20:58.879 raised by a father that always put her down. Her 0:20:59.000 --> 0:21:02.040 father was constant telling her what was wrong with her, 0:21:02.480 --> 0:21:04.639 what she couldn't do, what she was never gonna be. 0:21:05.560 --> 0:21:07.840 And the sad thing is this young lady had gone 0:21:07.840 --> 0:21:10.840 through one marriage, gone through a second marriage, and now 0:21:11.119 --> 0:21:13.479 she was about to end her third marriage in her 0:21:13.560 --> 0:21:16.440 late twenties. And I told her what I'm telling you. 0:21:16.880 --> 0:21:20.640 You got the wrong record playing. You're constantly telling yourself 0:21:20.800 --> 0:21:24.880 I'm fat, I'm unattractive, i have nothing to offer, I'm unlovable, 0:21:25.560 --> 0:21:28.760 And as long as you're dwelling on those lives, there's 0:21:28.800 --> 0:21:31.520 going to be a war on the inside. The reason 0:21:31.600 --> 0:21:35.240 why is because you were not created to live that way. 0:21:35.960 --> 0:21:39.960 God created you to feel good about yourself. He created 0:21:40.040 --> 0:21:43.760 you to feel complete, to feel whole, to be confident, 0:21:43.840 --> 0:21:48.240 to be secure, not to constantly be against yourself. And 0:21:48.320 --> 0:21:51.240 if you cannot get along with yourself, you'll never be 0:21:51.320 --> 0:21:53.800 able to get along with other people. It'll spread over 0:21:53.880 --> 0:21:57.440 into every other relationship. And some of you today there's 0:21:57.480 --> 0:22:00.200 no peace in your home. And the problem is not 0:22:00.320 --> 0:22:02.600 the other person. You need to get at peace with 0:22:02.680 --> 0:22:05.520 who you are. You need to quit allowing the negative 0:22:05.600 --> 0:22:08.960 voice to play in your mind. Many times, like this 0:22:09.119 --> 0:22:12.360 young lady, the root cause was something that happened way 0:22:12.480 --> 0:22:15.920 back in life. What her father didn't give her, the 0:22:16.040 --> 0:22:19.720 negative record that he started, and like many people, she 0:22:19.800 --> 0:22:22.040 didn't know how to turn it all. She thought it 0:22:22.160 --> 0:22:27.720 was normal to go around feeling wrong about herself, unattractive, unlovable. Listen, 0:22:27.760 --> 0:22:30.000 you've got to draw the line in the sand. You 0:22:30.119 --> 0:22:32.359 may not have gotten everything you should have from your parents, 0:22:32.880 --> 0:22:35.680 from the people that raised you, but always remember this, 0:22:36.359 --> 0:22:39.560 it's not how we start that counts, it's how we finish. 0:22:40.119 --> 0:22:42.960 It may have been unfair, but don't use that as 0:22:42.960 --> 0:22:45.639 an excuse to stay where you are. You've got to 0:22:45.680 --> 0:22:48.720 put on the new record. You should be telling yourself 0:22:48.840 --> 0:22:51.960 every day. I am the apple of God's eye. I'm 0:22:52.040 --> 0:22:55.560 his most prized possession. I am crowned with glory and honor. 0:22:55.800 --> 0:22:59.200 I'm valuable, I'm attractive. I have a bright future in 0:22:59.280 --> 0:23:03.440 front of me. We have to understand the negative voices 0:23:03.600 --> 0:23:06.680 always cry out the loudest. You can have twenty people 0:23:06.840 --> 0:23:10.080 encouraging you, and one person will come up say something negative, 0:23:10.240 --> 0:23:12.680 and that's what you'll tend to remember. That's what we'll 0:23:12.720 --> 0:23:15.200 want to play in your mind again and again. You 0:23:15.280 --> 0:23:17.680 can do one hundred things right, and you make one 0:23:17.760 --> 0:23:21.040 mistake and you'll have to fight being guilty and condemned. 0:23:21.440 --> 0:23:25.119 The negative voices will come at you the strongest. You 0:23:25.240 --> 0:23:28.280 may have gone through some unfair, hurtful things in life, 0:23:28.560 --> 0:23:31.359 but you've got to learn to let those go. Don't 0:23:31.440 --> 0:23:34.960 keep playing that record as long as you stay focused 0:23:35.000 --> 0:23:37.600 on it. You're gonna have a war on the inside. 0:23:37.840 --> 0:23:40.560 You're not gonna feel good about yourself. The only way 0:23:40.640 --> 0:23:44.640 to change this is to get your internal dialogue going 0:23:44.720 --> 0:23:47.040 in the right direction. You got to put the new 0:23:47.119 --> 0:23:50.960 record on, start thinking the right thoughts toward yourself. I 0:23:51.000 --> 0:23:53.520 think about the children of Israel. They had been through 0:23:53.560 --> 0:23:57.280 a lot of unfair things, had been mistreated and forced 0:23:57.320 --> 0:24:00.720 to work night and day, spent years and years in slavery. 0:24:01.200 --> 0:24:04.359 But God supernaturally brought them out, and now they were 0:24:04.400 --> 0:24:07.360 about to go into their promised land. And God said 0:24:07.400 --> 0:24:11.600 there in Joshua five verse nine, this day have I 0:24:11.840 --> 0:24:15.600 rolled away the reproach of Egypt from you. And a 0:24:15.640 --> 0:24:18.840 lot of people today are living with a reproach. In 0:24:18.920 --> 0:24:22.280 other words, they don't feel good about themselves. They too 0:24:22.480 --> 0:24:25.920 have been hurt and mistreated. They allowed the negative record 0:24:25.960 --> 0:24:28.879 to play again and again, and now they go around 0:24:29.040 --> 0:24:32.480 with a chip on their shoulder down, discouraged in self pity. 0:24:33.000 --> 0:24:35.119 This is what was happening to the people of Israel. 0:24:35.640 --> 0:24:37.639 But God came along and said, hey, stop doing that. 0:24:38.119 --> 0:24:42.119 I am rolling away the reproach from you. And I 0:24:42.240 --> 0:24:45.960 believe the reproach had to be rolled away before they 0:24:46.000 --> 0:24:48.880 could go into the promised Land. It's the same thing 0:24:48.960 --> 0:24:51.960 with us. Some of you today, you're trying to live 0:24:52.000 --> 0:24:54.320 in victory, trying to be successful, trying to have a 0:24:54.359 --> 0:24:58.880 good marriage. But the problem is you are negative towards yourself, 0:25:00.000 --> 0:25:03.159 feel good about who you are. You're constantly dwelling on 0:25:03.280 --> 0:25:06.440 your past hurts and pains, and until you're willing to 0:25:06.560 --> 0:25:10.200 let go of that and start focusing on your new possibilities, 0:25:10.800 --> 0:25:12.600 then it's going to keep you right where you are. 0:25:13.520 --> 0:25:17.080 You cannot have a bad attitude toward yourself and expect 0:25:17.119 --> 0:25:20.720 to have God's best. Quit focusing on what you've done wrong. 0:25:21.359 --> 0:25:24.000 Quit having a pity party. Because of what you've been through, 0:25:24.440 --> 0:25:28.200 God has already rolled away your reproach. The reproach is 0:25:28.280 --> 0:25:32.440 the shame, the embarrassment, the failures, the set back. God 0:25:32.560 --> 0:25:35.639 has done his part. Now you've got to do your 0:25:35.760 --> 0:25:38.400 part and let it go before you can go into 0:25:38.440 --> 0:25:41.439 your promised land, before these new doors will open up. 0:25:42.240 --> 0:25:45.919 The scripture says in Philammon one, verse six, our faith 0:25:46.280 --> 0:25:50.879 is made effectual when we acknowledge everything good in us. 0:25:51.600 --> 0:25:54.879 Think about this. Our faith is not effective when we 0:25:54.960 --> 0:25:58.720 acknowledge all our hurts and pains. It's not effective when 0:25:58.760 --> 0:26:03.040 we stay focused on our shortcomings, our weaknesses. Our faith 0:26:03.320 --> 0:26:07.040 is only effective when we acknowledge the good things that 0:26:07.119 --> 0:26:10.080 are in us, things like I have a bright future, 0:26:10.400 --> 0:26:13.720 I am gifted, I am talented. People like me I 0:26:13.840 --> 0:26:17.719 have the favor of God. That's when our faith comes alive, 0:26:18.160 --> 0:26:21.639 when we believe in ourselves, when we believe we have 0:26:21.840 --> 0:26:25.359 what it takes, when we focus on our possibilities. But 0:26:25.480 --> 0:26:29.720 I found today, unfortunately, most people do just the opposite. 0:26:30.119 --> 0:26:35.639 They acknowledge everything wrong with them, even subconsciously. They've constantly 0:26:35.720 --> 0:26:38.760 got that negative record playing the back of their minds. 0:26:39.320 --> 0:26:42.159 This causes them to have a low opinion of themselves. 0:26:42.520 --> 0:26:45.840 We have to change that record. I know I'm kind 0:26:45.880 --> 0:26:49.200 of naive, but I expect people to like me. I 0:26:49.359 --> 0:26:52.120 expect people to be friendly to me. I expect people 0:26:52.200 --> 0:26:55.080 to want to help me out. I have a positive 0:26:55.240 --> 0:26:58.560 opinion about who I am. What I'm saying is, don't 0:26:58.640 --> 0:27:02.520 walk into a room timid and insecure, thinking nobody's gonna 0:27:02.600 --> 0:27:04.840 like me in here. Look at them, they're probably talking 0:27:04.840 --> 0:27:07.720 about me already. I knew I shouldn't have worn this suit. 0:27:07.760 --> 0:27:09.880 I knew I should have stayed at home. No quite 0:27:09.920 --> 0:27:14.600 expecting the worst. Quit being negative towards yourself. You've got 0:27:14.680 --> 0:27:17.920 to get your dialogue going in a different direction. Your 0:27:18.119 --> 0:27:22.119 faith is only effective when you acknowledge the good things 0:27:22.160 --> 0:27:25.119 that are in you. You need to develop a habit 0:27:25.480 --> 0:27:28.760 of being positive towards yourself. You need to have a 0:27:28.880 --> 0:27:32.639 good opinion about who you are. Well, Joel, I'm just 0:27:32.760 --> 0:27:37.480 a housewife. I'm just a business person. I'm just a schoolteacher. No, listen, 0:27:37.760 --> 0:27:41.080 You're not just anything. You're a child of the most 0:27:41.200 --> 0:27:46.040 High God. You are fulfilling your purpose. Your steps are 0:27:46.240 --> 0:27:49.240 ordered by the Lord. Goodness and mercy are following you. 0:27:49.720 --> 0:27:53.440 You are a person of destiny. Why don't you shake 0:27:53.520 --> 0:27:57.159 off the defeated voices and start talking to yourself in 0:27:57.240 --> 0:28:01.080 the right way. Change starts on the end side, and 0:28:01.200 --> 0:28:04.960 I'm asking you today to get your internal dialogue going 0:28:05.080 --> 0:28:08.399 in the right direction. Don't go around defeating yourself with 0:28:08.520 --> 0:28:11.680 your own words. Get up every morning and say to yourself, 0:28:11.920 --> 0:28:15.240 I am blessed, I am equipped, I have the favor 0:28:15.320 --> 0:28:16.960 of God. This is going to be a great day. 0:28:17.600 --> 0:28:20.119 And then all through the day, play that over and 0:28:20.320 --> 0:28:24.080 over again. Keep the right record on only dwell on 0:28:24.359 --> 0:28:29.240 positive empowering thoughts towards yourself. That's when your faith is energized. 0:28:29.680 --> 0:28:33.399 And remember, the reproach has been rolled away. You've got 0:28:33.520 --> 0:28:35.840 to let go of what didn't work out in your life. 0:28:36.480 --> 0:28:38.920 You've got to let go of all the negative voices 0:28:39.000 --> 0:28:42.240 from your past. Do not make the mistake of acknowledging 0:28:42.280 --> 0:28:45.280 what's wrong with you. Acknowledge what's right with you. Have 0:28:45.400 --> 0:28:48.280 a good opinion of who you are. If you'll get 0:28:48.320 --> 0:28:50.960 in this habit of talking to yourself the right way, 0:28:51.480 --> 0:28:55.640 with these positive, empowering thoughts, you'll not only have more confidence, 0:28:55.680 --> 0:28:58.760 you'll not only rise higher, but you'll see God's blessings 0:28:58.880 --> 0:29:01.400 and favor in a greater way. And I know you'll 0:29:01.440 --> 0:29:03.920 live the life of victory he has in story. Amen, 0:29:04.120 --> 0:29:08.320 do you receive it today. We've never liked to close 0:29:08.400 --> 0:29:11.800 our broadcast without giving you an opportunity to make Jesus 0:29:11.920 --> 0:29:14.120 the lord of your life. Would you pray with me, 0:29:14.640 --> 0:29:19.960 Say Lord Jesus, I'll repent of my sins. Come into 0:29:20.000 --> 0:29:24.960 my heart. I make you my Lord and savior. Friends, 0:29:25.000 --> 0:29:27.440 if you prayed that simple prayer, we believe you got 0:29:27.520 --> 0:29:30.560 born again. 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