Empty Out the Negative

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So she spelled the word love 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:58.000 l O vee. He said, welcome to heaven. Didn't Peter 0:01:58.160 --> 0:02:01.280 ask her if she would take place for just a moment. 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:04.160 He instructed her if anybody came up, just to follow 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:07.720 the same procedure. A few minutes, she sees her ex 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:10.840 husband walking up. She can't believe it, says, what are 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:13.360 you doing here? He said, I just had a heart attack. 0:02:13.560 --> 0:02:16.120 Did I really make it to heaven? She said, not yet. 0:02:16.400 --> 0:02:19.519 You have to spell a word correctly. He said what word? 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:25.800 There was a long pause, and she said Czechoslovakia. I 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:28.880 want to talk to you today about emptying out the negative. 0:02:29.720 --> 0:02:32.400 It's easy to go through life holding on to things 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:38.000 that are weighing us down. Guilt, resentment, doubt, worry. The 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:41.720 problem is when we allow these things in, they're taking 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:44.520 up space for the good things that should be there. 0:02:45.400 --> 0:02:49.200 Imagine your life is like a container. You were created 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:54.200 to be filled with joy, peace, confidence, creativity, But if 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:58.240 you allow worry in, it pushes out the peace. There's 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:01.840 not space for both. You can't go above one hundred percent. 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:05.280 You have a limited amount of room. If you allow 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:08.960 guilt to take up space, that's space that you don't 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:12.120 have for the confidence you need. And the reason some 0:03:12.280 --> 0:03:17.360 people don't enjoy their lives is because their container, their heart, 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:22.040 is contaminated with so many things. They have ten percent worried, 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:26.040 stressed out over their job, twelve percent bitterness, mad at 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:30.919 their neighbor, twenty percent guilt beating themselves up for past mistakes, 0:03:31.200 --> 0:03:35.200 nine percent jealousy their coworker is more beautiful. They don't 0:03:35.240 --> 0:03:39.840 realize seventy percent of their container is negative. They wonder 0:03:39.840 --> 0:03:43.560 why they don't have joy, creativity, passion. They only have 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:47.320 room for thirty percent of what they should have. The 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:51.360 scripture says give no place to the enemy. It's not 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:55.040 just talking about forces of darkness. That means give no 0:03:55.160 --> 0:03:58.840 place to guilt, give no place to worry, give no 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:02.920 place to bitterness. It can't come in and automatically take over. 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:07.440 You control what's in your container. You control what you 0:04:07.480 --> 0:04:10.880 think about, what you choose to allow in. And we 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:15.200 all have negative emotions, negative feelings. You have to make 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:19.760 the choice. I'm not going to give this jealousy, this bitterness, 0:04:19.960 --> 0:04:24.159 this anger valuable space and let it poison my life. 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:27.400 I'm going to protect what I allow in me. And 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:30.320 every morning when we wake up, we need to empty 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:34.479 out anything negative from the day before. Somebody offended you 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:37.480 at work, they didn't treat you right. It's easy to 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:41.400 let that offense stay. Feels good to carry around a grudge, 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:43.960 so you have to be disciplined. Say no, I am 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:47.200 not giving this offense any room. I Am not going 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:50.640 to let it sour my day. They hurt you once, 0:04:51.160 --> 0:04:54.279 don't let them continue to hurt you by holding on 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:58.240 to the offense. Being offended is not harming them, it's 0:04:58.279 --> 0:05:02.640 harming you. Cannot space you need for the good things 0:05:02.640 --> 0:05:05.880 that move you toward your destiny, or you wake up 0:05:05.920 --> 0:05:08.760 in the morning and thoughts of worry come. How are 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:11.000 you going to pay your bills? What if the medical 0:05:11.040 --> 0:05:14.040 report's not good, You'll never get out of this problem. 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:17.520 Don't allow that in. Don't make the mistake of dwelling 0:05:17.560 --> 0:05:20.480 on it. Just say no thanks. I know God's in control. 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:22.960 He's got me in the palm of his hand. He'll 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:26.640 get me to where I'm supposed to be. Take inventory 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:30.680 of what you're giving space to. Life is too short 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:33.799 to go through it with negative things holding us down, 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:38.000 David said in Psalm one O three. God fills my 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:41.839 life with good things, so I stay young and strong. 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:45.280 Now I've learned if you'll empty out the negative, if 0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:48.120 you'll make room, God will fill you with good things. 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:51.520 You empty out the worry, God will fill you with peace. 0:05:52.160 --> 0:05:55.880 You empty out the insecurity, negative things people have said 0:05:55.880 --> 0:05:59.719 about you. God will fill you with confidence. My question, 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:03.479 did is is God trying to fill you with good things? 0:06:03.680 --> 0:06:09.799 But there's no room. Your container is full of worry, regret, bitterness, jealousy. 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:14.039 Why don't you start emptying that out? Somebody did you wrong? 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:17.520 You could hold on to that bitterness instead, God, I 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:21.039 forgive them. I let it go. You didn't just forgive. 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:24.520 You made room for God to fill you with good things. 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:28.440 That's when he'll give you beauty for ashes, joy for morning. 0:06:29.240 --> 0:06:32.400 You're in a tough season. The medical report wasn't good. 0:06:32.880 --> 0:06:37.040 You should be stressed worried. Instead, God, I trust you. 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:40.120 You said you would restore health back into me. You 0:06:40.320 --> 0:06:43.200 just made room for God to fill you with healing. 0:06:43.680 --> 0:06:46.359 You empty out the worry. God will give you peace 0:06:46.440 --> 0:06:49.960 in the midst of the storm. Perhaps a coworker got 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:53.960 the promotion that you work so hard for, envy, jealousy 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:57.280 will come. I wish that was me. I'm smarter than 0:06:57.320 --> 0:07:01.919 they are. I don't understand that. Instead of letting that stay, God, 0:07:01.960 --> 0:07:05.000 I know you're no respector a person's You did it 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:06.880 for them, I know you can do it for me. 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:10.480 The good news is God doesn't run out of favor. 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:14.640 He doesn't have a limited supply. If you will empty 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:18.080 out the jealousy, then when it's your time to be promoted, 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:21.480 God will open doors that no man can shout. If 0:07:21.480 --> 0:07:26.080 somebody what you wanted, that simply means it wasn't supposed 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:29.960 to be yours. If they got the promotion, be happy 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:33.560 for them. God has something better for you. If they 0:07:33.600 --> 0:07:36.400 got the man you wanted to date, let's make it real. 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:39.720 If they got the girl you were interested in, don't 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:42.920 be upset. God knows what he's doing. If it worked 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:46.240 out your way, it would be second best. Bottom line, 0:07:46.400 --> 0:07:48.760 what has your name on it is not going to 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:52.880 go to anyone else. Don't go around bitter with jealousy 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:56.920 and self pity. That will poison your life. Empty it out. 0:07:57.800 --> 0:08:01.240 God is in control. He's direct your steps, and at 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:03.840 the right time, what has your name on it will 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:07.600 show up. God promises, if we will make room, he 0:08:07.640 --> 0:08:10.600 will not only fill us with good things, but he 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:14.160 will keep us young and strong. And the reason some 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:17.040 people are not young and strong, and I don't mean 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:21.600 just young physically, but young in their spirit, vibrant, passionate 0:08:21.640 --> 0:08:25.840 about life is because they're filled with the negative. Worry 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:29.840 will make you weak. Living stressed out will make you old, 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:36.080 give you wrinkles, take your passion. Being bitter, angry, resentful 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:42.520 will shorten your life. Proverb says, a relaxed attitude lengthens life. 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:45.040 You can be eighty years old and young at heart. 0:08:45.559 --> 0:08:48.760 Your spirit never ages. I met a woman in the 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:52.599 lobby A while back. It was her one hundredth birthday. 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:58.160 She was standing there, dressed impeccably beautiful, hardly had any wrinkles, 0:08:58.320 --> 0:09:01.640 full of joy, her mind was as sharp as can be. 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:05.280 I asked her what her secret was so I could 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:12.280 tell Victoria. She said, I don't worry. I let things 0:09:12.360 --> 0:09:16.880 go and I laugh a lot. She's lived by this principle. 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:20.560 You know, in one hundred years, she's had trouble. People 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:25.800 have hurt her, She's made mistakes, life has happened, Offensives 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:29.480 have come, but she hasn't held on to them. She's 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:33.720 kept emptying them out, and like God promised, he's filled 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:36.840 her life with good things, kept her young and strong. 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:40.520 I don't want to get old, grouchy, grumpy, fall apart. 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:43.600 I want to stay young, strong, good looking, full of 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:48.360 faith and joy and energy. The way this happens is 0:09:48.559 --> 0:09:52.040 give no place to the negative. Get in a habit 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:56.720 of emptying out the offenses. Empty out the worry you 0:09:56.800 --> 0:09:59.840 make a mistake, Empty out the guilt you didn't do 0:09:59.840 --> 0:10:03.199 you your best. Empty out the regret, do better next time, 0:10:03.679 --> 0:10:07.199 nobody gave you credit. Empty out the self pity. You 0:10:07.320 --> 0:10:10.120 had a bad break, you don't understand it empty out 0:10:10.120 --> 0:10:14.280 the questions. If you'll get good at emptying out the negative, 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:18.720 you'll be like this lady, strong, young, vibrant, full of faith, 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:23.000 and full of joy. Jesus said, blessed are the pure 0:10:23.160 --> 0:10:26.920 in heart. They will see God. That word pure in 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:30.719 the original language is where we get our word cathartic. 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:36.560 It means cleansing, releasing. You have surgery, sometimes the doctor 0:10:36.600 --> 0:10:40.040 will put in a catheter, same root word. It's a 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:44.080 tube that drains out the impurities of the body. You 0:10:44.120 --> 0:10:48.560 can't get up to use the facility. That catheter automatically 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:53.559 takes what's not beneficial, the toxins, the infections, the waste, 0:10:53.920 --> 0:10:57.560 and flushes them out of the body. The doctor knows 0:10:57.720 --> 0:11:01.520 there will be contaminants. He's alarmed that the body has 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:06.880 waste and infection. He's only alarmed when it's not being released, 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:10.760 when we're holding on to things that should be flushed out. 0:11:11.240 --> 0:11:14.640 When God says blessed are the pure in heart, he's 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:17.840 saying you're going to be blessed when you learn how 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:21.600 to release the impurities of life. When you get in 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:25.560 a habit like this catheter of emptying out things that 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:29.600 will infect you, you know what bitterness is to our spirit. 0:11:30.080 --> 0:11:36.280 It's infection. Guilt is infection, worry, doubt, self pity. These 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:41.040 things are not unusual. Impurities come. You have to push 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:44.760 them out. It's when we hold onto them that it 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:49.880 contaminates our spirit and causes us problems. You weren't created 0:11:49.960 --> 0:11:57.800 to carry around guilt, regret, bitterness, anger that poisons your life. Well, Joel, 0:11:57.840 --> 0:12:00.600 I'm bitter because I had a bad break. I'm sour 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:04.200 because somebody walked out on me. I say this respectfully. 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:09.160 That's simply an impurity. Why don't you release it so 0:12:09.280 --> 0:12:12.760 it doesn't infect the rest of your life. Don't let 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:19.360 a disappointment, a divorce, a layoff, a loss poison your future. Well, Joel, 0:12:19.400 --> 0:12:22.839 I'm worried about my health, worried about my finances, worried 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:26.480 about my children. Worry is a part of life. Those 0:12:26.520 --> 0:12:29.960 thoughts come to us. All the key is to not 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:34.960 hold onto them. Recognize they're not beneficial, they're not moving 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:39.080 you forward. That's an impurity that wasn't meant to stay. 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:42.600 You have to release it. God, I don't see a way, 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:44.960 but I know you're still on the throne. I know 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:47.640 you're bigger than this. Problem. I know you're supplying all 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:51.920 of my needs. You just released the toxin. Are you 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:58.160 holding on to infection, to impurities? Angry, jealous, worried, discouraged. 0:12:58.760 --> 0:13:02.880 Maybe you had a disappointment, something didn't work out. Imagine 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:07.240 there's an angel that has a delivery with your name 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:13.080 on it. It says beauty for ashes, new beginning, new opportunities, 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:17.079 new friendships. He's in route with one of those good things. 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:20.680 The problem is, if you're holding on to the old, 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:24.840 there's no place for him to deliver it. I wonder 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:28.480 how many things are in route right now. The angel 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:31.960 is standing by with our joy, our peace, our confidence, 0:13:32.000 --> 0:13:36.240 our creativity, our spouse. But because there's no room, because 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:40.040 we're not releasing the toxins, the anger, the bitterness, the jealousy, 0:13:40.080 --> 0:13:44.240 the worry, then he can't deliver those good things. Instead 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:48.800 of living blessed, excited about our future, we become infected. 0:13:49.280 --> 0:13:52.840 The good news is you can get rid of that infection. 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:56.840 It is not permanent. If you'll start releasing the regret, 0:13:57.559 --> 0:14:01.400 the worry, the bitterness, the amer, then it's just a 0:14:01.440 --> 0:14:05.079 matter of time before that angel shows up with your delivery. 0:14:05.559 --> 0:14:09.079 When you make room, God promises he will fill your 0:14:09.120 --> 0:14:13.640 life with good things. This is what David did. He 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:17.400 was an expert at emptying out the negative. His family 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:20.840 looked down on him, treated him like he was second class. 0:14:21.440 --> 0:14:26.240 He could have let that infection take root, lived insecure. Instead, 0:14:26.560 --> 0:14:28.760 he let it go in one ear and out the other. 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:31.760 He knew if he held on to it, it would 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:35.320 keep him from his destiny. David went to the palace 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:39.520 served faithfully King Saul. He would play the harp when 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:43.160 Saul was sick to make him feel better. In return, 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:47.480 Saul tried to kill him. Saul was jealous of David 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:50.800 and chased him through the desert, made him his life miserable. 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:55.160 David could have become bitter, thought, what's the use everybody's 0:14:55.240 --> 0:14:59.400 against me? Life is not fair. Instead, he kept his 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:03.320 heart pure and emptied out the self pity. Like David, 0:15:04.040 --> 0:15:08.800 we all have impurities, infections that come. People come against us. 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:12.760 Our plans don't always worked out. It's easy to think, 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:17.040 why is this happening? It's just life. The scripture says 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:21.320 offenses will come. They're not a problem unless you don't 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:24.360 know what to do with them. Too many people make 0:15:24.400 --> 0:15:27.440 the mistake of hold on to them. They get bitter, 0:15:28.120 --> 0:15:31.600 live guilty with the chip on their shoulder. That's going 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:36.000 to poison your future. You have to release the toxins 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:38.800 of life. You may not be able to keep them 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:42.960 from coming, but you can keep them from staying. David 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:47.120 had a pure heart. That means he kept the infections out. 0:15:47.560 --> 0:15:51.479 It doesn't mean that he was perfect. David made mistakes. 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:55.880 One time, he committed adultern had the lady's husband killed. 0:15:56.360 --> 0:15:59.280 For one year, he tried to cover it up, swept 0:15:59.280 --> 0:16:04.240 it under a He was so overwhelmed with guilt condemnation 0:16:04.840 --> 0:16:08.680 that he became sick and weak that poison started to 0:16:08.760 --> 0:16:13.480 infect his life. He finally admitted his mistake, He repented, 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:16.880 asked God to forgive him, and things begin to turn around. 0:16:17.160 --> 0:16:21.800 Once he got the infection out, then his health was restored. 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:25.400 When you make a mistake, and we all do, don't 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:28.080 run away from God. Don't try to hide it, go 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:31.880 to God. Repent. That means don't keep doing the same thing, 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:35.840 and then ask for forgiveness. And here's the key. You 0:16:35.960 --> 0:16:40.240 have to receive God's mercy. The enemy is called the 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:44.120 accuser of the brethren. He'll remind you of every mistake 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:47.760 you've made for the last thirty years, and it's easy 0:16:48.000 --> 0:16:51.400 to live life in regrets, thinking about what you should 0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:54.320 have done differently. And I should have raised my children better, 0:16:54.800 --> 0:16:57.280 should have been more faithful in my marriage, I should 0:16:57.320 --> 0:17:00.920 have finished college. Don't go through life looking in the 0:17:00.960 --> 0:17:04.560 rear view mirror, down on your self, living in regrets. 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:08.040 You can't do anything about the past, but you can 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:12.560 do something about right now. Being against yourself doesn't help 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:16.560 you do better. It pushes you down. The moment you 0:17:16.720 --> 0:17:20.840 ask God to forgive you, he forgave you, why don't 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:24.199 you forgive yourself. Why don't you empty out the guilt? 0:17:24.640 --> 0:17:28.520 Why don't you turn off the accusing voices? God doesn't 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:32.560 remember your mistakes anymore. If someone is bringing up the 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:35.840 negative things of your past, it's not God. That's the 0:17:35.920 --> 0:17:40.800 accuser trying to deceive you into living condemned. How much 0:17:40.880 --> 0:17:44.840 space are you given to guilt, to shame, to regret, 0:17:45.119 --> 0:17:49.200 to being against yourself, whatever it is, it's too much. 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:53.520 You need that space for the good things God has 0:17:53.800 --> 0:17:57.119 to move you toward your destiny. If you're giving space 0:17:57.160 --> 0:18:00.719 to guilt, you will not have the confidence you need 0:18:00.960 --> 0:18:04.359 to move forward. That will cause you to fail again. 0:18:04.960 --> 0:18:07.920 It's a negative cycle. The only way you can break 0:18:07.960 --> 0:18:10.800 it is to rise up and say that's it. I 0:18:10.840 --> 0:18:14.280 am done living in the past, focused on my mistakes, 0:18:14.640 --> 0:18:18.480 reliving my failures, beating myself up. This is a new day. 0:18:19.000 --> 0:18:23.240 I'm emptying out all that infection. I'm gonna receive God's mercy. 0:18:24.200 --> 0:18:28.159 You have to do this by faith, because every voice 0:18:28.200 --> 0:18:32.240 will tell you you're a hypocrite. God's not gonna forgive you. Look, 0:18:32.280 --> 0:18:35.280 what you've done doesn't have anything to do with what 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:38.040 you have or haven't done. It has to do with 0:18:38.080 --> 0:18:42.200 what Jesus has already done. But Joel, I made a 0:18:42.240 --> 0:18:45.400 lot of mistakes. I don't deserve to be blessed. None 0:18:45.440 --> 0:18:48.760 of us deserve it. This is what mercy is all about. 0:18:49.240 --> 0:18:52.600 That's why it's called the good News. Your sins have 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:55.920 already been forgiven. You don't have to pay God back 0:18:55.960 --> 0:19:00.520 for your mistakes. The price has already been paid. Fall down, 0:19:00.600 --> 0:19:03.840 don't stay down, get back up again. When you accuse 0:19:03.960 --> 0:19:06.520 or whispers, look at you, you blew it again. You'll 0:19:06.560 --> 0:19:09.240 never get it right. Just answer back. Yes, i know 0:19:09.359 --> 0:19:12.639 I'm not perfect, but I am forgiven. I may not 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:15.440 be where I should be, but I'm making progress. I'm 0:19:15.440 --> 0:19:18.240 moving forward. I'm not where I used to be. Don't 0:19:18.320 --> 0:19:23.360 let guilt poison your future. Empty it out. Sometimes it's 0:19:23.440 --> 0:19:26.680 hard to empty out the negative when a person does 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:30.119 us wrong. Human nature wants to hold onto the hurt, 0:19:30.560 --> 0:19:34.080 tocome bitter, carry around a grudge who we think. I'm 0:19:34.080 --> 0:19:37.160 not going to forgive them. They don't deserve it. You're 0:19:37.240 --> 0:19:41.200 not forgiving for their sake, You're forgiving for your sake. 0:19:41.920 --> 0:19:44.920 As long as you hold on to the hurt, the anger, 0:19:45.320 --> 0:19:51.840 the bitterness, it's not affecting them, it's infecting you. Unforgiveness 0:19:51.920 --> 0:19:55.399 is like a poisonous toxin. May feel good to hold 0:19:55.440 --> 0:19:58.600 on to it, but it will contaminate your life. Now. 0:19:58.600 --> 0:20:01.520 A lot of times, the reason we don't forgive is 0:20:01.600 --> 0:20:05.080 because what the other person does was wrong. They were 0:20:05.119 --> 0:20:09.720 clearly at fault. But when you forgive, you're not excusing 0:20:09.800 --> 0:20:14.639 their behavior. You're not lessening the offense. You're simply getting 0:20:14.640 --> 0:20:18.280 the poison out of you. You have to forgive so 0:20:18.400 --> 0:20:21.240 you can be free. Quit looking at it like you're 0:20:21.280 --> 0:20:24.600 doing them a favor, You're doing yourself a favor. See, 0:20:24.640 --> 0:20:28.359 it takes a lot of emotional energy to hold a grudge, 0:20:28.840 --> 0:20:32.119 to live with unforgiveness. You wake up, it's always on 0:20:32.200 --> 0:20:34.919 your mind thinking about how they did you wrong. You 0:20:34.960 --> 0:20:39.760 may not realize you are spending emotional energy that you 0:20:39.960 --> 0:20:43.480 need for your dreams, for your goals, for your children. 0:20:43.800 --> 0:20:46.800 You won't become all you were created to be if 0:20:46.800 --> 0:20:50.840 you are wasting emotional energy on things that don't matter. 0:20:51.520 --> 0:20:55.720 That unforgiveness is an impurity. Yes, what they did was wrong, 0:20:55.920 --> 0:20:58.480 but you have to let it pass. You have to 0:20:58.560 --> 0:21:02.320 release it. When you do, you'll not only feel a 0:21:02.359 --> 0:21:06.440 new freedom, not only have more energy, but God will 0:21:06.440 --> 0:21:10.239 be your vindicator. He will make your wrongs right. You 0:21:10.280 --> 0:21:13.080 don't have to pay people back. You're not the judge. 0:21:13.240 --> 0:21:16.240 God is. Leave it up to him and he'll vindicate 0:21:16.320 --> 0:21:20.280 you better than you could vindicate yourself. This is what 0:21:20.359 --> 0:21:23.600 a lady did named Mary Johnson. She was the single 0:21:23.640 --> 0:21:26.920 mother of one son. When he was twenty years old, 0:21:27.320 --> 0:21:30.240 he was out late one night at a party. This 0:21:30.320 --> 0:21:32.880 young man came up that he had never met. His 0:21:32.960 --> 0:21:36.239 name was Oh Sheh. He was sixteen years old and 0:21:36.280 --> 0:21:40.040 had been drinking. There was an altercation. In the heat 0:21:40.080 --> 0:21:42.400 of the moment, Oh She pulled out a gun and 0:21:42.480 --> 0:21:47.280 shot Mary's only son. He was instantly killed. Mary was 0:21:47.359 --> 0:21:51.400 so filled with anger and hatred. She told the judge 0:21:51.680 --> 0:21:54.560 that sixteen year old boy was an animal and he 0:21:54.680 --> 0:21:58.040 needed to be caged. When he was only charged with 0:21:58.160 --> 0:22:02.919 second degree murder, Marry was even more angry. She became 0:22:02.960 --> 0:22:06.439 a recluse, stayed in her house, wouldn't look at her 0:22:06.440 --> 0:22:10.680 son's picture. Ten years passed, she knew it was time 0:22:10.720 --> 0:22:14.280 to forgive. She could hear the still small voice telling 0:22:14.320 --> 0:22:17.840 her to let it go. She contacted the prison to 0:22:17.840 --> 0:22:21.760 see if she could visit Oshe. They said yes, but oh, 0:22:21.800 --> 0:22:25.240 she said no, he wouldn't do it. She kept asking 0:22:25.320 --> 0:22:29.400 and asking. Finally he agreed. She showed up at the prison. 0:22:30.080 --> 0:22:33.640 When she saw Osh, he came around and gave her 0:22:33.680 --> 0:22:37.040 a big hug and held on to her. They wept 0:22:37.200 --> 0:22:41.439 and wept. Mary said, as I was embracing O, shehe, 0:22:42.040 --> 0:22:45.960 I could feel hatred and bitterness rising up out of 0:22:46.000 --> 0:22:50.400 me and leaving my body. It was so strong that 0:22:50.480 --> 0:22:51.440 she fell over. 0:22:51.560 --> 0:22:51.720 Oh. 0:22:51.760 --> 0:22:56.119 She had to hold her up. That day, Mary not 0:22:56.240 --> 0:23:00.320 only emptied out the unforgiveness, but she found a new son. 0:23:01.280 --> 0:23:04.640 Seven years later. Oh, she was released on parole. Didn't 0:23:04.680 --> 0:23:07.160 have any place to live. Mary said, you can live 0:23:07.440 --> 0:23:10.920 next door to me. She calls him her spiritual son. 0:23:12.080 --> 0:23:16.679 Mary started an organization called from Death to Life to 0:23:16.720 --> 0:23:20.199 help mothers who have lost children to violence. Now she 0:23:20.320 --> 0:23:23.639 and Moshi go out and speak at conferences and schools 0:23:23.800 --> 0:23:29.320 about unforgiveness and overcoming laws. Mary said what really helped 0:23:29.320 --> 0:23:34.080 her decide to forgive was a poem she heard about 0:23:34.119 --> 0:23:38.400 two mothers in heaven that had just become friends. One 0:23:38.480 --> 0:23:42.080 mother asked the other, who is your son? She said, 0:23:42.119 --> 0:23:46.320 my son is Jesus. I'm Mary. Mary asked who is 0:23:46.359 --> 0:23:50.919 your son? She said, my son is Judas. When Mary 0:23:51.600 --> 0:23:54.879 Johnson heard how in this poem, Mary, the mother of 0:23:55.000 --> 0:23:59.560 Christ had befriended the mother of Judas, she knew she 0:23:59.600 --> 0:24:02.159 had Toria reach out to that other family. Now she 0:24:02.320 --> 0:24:05.240 helps other mothers do the same thing. Out of your 0:24:05.280 --> 0:24:08.479 pain can come your purpose. I saw a lady on 0:24:08.480 --> 0:24:12.760 television recently. Several years earlier, her son had been killed 0:24:12.800 --> 0:24:16.000 in an accident. They asked her how she was doing it. 0:24:16.480 --> 0:24:20.040 She made the statement, you never really get over it, 0:24:20.520 --> 0:24:24.320 but you can get past it. She was saying, yes, 0:24:24.480 --> 0:24:28.199 it's difficult, yes there was a season of mourning, but 0:24:28.240 --> 0:24:30.679 you don't have to stay in mourning. You don't have 0:24:30.760 --> 0:24:33.800 to live bitter. You don't have to get stuck in grief, 0:24:34.200 --> 0:24:37.920 in depression. You can move forward. When you go through 0:24:37.960 --> 0:24:41.639 a loss, things happen you don't understand, and it's easy 0:24:41.640 --> 0:24:43.919 to think, I just need to get over this. But 0:24:44.040 --> 0:24:47.840 sometimes that's too strong. It can put more pressure on us. 0:24:48.160 --> 0:24:50.240 We think, why do I feel this way? I must 0:24:50.280 --> 0:24:53.760 be doing something wrong. Take the pressure off. You don't 0:24:53.800 --> 0:24:57.159 have to get over it, just get past it. Just 0:24:57.280 --> 0:25:01.320 keep moving forward, taking it one day. The times God 0:25:01.359 --> 0:25:04.560 said he will never give you something that you cannot handle. 0:25:05.400 --> 0:25:08.800 You may not understand why it happened, but the scripture 0:25:08.840 --> 0:25:13.400 says God will give us a peace that passes understanding. 0:25:14.040 --> 0:25:17.400 You're not going to figure everything out. If you'll let 0:25:17.480 --> 0:25:20.560 go of the questions of life, you will have a 0:25:20.600 --> 0:25:25.080 peace that goes beyond what you can understand. Toward the 0:25:25.200 --> 0:25:28.520 end of Jesus' life, he'd been betrayed by a disciple, 0:25:29.040 --> 0:25:33.080 mocked by the soldiers, falsely accused. Now he was hanging 0:25:33.119 --> 0:25:36.280 on the cross, wearing a crown of thorns, about to 0:25:36.280 --> 0:25:40.560 breathe his last breath. He did something significant. He could 0:25:40.560 --> 0:25:42.560 have just died and went on to heaven. That was it. 0:25:43.240 --> 0:25:46.840 But he said, Father, before I go, I need to 0:25:46.880 --> 0:25:50.680 take care of one last thing. Forgive them, for they 0:25:50.720 --> 0:25:54.240 know not what they do. They didn't ask for forgiveness, 0:25:54.480 --> 0:25:57.920 they didn't deserve it. Jesus was saying, in effect, I'm 0:25:57.960 --> 0:26:01.119 not going to leave this earth within it negative in me. 0:26:01.600 --> 0:26:04.320 He was showing us by example how we should release 0:26:04.400 --> 0:26:09.960 the toxins, release the impurities. I read where Leonardo da 0:26:10.080 --> 0:26:13.639 Vinci was painting a portrait of Christ. He let some 0:26:13.680 --> 0:26:16.760 small children in the room to watch him paint. One 0:26:16.760 --> 0:26:20.760 of them accidentally knocked over the easel. He became very 0:26:20.840 --> 0:26:23.920 upset and ushered them out of the room. He sat 0:26:24.000 --> 0:26:27.280 back down to finish, but he said he could not 0:26:27.520 --> 0:26:30.879 paint the face of Christ with anger in his heart. 0:26:31.880 --> 0:26:34.679 That's what happens when we hold onto the negative. It 0:26:34.800 --> 0:26:38.600 stifles our creativity. We don't do our best work. It's 0:26:38.640 --> 0:26:43.160 because there's infection that's slowing us down. Are you allowing 0:26:43.400 --> 0:26:47.199 negative things in your container to reach the fullness of 0:26:47.240 --> 0:26:51.159 your destiny? You need to operate at your maximum potential. 0:26:51.920 --> 0:26:55.000 If you have a little bitterness, a little guilt, a 0:26:55.040 --> 0:26:58.600 little jealousy, a little worry. If you add up all 0:26:58.640 --> 0:27:02.919 the space the littlest taking. You're only operating at a 0:27:02.960 --> 0:27:06.280 fraction of what you could. I'm asking you to empty 0:27:06.359 --> 0:27:09.720 all that out. God is ready to fill your life 0:27:09.760 --> 0:27:13.160 with good things. He wants to keep you young and strong. 0:27:13.440 --> 0:27:16.679 Do your part and make room for him every morning. 0:27:16.760 --> 0:27:19.640 Empty out the guilt, empty out the word, empty out 0:27:19.680 --> 0:27:24.600 the discouragement. And when the impurities come, when the infection come, 0:27:24.880 --> 0:27:27.640 don't let it stay. Let it pass on through. Keep 0:27:27.680 --> 0:27:30.600 your heart pure. If you do this, I believe and 0:27:30.680 --> 0:27:33.439 declare you're going to step up to a new level 0:27:33.760 --> 0:27:37.760 with more joy, more peace, more favor, healing, holness, the 0:27:37.800 --> 0:27:42.159 fullness of your destiny. In Jesus' name. I'd like to 0:27:42.160 --> 0:27:44.800 give you an opportunity to make Jesus the lord of 0:27:44.840 --> 0:27:48.960 your life. Would you pray with me, just say, Lord, Jesus, 0:27:50.080 --> 0:27:54.879 I repent of my sins. 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