Be A People Builder

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The Baptist man 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:35.040 is saving everybody, the Catholic man is forgiving everybody, and 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:38.240 the Charismatic has already raised enough money for air conditioning. 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:42.480 Hold your bibles up, say it like you mean it. 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:45.760 This is my Bible. I am what it says I am. 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:48.880 I have what it says I have. I can do 0:02:48.960 --> 0:02:51.640 what it says I can do. Today I will be 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:55.799 taught the word of God. I boldly confess. My mind 0:02:55.880 --> 0:02:59.320 is alert, my heart is receptive. I will never be 0:02:59.440 --> 0:03:04.119 the same. In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:06.800 to talk to you today about being a people builder. 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:10.880 Being a people builder means that you're investing in others. 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:14.920 You're looking for ways to bring out the best in someone. 0:03:15.080 --> 0:03:20.160 You're giving it vice, speaking faith into them, building their confidence, 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:23.760 challenging them to go to a higher level. I found 0:03:24.000 --> 0:03:27.640 all most people need is a boost. All they need 0:03:27.800 --> 0:03:31.480 is a little push, a little encouragement to become what 0:03:31.520 --> 0:03:35.200 God's created them to be. The fact is none of 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:39.120 us will reach our highest potential by ourselves. We need 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:42.160 each other, and you can be the one to tip 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:45.400 the scales for someone else. You can be the one 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:49.720 to stir up their seeds of greatness. Reggie Jackson, the 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:53.960 Hall of Fame baseball player, said, a great manager has 0:03:54.000 --> 0:03:57.200 the ability to make a player think that he is 0:03:57.280 --> 0:04:01.240 better than he is. He convinces you to have confidence 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:04.839 in yourself. He lets you know that he believes in you, 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:08.760 and before long, you discover talent that you never knew 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:12.280 you had. And that's what happens. When we believe the 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:16.200 best in someone, we draw the best out. The scripture 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:21.320 says in First Thessalonians five eleven, encourage one another and 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:25.440 build each other up. The word encourage simply means to 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:29.520 urge forward. And every one of us should have someone 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:34.800 we're believing in. Someone we're urging forward, someone we're helping 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:39.000 with their dreams. You need to study that person, watch 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:43.320 what they're good at, watch what excites them, find their strengths, 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:47.520 and then encourage them in those areas. Many times you 0:04:47.600 --> 0:04:50.960 can see things in others that they can't see in themselves, 0:04:51.360 --> 0:04:55.400 and a simple compliment, a simple word of encouragement, can 0:04:55.440 --> 0:04:58.159 give them the confidence they need to take that step 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:01.359 of faith. We can either draw out the best in 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:04.360 people or we can draw out the worst. Now, I 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:07.880 read where seventy five percent of people that are in 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:12.120 prison right now were told by their parents or by 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:15.200 the people that raised them that one day they would 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:18.640 be in prison. They planted the seed. The problem was 0:05:18.800 --> 0:05:22.200 it was the wrong seed. They believed the worst, and 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:25.479 they drew out the worst. I often wonder what would 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:28.720 have happened if somebody would have told them you're going 0:05:28.760 --> 0:05:31.480 to be a great doctor one day, you're going to 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:34.279 be an entrepreneur. I can see it in you. You're 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:36.800 going to make a great teacher. You've got what it takes. 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:40.719 There's no telling where they would be if someone would 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:43.880 have believed in them, If someone would have taken time 0:05:44.200 --> 0:05:47.680 to study their gifts, to listen to their dreams, to 0:05:47.720 --> 0:05:50.279 see what they were good at, and then encourage them 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:53.400 in those areas. I heard a story about a little 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:56.840 boy by the name of Robert. His uncle had been 0:05:56.839 --> 0:05:59.720 in China since his birth, and now he was about 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:01.719 to meet his uncle for the very first time, and 0:06:01.880 --> 0:06:04.560 he was so excited about it. He was out waiting 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:07.440 for him on the front porch. Robert and his family 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:10.640 lived on a farm in Iowa. He saw the uncle's 0:06:10.920 --> 0:06:13.919 car driving down the dusty road, and when he pulled 0:06:13.960 --> 0:06:16.200 in the gate, little Robert ran out there to meet him. 0:06:16.480 --> 0:06:19.200 The uncle got out, gave him a big hug, swung 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:22.280 him around and around, and he said, you must be Robert. 0:06:22.320 --> 0:06:25.440 I've heard so much about you. Then the uncle stepped 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:27.719 back and looked at him, and out of the blue, 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:30.960 he said, you know what, Robert, I think one day 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:34.320 you're going to be a minister. In fact, I think 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:37.960 one day you're going to be a great minister. Why 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:40.640 did this uncle say this, There were no ministers in 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:44.320 this family. He simply felt something on the inside, and 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:46.960 he was bold enough to speak it out. By faith, 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:51.479 he planted a seed in little Robert's heart. That night, 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:56.080 as Robert lay in his bed, he secretly prayed God, 0:06:56.360 --> 0:06:59.520 let what my uncle said be true. Let me be 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:03.920 a minute one day. That was seventy eight years ago, 0:07:04.040 --> 0:07:07.640 and today Robert Schuler is still one of the great 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:13.200 ministers of our time. It's amazing what a simple word 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:17.440 of encouragement can do. Friends, you have the ability to 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:21.040 stir up someone's dreams. You can light a fire on 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:24.760 the inside. When you take time to believe in someone 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:29.080 and you speak faith into their heart, your words can 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:33.040 be the seed God uses to help them reach their potential. 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:37.200 I'm asking you today to be a seed planter, be 0:07:37.280 --> 0:07:41.880 a people builder. Don't become so focused on your own dreams, 0:07:41.920 --> 0:07:45.480 your own goals that you get ingrown. Be on the 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:49.960 lookout for someone you can urge forward. Learn to speak 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:54.040 faith into them, speak vision, speak the blessing over their lives. 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:58.320 I know this man. He's an older gentleman. Anytimes he 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:02.040 sees a small child with their parents' permission, he'll call 0:08:02.080 --> 0:08:05.080 them over and say, young man, young lady, I have 0:08:05.160 --> 0:08:09.440 a very special talent, something only a few people can do. 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:13.800 I have the ability to pick a winner. The child's 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:16.120 eyes gets real big, and he'll ask the little boy 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:19.000 the little girl if he can evaluate them. Of course, 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:22.240 the parent is playing along. He'll stand back and look 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:25.080 at the child and walk around him very slowly say 0:08:25.200 --> 0:08:28.119 uh huh, yes, okay, I see that like he's taking 0:08:28.120 --> 0:08:30.680 it all in. When he gets back around, he looks 0:08:30.720 --> 0:08:33.040 at the little boy a girl in the eyes, says, 0:08:33.080 --> 0:08:36.920 young man, young lady, I've got great news. I've never 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:40.360 been wrong. I'm right every time, you, my friend. Indeed, 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:43.720 you are a winner. The child gets a smile on 0:08:43.760 --> 0:08:46.680 its face runs back to their parents. Hey mom, Hey dad, 0:08:46.720 --> 0:08:50.679 guess what, I'm a winner? What's that man doing? Urging 0:08:50.720 --> 0:08:56.040 them forward? Building their confidence, instilling self esteem? Do you 0:08:56.160 --> 0:08:59.440 know how many people have never been told they're a winner. 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:03.199 There are people in your life right now, most likely 0:09:03.520 --> 0:09:06.920 people you work with, people you play ball with, maybe 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:11.720 even your own family members, that are starving for your approval. 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:15.760 They're craving for you to speak the blessing over their life. 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:19.600 You don't know what it will mean when you affirm them, 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:23.200 when you give them your approval and let them know 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:27.080 in no uncertain terms that you are proud of them 0:09:27.280 --> 0:09:30.439 and you think they're going to do great things. Everyone 0:09:30.600 --> 0:09:34.520 needs to be valued, Everyone needs to be appreciated. Every 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:38.720 person needs that blessing. Let me ask you today, what 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:42.520 kind of seeds are you planting in your child, in 0:09:42.600 --> 0:09:46.600 your spouse, in that friend, in that nephew. Are you 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:50.400 believing in anyone? Are you taking an interest to see 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:54.439 how you can make their life better? Listen to their dreams, 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:57.640 find out what God's put in their heart. Let them 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:01.400 know that you're behind them, give them your approval. If 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:05.120 you talk with any successful person, they'll tell you somebody 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:09.240 believed in them. Somebody planted a seed and encouraged them 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:12.400 when they were down. Somebody helped them get a good break. 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:15.600 Somebody spoke faith when they didn't think they could do it. 0:10:16.520 --> 0:10:21.920 I read where Thomas Edison encouraged Henry Ford. Mister Ford 0:10:22.000 --> 0:10:24.880 was introduced to him as the man that was trying 0:10:24.920 --> 0:10:28.280 to build a car that ran on gasoline. When Edison 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:31.120 heard it, his face brightened up. He hit his fist 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:34.000 on the table and said, you've got it. A car 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:37.320 that has its own power plant. That's a brilliant idea. 0:10:38.320 --> 0:10:41.640 Up to that point, no one had encouraged mister Ford. 0:10:42.160 --> 0:10:44.520 No one thought it was a good idea. He had 0:10:44.600 --> 0:10:48.760 just about convinced himself to give up. But along came 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:52.360 Edison and spoke faith into him. That was a turning 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:55.520 point in Henry Ford's life. He said, I thought I 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:58.600 had a good idea, but I started to doubt myself. 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:02.120 Then came along one of the greatest minds that's ever 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:06.680 lived and gave me his complete approval. That's what can 0:11:06.720 --> 0:11:11.080 happen with a simple vote of confidence. We don't realize 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:14.160 the power we hold. We don't always realize what it 0:11:14.240 --> 0:11:17.880 means when we tell somebody I believe in you, You've 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:21.520 got what it takes. I'm behind you one hundred percent. Really, 0:11:21.679 --> 0:11:25.960 every one of us should be someone else's number one fan. 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:30.440 We should be encouraging them, lifting them when they falling, 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:36.160 celebrating when they succeed, praying when they're struggling, urging them forward. 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:39.080 That's what it means to be a people builder. The 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:42.800 fact is we all need somebody to believe in us 0:11:43.400 --> 0:11:46.840 more than we believe in ourselves. Somebody that can see 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:50.240 our potential, Somebody that can look beyond where we are 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:53.560 and see what we can become. And this is what 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:57.480 Jesus was so great at. He didn't focus on people's faults. 0:11:57.840 --> 0:11:59.960 He didn't look at what they didn't have. He saw 0:12:00.160 --> 0:12:03.959 their potential. You take the disciple, Peter. He was kind 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:07.120 of rough around the edges, he was hot tempered, used 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:11.680 foul language. Yet Jesus looked beyond all that and he said, Peter, 0:12:11.840 --> 0:12:14.840 it's not what you are. I see what you can become. 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:17.640 You've got what it takes. You've got the talent, you've 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:20.680 got the ability, you've got the strength, you've got the personality. 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:23.840 You're going to make a great disciple. He spoke faith 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:27.600 into him. He helped Peter get a vision of himself 0:12:27.679 --> 0:12:32.560 rising higher, overcoming those obstacles. It was that encouragement that 0:12:32.640 --> 0:12:35.800 helped Peter become what he was created to be. It 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:40.880 says in Proverbs that a word of encouragement works wonders. 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:44.520 When you help people expand their thinking and get a 0:12:44.559 --> 0:12:48.240 real vision of victory for their lives, they will accomplish 0:12:48.320 --> 0:12:51.000 things that they never could have, And it will be 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:53.920 in part because of your faith, because of your confidence, 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:56.920 because of those seeds that you planted. I heard about 0:12:56.920 --> 0:12:59.600 this experiment that was done with a high school in 0:12:59.640 --> 0:13:03.920 californ The principal came in and told these three teachers, 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:08.400 because you are the brightest and most effective teachers in 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:11.560 our whole school district, we've chosen you to start this 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:15.760 new program. We're going to give you the top ninety students, 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:19.360 the smartest students with the highest IQs, and we're going 0:13:19.440 --> 0:13:22.120 to let you teach them at a faster pace this year. 0:13:22.559 --> 0:13:25.319 And both the students and the teachers were so excited. 0:13:25.760 --> 0:13:28.320 It just did something on the inside to know that 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:30.839 they were the cream of the crop. At the end 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:34.600 of that school year, those three classes had learned thirty 0:13:34.679 --> 0:13:37.760 percent more than the other students. They were thirty percent 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:41.840 further along. The principal then came in and informed the 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:46.079 teachers that this was only an experiment and in reality, 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:49.960 they did not have the top ninety students. Those students 0:13:50.000 --> 0:13:53.800 had just been randomly selected. The teachers were amazed at 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:56.240 how good they did. They kind of patted themselves on 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:59.960 the back, thinking it was their exceptional teaching and ability. 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:03.760 Then the principle broke some more news. They were not 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:07.840 the top three teachers in the district. They were simply 0:14:07.880 --> 0:14:10.679 the first three teachers that had been chosen out of 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:14.960 a hat. They too had been randomly selected. What's my point. 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:19.320 When people believe in us, we rise to their expectations. 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:25.080 You may not realize it, but the only people we 0:14:25.200 --> 0:14:30.120 allow in Lakewood we have a very strict policy The 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:33.280 only ones we allow through these doors are the smartest, 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:38.080 the brightest, the most creative, the most talented, the most generous, 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:43.120 the wealthiest, the happiest people around. You didn't know it, 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:45.480 but you couldn't have got in here today if you 0:14:45.520 --> 0:14:49.720 weren't the cream of the crop. We have incredible confidence 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:51.720 in you. We know you're gonna do great things. You're 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:55.800 gonna fulfill your God given destiny. We have to understand 0:14:57.520 --> 0:15:02.200 every person has seeds of greatness on the inside. When 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:05.200 we believe in them and take time to encourage them 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:08.280 and help them discover their gifts and talents, we are 0:15:08.320 --> 0:15:11.240 watering those seeds. We are helping them to take root 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:14.240 and grow. And you need to look around and see 0:15:14.280 --> 0:15:17.200 who God's put in your life that you can inspire, 0:15:17.400 --> 0:15:20.160 you can cheer on, you can help motivate to go 0:15:20.240 --> 0:15:23.640 to a new level. When you're a people builder, you 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:28.240 believe in people before they're successful. You cheer people on 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:31.040 when nobody's cheering them all. You tell them you're going 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:33.120 to do something great, when in the back of your 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:35.640 mind you wonder if they'll ever get on the right track. 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:40.360 After all, anybody can get on board when somebody's already 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:45.080 accomplishing their dreams. When somebody's already successful, that's easy. We 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:48.440 need to invest in people before they get there. It 0:15:48.520 --> 0:15:52.040 doesn't have to be something big, a kind word, a 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:56.560 note of encouragement, or even just recognizing a person's gifts. 0:15:57.120 --> 0:15:59.280 It may seem small to you, but you don't know 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:02.200 the difference could make. I read a letter from a 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:05.280 young lady. She told how when she was a teenager 0:16:05.400 --> 0:16:09.160 she had anorexia. She stood nearly six feet tall, but 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:12.200 weighed less than one hundred pounds. She wouldn't eat but 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:15.600 a couple hundred calories a day. She was so depressed 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:19.800 and so disillusioned with life she had basically cut herself 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:22.840 off from her friends and her family. She figured one 0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:25.120 day she had probably starved to death, and that was 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:27.880 fine with her. She didn't feel any sense of purpose. 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:32.000 One day, a friend from school called and asked if 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:35.640 she would help her with her math homework, and this 0:16:35.760 --> 0:16:38.960 lady agreed, And so the friend came to the girl's 0:16:39.120 --> 0:16:43.040 house that has anorexia, and this girl with anorexia explained 0:16:43.040 --> 0:16:45.720 the math and helped her to understand it. When her 0:16:45.760 --> 0:16:49.480 friend was leaving, just in passing, she said, man, you 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:53.280 are so smart. You would make a great math teacher. 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:56.640 One day, all of a sudden, a light turned on 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:59.680 in that young lady. She began to feel a sense 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:04.040 of purpose. She realized that she had a talent, there 0:17:04.119 --> 0:17:08.560 was something she was good at. That one compliment changed 0:17:08.560 --> 0:17:12.439 her perspective. That was over twenty years ago. Today, that 0:17:12.520 --> 0:17:16.119 young lady is an award winning math teacher. She worked 0:17:16.160 --> 0:17:21.080 with underachieving children. Not only that, she is happily married 0:17:21.280 --> 0:17:24.399 and she has three children of her own. But she 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:27.960 credits it all back to that one statement, that one 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:32.399 friend that recognized her gift and took the time to 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:35.959 plant that small seed of hope, just a simple affirmation. 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:39.800 What a difference it makes when we bless people with 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:42.840 our words, when we look for their gifts, we look 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:46.360 for their talents, and we speak faith into them. One 0:17:46.400 --> 0:17:49.720 of our goals should be not to get people to 0:17:49.800 --> 0:17:53.439 think more highly of ourselves, but to get people to 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:57.000 think more highly of themselves. Who can you build up? 0:17:57.000 --> 0:17:59.800 Who can you make feel better? Doesn't have to be 0:18:00.119 --> 0:18:05.480 something big, just a kind word, a simple compliment. Maybe 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:08.600 you drop somebody a note in the mail, telling them 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:11.040 what you like about them, telling them how much you 0:18:11.119 --> 0:18:15.160 appreciate them. Find ways to invest in others. You never 0:18:15.200 --> 0:18:17.800 know the difference is going to make. I heard about 0:18:17.800 --> 0:18:21.240 this junior high teacher one day. Her class was kind 0:18:21.240 --> 0:18:24.240 of rowdy and didn't seem like they were very interested 0:18:24.280 --> 0:18:27.520 in learning. She was tired and didn't feel like pushing 0:18:27.560 --> 0:18:30.000 through it, so she told her students to put their 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:33.119 books away and to take out a clean sheet of paper. 0:18:33.760 --> 0:18:37.240 Their assignment that day was to write down every student's 0:18:37.320 --> 0:18:40.439 name on the left, and then they were to write 0:18:40.520 --> 0:18:44.320 one good thing they liked about that student. The students 0:18:44.359 --> 0:18:47.360 went to work looking around the room thinking about what 0:18:47.400 --> 0:18:51.000 they liked about each other over the weekend. The teacher 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:54.240 took the time to write the student's name at the top, 0:18:54.560 --> 0:18:57.359 and then she listed all the comments that were written 0:18:57.440 --> 0:19:01.280 about that individual student day. She handed that sheet of 0:19:01.320 --> 0:19:04.600 paper to the appropriate students and they began to read 0:19:04.680 --> 0:19:08.000 all these comments that were written about them. The room 0:19:08.119 --> 0:19:11.800 was just buzzing with electricity. As those students read the comments, 0:19:11.880 --> 0:19:14.400 you could hear things like, Wow, I didn't know they 0:19:14.520 --> 0:19:16.920 liked me that much. I didn't know I was good 0:19:16.920 --> 0:19:19.480 at that. I didn't know they thought I was beautiful. 0:19:19.760 --> 0:19:23.239 On and on. Those students were on cloud nine. They 0:19:23.320 --> 0:19:27.240 left that day with more confidence, more self esteem, feeling 0:19:27.280 --> 0:19:31.320 better about themselves. Well years later, one of the students 0:19:31.440 --> 0:19:35.119 was killed while serving in Vietnam. Not only the teacher, 0:19:35.160 --> 0:19:39.040 but many of the students attended the funeral. After the service, 0:19:39.320 --> 0:19:41.800 the father of the soldier came up to the teacher 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:44.040 and said, I want to show you what my son 0:19:44.200 --> 0:19:47.159 was carrying when he was killed. Here's something that he 0:19:47.280 --> 0:19:49.760 kept in his wallet. He took out this paper, and 0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:53.240 as he unfolded it, the teacher realized it was the 0:19:53.280 --> 0:19:56.840 note that she had copied. With all the encouraging comments 0:19:56.880 --> 0:20:00.720 from her students, the father told how his sol untreasured 0:20:00.800 --> 0:20:04.320 that piece of paper. Well, when the other students overheard it, 0:20:04.440 --> 0:20:07.320 they begin to tell the same story. One man said 0:20:07.560 --> 0:20:10.800 he keeps his paper in his top drawer at the office. 0:20:11.359 --> 0:20:14.560 One lady said she put hers in her wedding album 0:20:14.760 --> 0:20:17.560 next to her wedding pictures. Another man, right then and there, 0:20:17.600 --> 0:20:20.600 took out his wallet and he unfolded his like it 0:20:20.720 --> 0:20:25.040 was his most prized possession. The teacher was overwhelmed. Little 0:20:25.040 --> 0:20:29.760 did she realize what a lasting impact that little impromptu 0:20:30.000 --> 0:20:34.760 assignment would have that day, The message is everyone needs 0:20:34.800 --> 0:20:39.040 to be blessed. Everyone needs to feel valuable. We long 0:20:39.240 --> 0:20:43.679 for that affirmation. My challenge to you today is, don't 0:20:43.720 --> 0:20:48.960 withhold your blessing. Be free with your compliments. Look for 0:20:49.080 --> 0:20:52.040 people you can build up, tell them what you like 0:20:52.080 --> 0:20:56.040 about them, how much you appreciate them. It takes so 0:20:56.280 --> 0:20:59.760 little effort that it makes such a huge deposit you 0:20:59.840 --> 0:21:02.400 to walk over to that coworker and just say, hey, 0:21:02.800 --> 0:21:05.760 have I ever told you how much I enjoy working 0:21:05.800 --> 0:21:09.480 with you each day? That does something huge on the inside. 0:21:09.760 --> 0:21:12.600 Or to tell your spouse, I really appreciate you being 0:21:12.680 --> 0:21:15.840 in my life. I appreciate you being so kind, You're 0:21:15.880 --> 0:21:19.560 so fun to be around. Those are not just words, 0:21:19.880 --> 0:21:23.119 those are treasures. They will carry around for a lifetime. 0:21:24.160 --> 0:21:28.280 Heard somebody say flatter me and I may not believe you, 0:21:29.040 --> 0:21:32.920 criticize me and I may not like you, But encourage 0:21:32.960 --> 0:21:36.840 me and I'll never forget you. Simple words can make 0:21:36.840 --> 0:21:42.520 a huge difference. My sister Lisa. My sister Lisa told 0:21:42.560 --> 0:21:45.240 how the other day she was up that the altar 0:21:45.280 --> 0:21:48.240 area just got through praying for somebody. As she walked 0:21:48.280 --> 0:21:50.920 back to her seat, a man came up out of 0:21:50.960 --> 0:21:53.879 the blue. She didn't know him, and he said Hey, Lisa, 0:21:54.000 --> 0:21:57.280 I just want to tell you that I really admire you. 0:21:58.000 --> 0:22:01.000 Lisa told how that put a ring in her step, 0:22:01.040 --> 0:22:03.960 that made her day. I noticed after the service she 0:22:04.040 --> 0:22:09.160 was giving him twenty dollars. But a lot of times, seriously, 0:22:09.520 --> 0:22:13.120 we may think that about a person, We may think 0:22:13.200 --> 0:22:16.480 how much we like them, But do you realize our 0:22:16.560 --> 0:22:19.919 thoughts don't bless anybody. Have you ever told them, I 0:22:20.000 --> 0:22:23.119 really admire you. You're a real gift in my life. 0:22:23.280 --> 0:22:27.080 I appreciate you for who you are. Growing up, we 0:22:27.160 --> 0:22:29.960 had a certain tradition at my home. It was started 0:22:30.000 --> 0:22:32.480 by my mother, and I must admit that I did 0:22:32.480 --> 0:22:36.520 not really like it. Whenever it was someone's birthday, before 0:22:36.560 --> 0:22:39.040 we could eat the cake, my mother made us go 0:22:39.160 --> 0:22:43.240 around the room and everyone tell one good thing about 0:22:43.240 --> 0:22:47.239 that person. In fact, I dreaded that. One reason is 0:22:47.440 --> 0:22:49.560 I could never think of anything good to say about 0:22:49.600 --> 0:22:53.640 my brother Paul. The only thing I came up with 0:22:53.840 --> 0:22:59.160 is you sure have a good looking brother. But as 0:22:59.280 --> 0:23:02.399 don't tell PAULA. I said that now, But as I 0:23:02.480 --> 0:23:06.520 got older, I begin to realize the importance and the 0:23:06.720 --> 0:23:10.080 value of not only hearing those words, but of saying 0:23:10.160 --> 0:23:14.840 those words. Those simple affirmations do so much for our confidence, 0:23:15.119 --> 0:23:18.000 our self esteem. Little things like man, I like you 0:23:18.040 --> 0:23:21.240 because you're so kind, I like you because you're respectful. 0:23:21.280 --> 0:23:23.480 I like you because you've got a great sense of humor. 0:23:24.000 --> 0:23:26.639 I've had people tell me Joel, I know you always 0:23:26.640 --> 0:23:29.639 hear this, but you've really helped change my life, and 0:23:29.680 --> 0:23:32.679 I always tell them I never get tired of hearing it. 0:23:33.320 --> 0:23:36.119 The fact is your spouse will never get tired of 0:23:36.160 --> 0:23:39.040 hearing it how much you love them. Your friends will 0:23:39.080 --> 0:23:41.840 never get tired of hearing how much you appreciate them. 0:23:42.560 --> 0:23:45.640 Are you speaking the blessing to those around you? Are 0:23:45.680 --> 0:23:49.720 you being free with your compliments? Are you verbalizing what 0:23:49.800 --> 0:23:53.080 you appreciate about the people God put in your life? 0:23:53.720 --> 0:23:57.040 When you take time to speak an encouraging word, it's 0:23:57.160 --> 0:24:00.439 just like you're giving wings to an ego. Help that 0:24:00.480 --> 0:24:05.040 person begin to soar. John Wooden, the famous basketball coach, 0:24:05.359 --> 0:24:09.600 told his players, after you score a basket, always look 0:24:09.720 --> 0:24:13.000 for the player that gave you the pass and acknowledge them. 0:24:13.560 --> 0:24:16.800 Nod your head, smile, point your finger, but do something 0:24:16.840 --> 0:24:20.320 to express your appreciation. One of the players said, what 0:24:20.400 --> 0:24:24.200 if he's not looking, wouldn't replied, don't worry he'll be looking. 0:24:25.320 --> 0:24:28.320 The point is we all love to be appreciated. We 0:24:28.480 --> 0:24:32.879 love to be valued, to feel encouraged. Mark Twain said, 0:24:33.240 --> 0:24:35.760 I can live for a whole year off of one 0:24:35.800 --> 0:24:39.440 good compliment. I wonder what would happen if we'd all 0:24:39.480 --> 0:24:43.440 go out of here today looking for someone we can compliment, 0:24:43.760 --> 0:24:47.480 not criticize. I wonder how much better our relationships would 0:24:47.520 --> 0:24:50.879 be if we would take time to express what we 0:24:51.160 --> 0:24:55.280 liked in that person. It's interesting I read where Abraham 0:24:55.359 --> 0:24:59.200 Lincoln was carrying several things when he was killed. They'd 0:24:59.240 --> 0:25:02.480 been on display in the Smithsonian. He had a handkerchief 0:25:02.560 --> 0:25:05.399 with his initials on it, He had a five dollar bill, 0:25:05.760 --> 0:25:09.280 and he had a newspaper article folded up that talked 0:25:09.320 --> 0:25:13.960 about his accomplishments. The headline read, Abraham Lincoln one of 0:25:14.000 --> 0:25:17.480 the greatest statesmen that's ever lived. Why would he carry 0:25:17.480 --> 0:25:20.679 around an article like that, especially an article about himself. 0:25:21.119 --> 0:25:23.720 Surely he was confident, Surely he knew he was a 0:25:23.760 --> 0:25:27.240 great president. No Lincoln served during some of the most 0:25:27.280 --> 0:25:33.040 difficult years. He was criticized, ridiculed, constantly, being put down. 0:25:33.359 --> 0:25:38.280 Even Abraham Lincoln needed to be reminded that somebody believed 0:25:38.320 --> 0:25:42.159 in him. You've probably seen that commercial what's in your wallet? 0:25:42.880 --> 0:25:46.320 My question today is what are you putting in people's wallet. 0:25:46.880 --> 0:25:50.119 I'm not talking about money. I'm talking about putting in confidence, 0:25:50.480 --> 0:25:54.280 putting in self esteem, making them feel better about themselves 0:25:54.480 --> 0:25:58.959 by believing in them, by speaking the blessing, by telling 0:25:59.040 --> 0:26:02.080 them not but what they are, but what they can become. 0:26:03.040 --> 0:26:06.320 Your words have the power to help set the direction 0:26:06.600 --> 0:26:10.560 for someone's life. In nineteen seventy five, a young man 0:26:10.640 --> 0:26:14.800 named Denzel Washington was home from college. He was struggling 0:26:14.880 --> 0:26:16.920 with what he wanted to do in life. He didn't 0:26:16.920 --> 0:26:20.360 have clear direction. One day, he was at his mother's 0:26:20.359 --> 0:26:25.080 beauty shop and an older lady, a customer named Ruth Green. 0:26:25.600 --> 0:26:28.280 He had seen her in there many times going up, 0:26:28.720 --> 0:26:32.399 but he wondered why she kept staring and staring and 0:26:32.440 --> 0:26:35.000 staring at him. He knew her enough to say alone, 0:26:35.000 --> 0:26:37.840 but she just kept looking at him. Finally, Miss Green 0:26:37.920 --> 0:26:41.000 took the hairdryer off and said, somebody get me a 0:26:41.040 --> 0:26:44.159 pen and a piece of paper. She began to write 0:26:44.160 --> 0:26:49.000 down a prophecy something she felt in her heart. It said, Denzel, 0:26:49.440 --> 0:26:52.720 you will speak to millions. You will travel the world 0:26:53.080 --> 0:26:56.439 and you will make a positive difference. At that time, 0:26:56.760 --> 0:26:58.520 it could have looked like she was a little off 0:26:58.560 --> 0:27:02.720 of her rocker. But Denzel took that prophecy and put 0:27:02.800 --> 0:27:05.959 it in his wallet. It spoke to his heart, and 0:27:06.000 --> 0:27:08.640 throughout his career when he was tempted to get down, 0:27:08.680 --> 0:27:11.800 to get discouraged, he would always pull that prophecy out 0:27:12.119 --> 0:27:14.840 say no, God's got a great plan for my life. 0:27:14.960 --> 0:27:19.080 Somebody believes in me. To this day, he still carries 0:27:19.119 --> 0:27:23.400 around that prophecy. Who knows where he would be if 0:27:23.440 --> 0:27:26.760 miss Green hadn't taken the time to bless his future. 0:27:27.080 --> 0:27:29.679 Who knows if he would have seen so much success 0:27:29.960 --> 0:27:33.320 if she hadn't planted those seeds of faith in his heart. 0:27:33.520 --> 0:27:36.879 You never know the impact a small note, a kind 0:27:36.920 --> 0:27:39.800 word of encouragement can have. I don't know about you, 0:27:40.160 --> 0:27:43.280 but I want to be a wallet filler. I want 0:27:43.320 --> 0:27:46.520 to speak so much vision, so much faith, so much 0:27:46.560 --> 0:27:49.960 blessings that it inspires people to even want to carry 0:27:49.960 --> 0:27:53.320 it around with them. After all, we got enough people 0:27:53.320 --> 0:27:56.560 speaking defeat over us, criticizing us, telling us what we're 0:27:56.560 --> 0:28:00.040 not going to become. Don't fall into that trap. I 0:28:00.040 --> 0:28:03.280 have the power in you right now to help someone 0:28:03.440 --> 0:28:06.320 go to a higher level. The people in your life 0:28:06.359 --> 0:28:10.120 are not thereby accident. Are you believing in them? Are 0:28:10.160 --> 0:28:13.800 you urging them forward? Are you speaking the blessing. I 0:28:13.840 --> 0:28:17.000 want to give you an assignment. Find at least one 0:28:17.080 --> 0:28:19.680 person you can build up. You may have four or 0:28:19.720 --> 0:28:22.600 five different people. Write their name on a sheet of paper. 0:28:23.080 --> 0:28:26.760 List what you like about them, their strengths. Pray over that, 0:28:27.200 --> 0:28:29.960 ask God to show you ways to bless them, and 0:28:30.000 --> 0:28:33.960 then start speaking favor into their life. Write them and 0:28:34.160 --> 0:28:37.600 encouraging note. Let them know that you're believing in them. 0:28:37.920 --> 0:28:40.920 As they succeed, You're going to succeed. When you bring 0:28:40.920 --> 0:28:43.160 out the best in others, it'll bring out the best 0:28:43.160 --> 0:28:47.160 in you and in life. We can be a career builder, 0:28:47.560 --> 0:28:50.840 a bodybuilder, a home builder. That's all great, but the 0:28:50.880 --> 0:28:53.400 only thing that's going to last is the investment we 0:28:53.520 --> 0:28:56.160 make in other people. When it comes to the end 0:28:56.200 --> 0:28:58.760 of my days, I want people to say that man 0:28:58.760 --> 0:29:01.960 help me go higher. He made me feel better about myself. 0:29:02.000 --> 0:29:07.200 He took time to make a difference. Remember an encouraging 0:29:07.360 --> 0:29:12.280 word works wonders. Be free with your compliments. Tell people 0:29:12.320 --> 0:29:14.960 what they mean to you. Let's fill up some wallets 0:29:14.960 --> 0:29:18.640 this week, let's put some treasures in people's hearts. If 0:29:18.640 --> 0:29:21.480 you'll get in a habit of building other people up, 0:29:21.520 --> 0:29:23.960 you'll never lack in your own life. When you sow 0:29:24.000 --> 0:29:26.680 those seeds, God will make sure you go higher. That's 0:29:26.720 --> 0:29:29.680 when He'll pour out his blessings in favor, and you'll 0:29:29.680 --> 0:29:33.360 see every dream, every desire, every promise God's put in you, 0:29:33.600 --> 0:29:36.440 it will come to pass. Amen. Do you receive it today? 0:29:37.480 --> 0:29:40.440 Thanks so much for listening to today's message. 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