Dealing With Difficult People

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When you're good to those that are not 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:40.800 good to you, not only will you rise higher, but 0:01:40.959 --> 0:01:43.600 God will deal with those who are not treating you right. 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:47.360 He knows how to heat coals, afire, how to put pressure, 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:49.880 how to make them think differently about you. 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:51.880 Hi, this is Joel and Victoria. 0:01:52.160 --> 0:01:55.160 Thanks for listening to our podcast and thanks for supporting 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:55.840 the ministry. 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:58.360 If you enjoy today's message, why don't you be a 0:01:58.400 --> 0:01:59.880 blessing and share it with a friend. 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:02.920 We appreciate you and pray for God's very best in 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:07.920 your line. God bless you. It's great to be with 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:08.600 you today. 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:11.560 I hope you'll stay connected with us during the week 0:02:11.880 --> 0:02:14.840 through our daily podcast, our YouTube channel. 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:15.480 Social media. 0:02:15.680 --> 0:02:18.919 We'll keep you encouraged and inspired. I'd like to start 0:02:19.000 --> 0:02:22.280 with something funny and I heard about this elderly couple. 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:25.360 They were having a terrible time with their memory. They 0:02:25.400 --> 0:02:28.080 went to the doctor and he instructed them to start 0:02:28.160 --> 0:02:31.840 writing down everything they'd been forgetting. The next night, they 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:34.799 were watching television. The wife said, I sure would like 0:02:34.840 --> 0:02:37.200 a bowl of ice cream. Husband said, I'll go get 0:02:37.240 --> 0:02:39.440 it for you. She said, honey, you know what the 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:42.480 doctor said. You better write it down. He said, I'm 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:44.799 just going to the kitchen. I'm not gonna forget it. 0:02:45.400 --> 0:02:47.680 Came back a few minutes later handed her a plate 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:48.880 of bacon and eggs. 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:51.600 She shook her head, said I should have known it. 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:55.480 You forgot my toast. Say it like you mean it. 0:02:56.040 --> 0:02:58.760 This is my Bible. I am what it says I am. 0:02:59.240 --> 0:03:01.440 I have what it's says I have. I can do 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:04.120 what it says I can do. Today I will be 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:05.480 taught the word of God. 0:03:05.919 --> 0:03:10.240 I boldly confess my mind is alert, my heart is receptive. 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:14.360 I will never be the same. In Jesus' name, God 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:14.880 bless you. 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:18.639 I want to talk to you today about dealing with 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:23.360 difficult people. I was going to title this dealing with friends, family, 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:24.280 and co workers. 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:27.360 Because someone will be difficult. 0:03:28.120 --> 0:03:31.480 Someone will get on your nerves, a coworker that's jealous, 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:34.760 a neighbor that's rude, a relative that's not for you. 0:03:35.520 --> 0:03:39.200 How you handle difficult people will determine how high you 0:03:39.280 --> 0:03:42.440 will go. If you treat them the way they treat you, 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:47.600 then you'll get stuck. If they're disrespectful and you're disrespectful back, 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:51.520 that will keep you from going further. The scripture says 0:03:51.760 --> 0:03:56.760 you overcome evil with good. You never overcome disrespect with 0:03:56.920 --> 0:04:01.200 more disrespect. You never get ahead into others what they 0:04:01.280 --> 0:04:04.960 did to you. That's a test of your character. God 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:07.960 is seeing what he can trust you with. Will you 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:11.400 be the bigger person and overlook the insult? Will you 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:14.760 stay on the high road and not get baited into conflict? 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:19.160 You only have so much emotional energy each day. It's 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:22.559 not an unlimited supply. It takes a lot of energy 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:26.400 to get upset, to live offended, think about what they said, 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:27.920 try to straighten them out. 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:32.279 That's energy you need for your dreams to pursue your. 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:35.600 Goals to enjoy your family, don't spend it on things 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:39.440 that don't matter. You can't control how everyone treats you, 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:44.279 but you can control how you respond when someone is rude. 0:04:44.560 --> 0:04:45.560 You don't have to get. 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:48.920 Upset when they cut you off in traffic. That doesn't 0:04:49.040 --> 0:04:52.200 have to ruin your morning. When a coworker leaves you out, 0:04:52.600 --> 0:04:55.640 you can't control that, but you can stay in peace 0:04:55.960 --> 0:04:59.279 knowing that God is fighting your battles. When you take 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.360 the high road, you'll not only enjoy your life more, 0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:06.320 but you're showing God he can trust you with more influence, 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:10.200 with more favor. Don't go the next twenty years letting 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:13.840 the same things upset you. Same coworker get on your nerves, 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:16.520 same grumpy relative steal your joy. 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:20.480 They may not change, but here's the key. You can change. 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:25.200 Sometimes we've trained ourselves to respond a certain way. If 0:05:25.279 --> 0:05:27.840 they say this, I'm gonna get upset. If they leave 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:30.360 me out, I'm going to lead them out. If your 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:32.880 crazy uncle makes fun of me again, I'm going to 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:36.720 tell him off. The problem is you're letting them control you. 0:05:37.600 --> 0:05:40.040 If they perform a certain way, it's going to sour 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:40.560 your day. 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:42.880 Why don't you take the controls back. 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:48.560 Jesus said, stop allowing yourself to get upset. Someone can't 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:51.479 make you get upset. You have to give them permission 0:05:51.560 --> 0:05:54.880 to upset you. You have to make the choice. I'm offended, 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:59.520 I'm discouraged. I'm sour now. Some people know exactly what 0:05:59.720 --> 0:06:02.400 but they can push to get you bent out of shape. 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:06.040 Next time they push those buttons, just smile say not 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:08.960 this time. I'm staying in peace. I'm going to enjoy 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:14.679 this day. If someone is disrespectful, rude, always finding fault, 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:18.599 they have issues they haven't dealt with. They end up 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:23.960 with bitterness, anger, insecurity, bottled up on the inside. Sometimes 0:06:24.040 --> 0:06:26.960 that poison will try to get off on you. You 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:29.839 have to stay on the offensive. They may be rude, 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:33.120 but I'm not taking de bait. I'm staying calm. I'm 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:36.640 going to be respectful despite how they treat me or 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:39.000 My boss celebrates everyone, accept me. 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:41.640 He gives others credit for my work. 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:44.799 I'm not going to live sour. I'm not working under people. 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:45.960 I'm working under God. 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:47.440 Well, Joel. 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:50.200 If I always take the high road, people will take 0:06:50.240 --> 0:06:50.960 advantage of me. 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:53.839 I'll look weak. I have to stand up for myself. 0:06:54.600 --> 0:06:57.120 You never go wrong by taking the high road. 0:06:57.760 --> 0:07:00.799 You never lose out when you're kind, when you overlook 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:02.040 an offense, when. 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:03.440 You choose to stay in peace. 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:07.680 The scripture says, when you're good to your enemies, it's 0:07:07.839 --> 0:07:10.280 like keeping coals of fire on their head. 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:12.240 You would think if. 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:14.920 We'd treat our enemies the way they treated us, that'd 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:18.160 be good payback. They talk bad about me, I'm gonna 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:20.880 talk bad about them. They leave me out, I'm gonna 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:21.480 leave them out. 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:22.960 If she's rude to me. 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:25.480 Two can play at that game or be rude to her. 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:29.320 That feels good to our flesh to let them have it. 0:07:29.840 --> 0:07:32.720 But you never come out ahead by doing to others 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:35.640 what they did to you. The real way you see 0:07:35.720 --> 0:07:39.920 favor increase is you bless your enemies. When you're good 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:42.800 to those that are not good to you, not only 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:45.880 will you rise higher, but God will deal with those 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:48.440 who are not treating you right. He knows how to 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:51.760 heat coals of fire, how to put pressure, how to 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:55.560 make them think differently about you. Several times in the 0:07:55.640 --> 0:08:00.160 scripture it refers to the believer as an eagles. They 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:03.080 have said you will mount up with wings like an eagle. 0:08:03.760 --> 0:08:07.560 It's significant that God chose an eagle. An eagle can 0:08:07.640 --> 0:08:12.000 fly higher than just about any other bird. They've spotted 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:14.880 eagles at thirty thousand feet in the air, up where 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:18.360 the big jets fly. I read where a crow is 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:22.000 a natural pest to the eagle. Although the eagle is 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:25.280 bigger and stronger, the crow is more agile. It can 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:30.240 turn quicker, maneuver faster, sometimes to annoy the eagle. The 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:34.000 crow will follow right behind the eagle, just pestering it, 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:37.360 trying to cause it trouble. The eagle could turn around 0:08:37.520 --> 0:08:40.120 and try to fight. Think I'm bigger than this crow. 0:08:40.480 --> 0:08:44.000 I'm going to show him who I am. Instead, when 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:46.880 the eagle is tired of dealing with the crow, it 0:08:46.960 --> 0:08:50.120 doesn't try to out maneuver it, moving left and right. 0:08:50.600 --> 0:08:55.280 It simply starts flying higher and higher. The crow can't 0:08:55.400 --> 0:08:56.880 go where the eagle can go. 0:08:57.559 --> 0:09:01.079 It can't handle that high of an altitude. Eventually it 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:05.640 will fall away. In life, there will always be some crows. 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:09.000 You may work with crows, You may have neighbors that 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:12.760 are crows. You may be sitting by a crow just 0:09:12.920 --> 0:09:15.280 laugh and they won't know it. But there will always 0:09:15.360 --> 0:09:18.800 be people. They can get on your nerves. They feel 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:22.319 like it's their calling in life to annoy you, irritate you, 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:26.560 push your buttons. That will continue to happen as long 0:09:26.679 --> 0:09:29.680 as you're staying down at their level. You'll get upset, 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:32.480 be baited into conflict, live offended. 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:35.280 You have to realize you're an eagle. 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:38.679 The way you get rid of crows is not engaging 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:42.320 with them, but by going up higher. Don't pay attention 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:46.760 to what they're saying. Quit reading the negative comments. Don't 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:49.719 let that offense get down in your spirit. If you do, 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:51.920 you'll get drawn into conflict. 0:09:52.520 --> 0:09:53.200 You're an eagle. 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:56.520 You're not supposed to be fighting with crows. You're not 0:09:56.640 --> 0:09:59.960 supposed to be upset with some chickens pecking a ram, 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:03.760 dealing with things that don't matter. Quit being frustrated by 0:10:03.840 --> 0:10:07.600 the turkeys, people that don't understand you, people that make 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:08.080 a lot. 0:10:08.000 --> 0:10:09.920 Of noise, trying to steal your peace. 0:10:10.400 --> 0:10:14.640 Those are distractions trying to get you off course, wasting 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:15.200 time and. 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:18.040 Energy that you need to pursue your goals. 0:10:18.920 --> 0:10:21.959 You can't stop the crows from crowing, you can't stop 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:26.080 the chickens from pecking. The people being rude, the offense, 0:10:26.320 --> 0:10:30.120 the disrespect, that grouchy neighbor, that critical coworker. 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:33.640 But you can spread your wings in rise higher. 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:37.080 You don't have to get engaged in those petty things 0:10:37.160 --> 0:10:41.319 that don't matter. You were created to soar, designed to 0:10:41.400 --> 0:10:44.240 do big things, to leave your mark, to be a 0:10:44.440 --> 0:10:48.800 history maker. Don't waste your valuable time dealing with crows. 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:52.880 It will always be people that don't understand you, people 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:56.640 that are not for you, that try to hinder your calling. Yes, 0:10:56.720 --> 0:10:59.760 they'll say hurtful things, try to make you look bad, 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:01.599 put you at a disadvantage. 0:11:02.160 --> 0:11:04.680 Human nature is to get in there and fight. Straighten 0:11:04.760 --> 0:11:08.160 them out, show them what they're made of. Don't take debit. 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:13.120 That's a distraction. They don't control your destiny. They didn't 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:16.360 breathe life into you. They didn't choose you before you 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:19.800 were formed in your mother's womb. What they say cannot 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:22.920 stop your purpose. Don't give it the time of day, 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:26.000 Ignore it and move forward. You know what will happen. 0:11:26.280 --> 0:11:29.240 The crows will fall away. They can't hang with you, 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:32.880 they can't go where you're going. God put greatness in you. 0:11:34.000 --> 0:11:36.800 There's a lot of negative chatter these days. To all 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:41.520 the social media ways to communicate, people can express their 0:11:41.559 --> 0:11:45.520 opinions so easily say things that are derogatory, try to 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:46.280 discredit you. 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:49.200 The only power that has is. 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:51.959 The power you give it. If you let it get 0:11:52.000 --> 0:11:55.199 in you, you start dwelling on it. That will poison 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:58.280 your spirit. Over time, it will change who you are. 0:11:58.920 --> 0:12:02.160 You'll become defensive. Try to prove to people you're okay. 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:05.760 You're not what they said. You're giving them your power. 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:08.560 You're engaged in a battle that. 0:12:08.640 --> 0:12:09.800 You're not supposed to be in. 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:13.440 The crows are going to crow, make a lot of noise, 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:15.160 The chickens are going to peck. 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:18.319 There's going to be gossip, jealousy, criticism. 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:21.960 People will have plenty of opinions about how you were 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:25.160 to run your life, what you should wear, what you 0:12:25.280 --> 0:12:28.120 spend your money on, how you should raise your children. 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:33.280 Successful people are so focused on their goals, their dreams, 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:36.839 they don't pay attention to the crows. Quit letting that 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:40.520 poison get in your spirit. You have a destiny to fulfill. 0:12:41.280 --> 0:12:44.440 God has given you the gift of life. He could 0:12:44.440 --> 0:12:47.280 have chosen anyone to be here at this time, but 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:48.240 he chose you and me. 0:12:49.040 --> 0:12:50.800 Let's make the most of this day. 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:56.280 How much time are you wasting offended, upset, letting difficult 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:59.720 people steal your joy. It's time to get focused, tune 0:12:59.720 --> 0:13:02.880 out all the negative, and run your race with purpose. 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:08.720 Second Kings, Chapter two, Elisha was traveling from Jericho to Bethel. 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:12.120 As he was walking down the road, these young men 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:15.040 came out and started making fun of him because he 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:18.560 was bald. They said in verse twenty three, get out 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:22.080 of here, you bald, had mocking him again and against 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:23.959 in the scripture, go away baldy. 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.240 Elisha could have been upset offended. 0:13:27.840 --> 0:13:30.719 He and his men were bigger, stronger. He could have 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:32.720 gone over there and straightened them out. 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:34.520 But he didn't take the bait. 0:13:35.240 --> 0:13:37.600 He said, in effect, I'm going to stay in peace 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:41.800 and let God fight my battles. He understood they were 0:13:41.920 --> 0:13:44.600 just a bunch of crows making a lot of noise, 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:48.000 trying to get him distracted, engaged. 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:50.440 In battles that didn't matter. He kept on going. 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:54.319 As he walked on, two bears suddenly came out of 0:13:54.360 --> 0:13:58.040 the woods and mauled all forty two boys that were 0:13:58.120 --> 0:14:01.640 making fun of him. Let God be you a vindicator. 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:04.800 He'll take care of who's trying to stop you. He'll 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:08.240 deal with the disrespect, the jealousy. 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:12.000 People that are doing. You're wrong. You're an eagle. Don't 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:14.240 come down and fight battles that don't matter. 0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:17.920 You keep soaring, keep doing the right thing, and God 0:14:18.000 --> 0:14:21.320 will deal with the crows, the chickens, the turkeys. All 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:25.560 that negative chatter is just noise. It cannot stop your destiny. 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:30.400 So forty five says God has anointed us with the 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:34.680 oil of joy. When you walk in your anointing, there's 0:14:34.720 --> 0:14:37.360 an oil on you to where nothing can stick. 0:14:38.000 --> 0:14:39.440 You're like a teflon pan. 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:43.520 Disrespect will come, people will say hurtful things. 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:46.640 The good news is you have a no stick anointing. 0:14:47.160 --> 0:14:49.800 You can let that go and it'll slide right off 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:51.360 of you, not have any effect. 0:14:52.360 --> 0:14:57.200 That coworker leads you out, plays politics. You could be offended, upset, 0:14:57.520 --> 0:14:59.800 but you have the oil of joy. You just let 0:14:59.880 --> 0:15:00.160 it go. 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:04.560 Someone's rude to you, jumps down your throat. You could 0:15:04.640 --> 0:15:06.960 be rude back to them, give them a piece of 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:10.720 your mind, But like that teflon pan, it slides right off. 0:15:11.080 --> 0:15:14.480 You go on and enjoy the day. You weren't created 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:15.280 to hold on. 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:21.120 To things, offense, disrespect, hurtful words. Next time something happens 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:24.680 that could upset you, instead of responding the same way, 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:28.040 Try a different approach. Father, Thank you that I've been 0:15:28.080 --> 0:15:30.800 anointed with the oil of joy. I'm going to stay 0:15:30.840 --> 0:15:33.520 in peace. I'm going to focus on my goals, knowing 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:36.960 that you are fighting my battles. You can't get rid 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:40.600 of the difficult people, but if you'll respond the right way, 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:44.560 they won't keep you from having a blessed, productive, fever 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:48.440 filled day. Are you letting things upset you that don't 0:15:48.480 --> 0:15:51.440 have to upset you? Are you giving away your power, 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:55.120 letting what people do determine whether or not you're going 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:58.600 to be happy. You need to take control back of 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:02.920 your happiness. Quit putting it in someone else's hands. If 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:06.080 you're counting on everyone to treat you nice and be kind, 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:09.640 say good things, then you're going to be happy. You're 0:16:09.720 --> 0:16:13.840 giving them your power. You control your happiness. You have 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:16.360 to make up your mind no matter what people do, 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:19.760 no matter what they say, how they treat you, they're 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:22.640 not going to steal your joy. They may not want 0:16:22.720 --> 0:16:25.760 to be happy, but they shouldn't keep you from being happy. 0:16:26.640 --> 0:16:28.720 They may be rude, angry. 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:32.440 Disrespectful, but you can't let their issues sour your day. 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:36.000 Be like that, Teflon pan. Let it bounce off of 0:16:36.080 --> 0:16:40.360 you and enjoy your day despite what they do. I 0:16:40.560 --> 0:16:43.280 was at an electronic store to buy some parts for 0:16:43.400 --> 0:16:46.680 our television equipment. This was back when I worked behind 0:16:46.720 --> 0:16:48.000 the scenes in production. 0:16:47.800 --> 0:16:50.320 Here at Lakewood, and the parts were in the back. 0:16:50.760 --> 0:16:52.680 The staff had to get them for you. I had 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.720 done this many times before. The man at the counter 0:16:55.960 --> 0:16:58.480 was on the phone. He wasn't in any hurry to 0:16:58.520 --> 0:17:01.360 get off. He could see me standing there, but he 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:05.440 talked about fifteen minutes and I waited patiently. Eventually he 0:17:05.640 --> 0:17:08.240 hung up, and I thought he would acknowledge me and 0:17:08.440 --> 0:17:11.560 see what I needed, but he never looked up. Finally, 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:14.119 I asked if he could help me. You would have 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:17.640 thought I had just insulted him. He said so gruffly, 0:17:17.880 --> 0:17:18.720 very aggravated. 0:17:18.880 --> 0:17:19.520 What do you need? 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:22.560 I asked him for this certain part. He looked at 0:17:22.600 --> 0:17:24.040 it and said, we don't carry that. 0:17:24.400 --> 0:17:24.920 We never have. 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:28.680 I told him how I had purchased it there many 0:17:28.800 --> 0:17:33.360 times before. His face got real red, Smoke started coming 0:17:33.400 --> 0:17:34.160 out of his ears. 0:17:34.400 --> 0:17:37.040 He looked like he's about to explode. He used several 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:40.200 curse words and said, I told you I don't have it. 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:43.520 Now, don't ask me for it again. I wanted to say, 0:17:43.600 --> 0:17:45.119 I'll ask you as many times as I. 0:17:45.160 --> 0:17:47.360 Feel like ask him, I'll call you in the middle 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:48.280 of the night if I want to. 0:17:49.440 --> 0:17:52.280 But I noticed he was bigger than me, so I 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:55.120 just smiled, said no problem, just to have a nice day. 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:58.600 Didn't mean it, but at least I said it. I 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:01.119 had to make this choice. Was I going to let 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:05.440 his poison get in me, pollute my day, sour my attitude, 0:18:05.720 --> 0:18:09.840 spend my emotional energy upset aggravated, or was I going 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:13.120 to be a tephlon pan have that no stick annoying, 0:18:13.440 --> 0:18:17.000 Let all that disrespect, the anger, the poison slide right 0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:17.399 off of me. 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:19.240 I decided to let it go. 0:18:20.280 --> 0:18:23.440 You can't stop people from dumping their garbage, but you 0:18:23.560 --> 0:18:24.680 can keep your lid on. 0:18:25.480 --> 0:18:27.720 You don't have to let all their trash get in you. 0:18:28.880 --> 0:18:33.320 Sometimes we have unrealistic expectations. We think we'll have a 0:18:33.400 --> 0:18:36.480 good day as long as we don't encounter any rude people, 0:18:36.920 --> 0:18:39.720 as long as our family says nice things, as long 0:18:39.760 --> 0:18:43.000 as our co workers perform perfectly, then we'll stay in peace. 0:18:43.760 --> 0:18:47.159 That's not reality. Difficult people are all around. 0:18:47.800 --> 0:18:50.520 There will be someone that can steal your joy, get 0:18:50.600 --> 0:18:53.960 you offended, leave you out, say something that's not true. 0:18:54.680 --> 0:18:57.879 The key is not trying to avoid it, it's to 0:18:58.000 --> 0:18:59.080 handle it the right way. 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:03.720 Take the bait, don't let the offense stay, don't dwell 0:19:03.760 --> 0:19:05.040 on the negative comments. 0:19:05.520 --> 0:19:09.280 Keep yourself oiled up to where you don't let anything stick. 0:19:09.920 --> 0:19:13.840 This is how you live happy, not by avoiding difficult people, 0:19:14.280 --> 0:19:17.760 but by not taking their garbage, by not responding to 0:19:17.840 --> 0:19:21.159 them the way they treated you. It's by being an eagle, 0:19:21.800 --> 0:19:25.440 by rising higher than the offense, the hurt, the jealousy. 0:19:26.200 --> 0:19:28.640 When God can trust you to do the right thing 0:19:28.760 --> 0:19:31.600 when it's hard, there's no limit to how high he 0:19:31.680 --> 0:19:34.840 will take you. There was a man walking down the 0:19:34.880 --> 0:19:37.359 street with his friend to get a newspaper. 0:19:38.040 --> 0:19:39.000 When they arrived at the. 0:19:39.040 --> 0:19:45.040 Corner store, the clerk in the small newsstand was very cold, inconsiderate, 0:19:45.359 --> 0:19:48.480 not friendly at all. The man bought the paper and 0:19:48.640 --> 0:19:52.120 said politely, I hope you'll have a great day. As 0:19:52.160 --> 0:19:55.639 they walked away, his friend said, is that clerk always 0:19:55.680 --> 0:19:59.640 that rude? The man said yes, every morning. He said, well, 0:19:59.760 --> 0:20:02.560 you always that nice to him? The man said yes, 0:20:02.720 --> 0:20:06.800 every morning. The friend looked puzzled and said why. The 0:20:06.920 --> 0:20:09.080 men said I've made up my mind. 0:20:09.440 --> 0:20:12.040 I'm not going to let one person ruin my day 0:20:13.240 --> 0:20:15.639 Like him. You have to have a made up mind. 0:20:16.000 --> 0:20:19.240 You're not going to let one negative comment ruin your day. 0:20:19.920 --> 0:20:20.840 You're not gonna let. 0:20:20.920 --> 0:20:24.720 A disrespectful coworker, a classmate that's making fun of you, 0:20:25.240 --> 0:20:28.040 a driver that cuts you off in traffic to sour 0:20:28.119 --> 0:20:31.159 your day. Decide ahead of time. I'm putting on the 0:20:31.320 --> 0:20:36.160 oil of joy whatever comes my way. Negative comments, disrespect, 0:20:36.440 --> 0:20:37.760 rude people, that's going. 0:20:37.680 --> 0:20:38.760 To slide right off of me. 0:20:39.880 --> 0:20:43.280 How much more will you enjoy your life if you'll 0:20:43.320 --> 0:20:44.680 have this no stick annointing. 0:20:45.520 --> 0:20:48.080 Can't control what people do. They want to be. 0:20:48.119 --> 0:20:51.719 Offensive, rude, hard to get along with. That's their choice. 0:20:52.200 --> 0:20:56.280 But you can control how you respond. The most powerful 0:20:56.359 --> 0:20:58.880 thing you can do is let it slide right off. 0:20:59.440 --> 0:21:02.040 Don't give it a time of day. Don't think about 0:21:02.040 --> 0:21:05.840 it anymore, don't relive it. Don't go call your friends, 0:21:05.960 --> 0:21:09.520 tell them what they said. Keep your heart pure, save 0:21:09.640 --> 0:21:12.879 your emotional energy, to live this day to the full, 0:21:13.280 --> 0:21:16.320 to pursue your dreams, to love your family, to be 0:21:16.480 --> 0:21:21.720 good to your neighbors. When someone is rude, they're offensive, 0:21:22.520 --> 0:21:26.360 don't take that personally it's not about you. It's their 0:21:26.440 --> 0:21:30.920 own struggles on the inside. They don't like themselves. That's 0:21:30.960 --> 0:21:34.240 why they don't like you. They're upset over things that 0:21:34.400 --> 0:21:37.440 have nothing to do with you. You just happen to enter. 0:21:37.440 --> 0:21:41.199 Their story when they're blowing off steam. Stay oiled up 0:21:41.400 --> 0:21:41.960 and move on. 0:21:42.600 --> 0:21:46.000 None of that will stop your destiny unless you get 0:21:46.119 --> 0:21:50.240 distracted and start fighting battles that don't matter, trying to 0:21:50.320 --> 0:21:53.480 pay people back instead of letting God be your vindicator. 0:21:54.320 --> 0:21:57.920 This is what David did first Samuel twenty five. David 0:21:58.040 --> 0:22:01.320 and his men had been living out in the countryside. 0:22:01.560 --> 0:22:04.159 They were on the run from King Saul. A man 0:22:04.280 --> 0:22:07.359 named Nabel lived in the city of Carmel, not far 0:22:07.480 --> 0:22:11.800 from David. He was very wealthy, thousands of sheeps goats. 0:22:12.359 --> 0:22:16.040 But Verse three says Nabel was a mean man. He 0:22:16.240 --> 0:22:19.800 was dishonest and hard to get along with. David and 0:22:19.880 --> 0:22:23.560 his army had been protecting Nabel's property by just being there. 0:22:24.040 --> 0:22:25.240 They were very powerful. 0:22:25.640 --> 0:22:28.520 They could have taken the flocks got rid of his shepherds, 0:22:28.720 --> 0:22:31.320 but they were good to Nabel. It was time for 0:22:31.480 --> 0:22:35.439 shearing the sheep the harvest season, so David sent messengers 0:22:35.480 --> 0:22:39.120 to Nabel asking for food. Since they had been protecting 0:22:39.480 --> 0:22:42.680 his family and flocks. He would think Mabel would be 0:22:42.760 --> 0:22:45.360 grateful he had these men watching after him. 0:22:45.960 --> 0:22:47.480 But Nabel was very rude. 0:22:48.000 --> 0:22:50.960 He said, who is this man, David? I never asked 0:22:51.040 --> 0:22:53.320 him to do anything for me. I don't owe him 0:22:53.359 --> 0:22:55.080 a penny. Tell him to forget it. 0:22:55.520 --> 0:22:56.920 I'm not going to give him anything. 0:22:57.840 --> 0:23:01.080 When David heard that, it set him off. He didn't 0:23:01.119 --> 0:23:04.080 think about the oil of joy. He didn't sing the psalm. 0:23:04.200 --> 0:23:05.960 He wrote, this is the day the Lord has made. 0:23:06.040 --> 0:23:09.200 Let's be glad. He was furious. He told his men 0:23:09.680 --> 0:23:12.280 pack up, We're going to go take care of Nabel. 0:23:12.800 --> 0:23:15.960 He said, as surely as I live, not one of 0:23:16.080 --> 0:23:19.720 Nabel's family members will be alive by this time tomorrow. 0:23:20.560 --> 0:23:24.200 David was offended, angry. He wasn't going to let Nabel 0:23:24.400 --> 0:23:28.159 get by with insulting him. And yes, there are times 0:23:28.240 --> 0:23:31.040 we're supposed to fight. We need to take action. David 0:23:31.119 --> 0:23:34.959 fought Goliath, but you have to make sure that battle 0:23:35.119 --> 0:23:39.240 is between you and your destiny. If not, it's a distraction. 0:23:40.160 --> 0:23:43.240 David was so wrought up in his emotions he didn't 0:23:43.280 --> 0:23:45.159 realize this wasn't a battle. 0:23:45.280 --> 0:23:46.360 He was supposed to fight. 0:23:47.359 --> 0:23:51.000 How many times are we fighting battles? Because like David, 0:23:51.160 --> 0:23:55.080 we're offended, we're upset they did us wrong. But that 0:23:55.320 --> 0:23:58.960 wasn't a battle between us and our destiny. It was 0:23:59.080 --> 0:24:02.120 just our flesh getting riled up, wanting to take matters 0:24:02.320 --> 0:24:04.879 into our own hands. We were supposed to let it 0:24:04.960 --> 0:24:07.920 slide off, not dwell on it, and trust God to 0:24:08.000 --> 0:24:08.919 be our vindicator. 0:24:09.880 --> 0:24:11.320 Here's how merciful God is. 0:24:11.840 --> 0:24:16.159 David was headed toward Nabel's house full speed ahead, about 0:24:16.240 --> 0:24:20.240 to make a mistake that would hinder his destiny. Nabel's 0:24:20.320 --> 0:24:22.240 wife was a lady named Abigail. 0:24:22.840 --> 0:24:24.080 She was a wise woman. 0:24:24.760 --> 0:24:27.800 She loaded up two hundred loaves of bread, two hundred 0:24:27.840 --> 0:24:28.919 bottles of wine. 0:24:28.880 --> 0:24:31.560 Five hundred cakes, and headed out to meet David. 0:24:32.280 --> 0:24:35.560 When she saw him, she bowed down load and said, David, 0:24:36.000 --> 0:24:41.120 my husband is a fool. He's hard headed, hot tempered, dishonest. 0:24:41.520 --> 0:24:44.679 He shouldn't have insulted you. I brought you these gifts 0:24:44.920 --> 0:24:48.280 hoping you'll forgive him. She went on to say, David, 0:24:48.800 --> 0:24:52.000 you are called to be the king of Israel. Why 0:24:52.040 --> 0:24:54.960 would you even fight with this fool? Why would you 0:24:55.080 --> 0:24:58.359 waste your time with this stubborn man. Don't let this 0:24:58.680 --> 0:25:02.440 needless battle be a blemish on your record. She spoke 0:25:02.560 --> 0:25:06.040 wisdom into David. She was saying, David, look at who 0:25:06.119 --> 0:25:09.280 you are. You're the next king. God is going to 0:25:09.520 --> 0:25:13.200 entrust you with an enduring dynasty, but you're about to 0:25:13.280 --> 0:25:14.560 blow it taking. 0:25:14.440 --> 0:25:17.920 Revenge on this fool. David came to his senses. 0:25:18.480 --> 0:25:22.200 He said, Abigail, the Lord God of Israel surely has 0:25:22.280 --> 0:25:24.639 sent you to me today, for if you had not 0:25:24.920 --> 0:25:27.639 kept me from carrying out vengeance with my own hands, 0:25:28.160 --> 0:25:31.880 not one of your family members would be alive. We're 0:25:31.960 --> 0:25:35.800 all going to encounter Nabels in life, people that are rude, 0:25:36.320 --> 0:25:38.000 hard to get along with, offensive. 0:25:38.560 --> 0:25:41.159 I'll ask you what, Abigail asked David. 0:25:41.760 --> 0:25:44.480 Why are you fighting with a fool? Why are you 0:25:44.600 --> 0:25:47.960 in conflict with someone that's not going anywhere? Why are 0:25:48.000 --> 0:25:50.359 you upset with that person that cuts you off in 0:25:50.440 --> 0:25:53.800 traffic You don't even know them. Why are you offended 0:25:53.920 --> 0:25:57.119 at that coworker. They're not between you and your destiny. 0:25:57.800 --> 0:26:00.040 They can't stop what God has planned. 0:25:59.720 --> 0:26:03.760 For you, so they don't like you. They made negative comments, 0:26:03.960 --> 0:26:07.280 they left you out. That's a test. You can't reach 0:26:07.359 --> 0:26:09.520 your destiny without difficult people. 0:26:10.359 --> 0:26:15.200 Don't get distracted baited into conflict in battles that don't matter. 0:26:15.880 --> 0:26:18.800 Be like that teflon pan. Don't let any of it stick. 0:26:19.480 --> 0:26:22.600 God has an awesome future for you, but the enemy 0:26:22.640 --> 0:26:25.840 will work overtime, like with David, to try to get 0:26:25.920 --> 0:26:29.360 you distracted, offended, trying to pay people back. 0:26:29.720 --> 0:26:30.520 Don't take the bait. 0:26:31.680 --> 0:26:35.080 Abigail came back home the next morning told her husband 0:26:35.160 --> 0:26:35.840 what she had done. 0:26:36.359 --> 0:26:38.160 When he heard it, Nabel had. 0:26:38.080 --> 0:26:43.680 A stroke became paralyzed. Ten days later, he died. Abigail 0:26:43.840 --> 0:26:47.359 was a beautiful woman. David didn't waste any time. He 0:26:47.480 --> 0:26:50.440 sent word asking her to become his wife. She agreed, 0:26:51.400 --> 0:26:54.400 when you let God fight your battles, you'll come out 0:26:54.520 --> 0:26:58.080 better than you were before. I'm not saying you're going 0:26:58.160 --> 0:26:59.720 to get an extra wife, but he'll make it up 0:26:59.760 --> 0:27:04.520 to you. But if it hadn't been for Abigail, if 0:27:04.560 --> 0:27:07.640 she had not stopped David from acting on his emotions, 0:27:08.119 --> 0:27:11.119 we might not be talking about David. If you let 0:27:11.200 --> 0:27:15.240 people get you upset, offended, where you're focused on paying 0:27:15.320 --> 0:27:17.600 them back, you can miss your destiny. 0:27:18.600 --> 0:27:20.520 Maybe today i'm your Abigail. 0:27:21.280 --> 0:27:24.239 Maybe God sent me to remind you to not let 0:27:24.400 --> 0:27:29.160 difficult people bat you into conflict, steal your joy, cause 0:27:29.160 --> 0:27:33.560 you to live frustrated, spending energy on things that don't matter. 0:27:34.480 --> 0:27:37.440 You can't get away from the Nabels. You may pray 0:27:37.520 --> 0:27:40.960 one away, Nabel Junior will show up tomorrow. You have 0:27:41.080 --> 0:27:44.080 to make up your mind that difficult people are not 0:27:44.240 --> 0:27:45.240 going to control you. 0:27:46.040 --> 0:27:47.520 You're not going to let them offend you. 0:27:48.080 --> 0:27:51.280 Upset you push your buttons, Turn those buttons off. 0:27:51.920 --> 0:27:55.479 Stay in peace. Time is short. We're not always going 0:27:55.560 --> 0:27:56.040 to be here. 0:27:56.720 --> 0:28:01.080 Don't waste another minute fighting with crows, arguing with chickens, 0:28:01.359 --> 0:28:05.159 debating with turkeys. Be an eagle, start rising above that. 0:28:05.800 --> 0:28:09.359 If you'll do this, I'll believe and declare. You're not 0:28:09.520 --> 0:28:12.640 only going to enjoy your life more, but God will 0:28:12.680 --> 0:28:18.240 take care of your nables. 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