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22- Holding Back
Bishop Dag Heward-MillsAbout this sermon
Camp Title - Give Thyself Wholly. Machaneh Collection - 86. Preached in 2014, Ghana (Mampong Akuapem). Bishop Dag Heward-Mills is a world-renowned evangelist, bestselling Christian author with over 100 books, and leader of the United Denominations, present in 100+ countries. Through his Healing Jesus Campaigns, thousands have been healed, and millions saved across Africa and beyond. As you follow this podcast, may you begin to know God in a way you have never before! Don’t forget to click the follow button and turn on notifications.
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Welcome to track #22 of give thyself holy glory to Godfather. Thanks for this great opportunity in Jesus name Amen. You may be seated this morning. We are looking at talking about holding back. I brought a third member here. A vision, not a problem. This one does not even want to join. Just come and you don't want to be obedient. Now look at the old one. He's almost finished and he's still saying that he's going to come full time, give his all to God. What type of candle is this? Kandal Saika OK Holding back Proverbs 21 all day long he is craving while the righteous gives and does not hold back. The first thing you must know about holding back is that the righteous person does not hold back. You see, a righteous person does not hold back. Amen. So how many are righteous? So if you are righteous, you must decide to not hold back. From today. Go all the way. There's a song that I want us to learn. It's called All the Way. I'm going all the way no matter what. You know how to sing it. Why not all the? Way. I'm going all the way. No matter what tomorrow brings all the way, I'm going all the way. So don't even try to turn me around. Oh ye
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Welcome to track #22 of give thyself holy glory to Godfather. Thanks for this great opportunity in Jesus name Amen. You may be seated this morning. We are looking at talking about holding back. I brought a third member here. A vision, not a problem. This one does not even want to join. Just come and you don't want to be obedient. Now look at the old one. He's almost finished and he's still saying that he's going to come full time, give his all to God. What type of candle is this? Kandal Saika OK Holding back Proverbs 21 all day long he is craving while the righteous gives and does not hold back. The first thing you must know about holding back is that the righteous person does not hold back. You see, a righteous person does not hold back. Amen. So how many are righteous? So if you are righteous, you must decide to not hold back. From today. Go all the way. There's a song that I want us to learn. It's called All the Way. I'm going all the way no matter what. You know how to sing it. Why not all the? Way. I'm going all the way. No matter what tomorrow brings all the way, I'm going all the way. So don't even try to turn me around. Oh yes, I'm going all the way. I've got to go all the way. Oh yes, I'm going all the way. I've got to go all the way, all the way. I'm going all the way no matter what tomorrow brings all the way, I'm going all the way. So don't even try. Wow #2 there is nothing to lose when you do not hold back. Job. Chapter 16, verse six. If I speak, my pain is not lessened. If I speak my pain, the pains of life are not lessened. And if I hold back, what has left me? Or what if I hold back? Do you see what has left me? So if I speak, my pain is not lessened. In other words, I have nothing to lose by speaking. Amen. Because when you speak and you do the work of God and you minister the will of God, the pains of this life and the issues that we will all go through are all going to be the same. All my classmates, my mates, my friends from school, we have all suffered in this life since we came. We have all experienced similar struggles in this world. It's true, we have. I have a lot of mates who are my classmates. We are still friends. Our lives are similar in terms of the pains of life, the issues, the different things that we've gone through, you see, since we left school. Are you with me? If I hold back what has left me? So if I speak, my pain is not less preaching the word of you see when I was in school, being serious in the school, serious in God did not make me not do well. In medical school, I did well. And there are others who do all sorts of things whilst in school. Tennis competitions. Miss Ghana? Miss Malaika? Huh. The current Miss Ghana is in fourth year. When did she become Miss Ghana? Was she in medical school? She was a medical student. Yeah. And she was third in Miss World. Miss What? Ligon was a medical student and she said, she said Miss Ligon, and she's in school. Yeah, that's fantastic. So she has given herself to go for beauty patterns when dressed, do this, do this, do this. So many meetings they go for to be a miss whatever training, coaching and everything. And they miss lectures, you see, for two weeks or a month and then they become Miss Ghana and then they also qualify from the medical school. Are you listening to me? And what has left you when you speak? Nothing. So that is why I constantly challenge the people who are hiding themselves and holding back and say, oh, because I'm this medical school until because of that one or two of us, you know, in medicals we have a lot of lectures, a lot of examinations, a lot of films that we are doing. We are very busy more than other students. Until because of that vision, after school, God is, he will never leave us. After school we will work for God all day long. This all our promise to God. But what God is telling us is that if I speak, my pain is not lessened. If I hold back, what has left me. In other words, what is the point in holding back? What has? What is the advantage? In holding back? There's no advantage. You think you are busy now, You will be more busy after school. Take it from me and you will. You will. You will wish. You can go back to school. Trust me. Look at Tilly. She used to be here. She's working. She cannot come. She wishes she was here. She said she she she made me as a Bishop. I cannot believe that I'm not here because it's working. The camp is going on. Yeah. You don't know that you are enjoying. Yeah. So thank God ministry is not just coming for camps. The camp is for a reason. Yeah, there must be a reason. There must be. Are you listening to me? If I hold back my pain and the pains of my life and of this life are not going to be any less. Amen. So give yourself and your life to Jesus. Don't hold back any love, otherwise God is going to give you a beloved who will hold back. So that or Nina, a husband or a wife who will hold back so that you see what it is Pepe to have a holding back person in your life. Are you listening to me? Amen #3 We can feel it when you are holding back. God can feel it and anybody you are working with or moving with can and does feel it that you are holding back. Amen. Second Corinthians chapter 6. Don't hold back. Amen. Don't do what? Don't hold back 2nd Corinthians chapter 6. If we read it in the American Bible, it would be much easier to understand. Amen. Verse 12, you are not restrained. Oh verse 11 our mouth has spoken freely to you or the NIV. We have spoken freely to you Corinthians and opened wide our hearts to you. Amen. We are this one says you are not restrained by us. But the NIV which is the anti supernatural version makes it quite plain. We are not withholding our affection from you, but you are withholding yours from us. Corinthians you see, you can have a church which is holding back withholding their affection. Amen. You can also have a businessman who could support the church by his withholding his affection for God. And when it comes to other things, he releases his affection. Are you listening to me? He releases and opens his heart and lets all his affections go. Now, some people's marital problems is this, that the person they love is not loving them freely. You, you, you see that you are withholding your affection. And it is a it is a major problem because there are a lot of people who don't know how to love. Yeah, they don't know how to love. They are just wanting a ring or they want a child, but they don't know how to live. So they withhold their affection. And it's, it's, it's, it's, it is. It is a very frustrating thing for somebody who has come with all his heart and all his mind. Or her mind, her soul. Yeah. And then not like you've given it to somebody who. But it's like, I'm just cool. Hello. Yeah. Hi. How is it? Fine. I've missed you. It's powerful. I love you. Thank you. Do you miss me? Of course I miss. I mean, I miss all those. I don't see those. I don't see what I've been seeing for some time. I've missed you. Do you love me? But I've told you. I've told you before. Are you happy that we are together? Of course I'm always happy. Wow. Is it amazing? Is it fantastic? Yeah, it's it's very frustrating. In fact, many people's belovedosis problems and Marita problems boil down to this one thing that one is all out and one is holding back. One is exuberance and one is cool. You love me. My mother too, told me that this is what The same thing you see. That's what's in the head. You see, sometimes there is an evil thought in the head about the person. My mother told me that this is how a man will talk. So I am not surprised that you say that you love me. I say I have heads. I hear you. Wow. And actually, it is the problem of almost every relationship. Yeah, almost every relationship. Rarely do two people with equal extent of love meet. Yeah, really. Are you sad about what I'm saying? You are disturbed. Maybe different levels of expression of their love life. One will come. Oh, hello. And you also got the hello. Hello. Is that? Yeah, and 1 is just coming with a shoulder. Wow. Is it not amazing? Is it not fantastic? Yeah. This is what God is experiencing. God is really, really suffering from a broken heart. Come with like all out to die for you and you it's like evening. One evening you come and it's like God is taking too much time. And no, I wouldn't, I wouldn't understand why you wouldn't want to give him your everything. You know, when he loves you so much, He loves you so much that he gave his only begotten son. So when people get married, they find and they're like, oh, I saw Moi, you married me because you just wanted to have a ring. And you married me because you wanted to have a name. You wanted me because you wanted to change your name from Miss to Mrs. And you married me because you wanted to have a child. And so you were very serious about having the children. 123 plus 25. The twins at the end became fine. After that you switch off. Life is over. And you return back to your shell and you live in a beastly way. Most relationships have one is like this, one is like this, like this, like that. Most like that, a mobile. You will feel sorry for the one who is come with all his, you know what I mean? And the other one is just cool like that. Are you happy? I say no faith, you don't know. That is how it is. We are chatting and we are not saying anything. But it's not always that I feel like saying. It's not always that I have to speak. Is it always that I have to speak to show that sometimes there are quiet moments? We don't speak much. The quiet moment is all the time. Sometimes there are quiet moments. Wow. Sometimes a husband will do so many things. A Christian husband or the Christian wife really a good Christian wife, she will do everything that she knows two days, two days, two days. We have about 9 duties of the wife. She will learn all Oh yeah, there are every religion is like this or like this. Depend on which one you've got. Some are similar, but some is quite a the difference. Yeah, it is almost like Loto. The wife will learn everything, then she marries you. She says that the language that you speak is gun. Although she is not a gun, she will learn how to speak. Or she's Nina from another place. She doesn't speak tree. She will learn how to speak tree. Wow. Then your your foods that you eat, she will lend them for you. Although originally she doesn't eat such food and she's even afraid of it, when she's when she's cooking it, she will learn it. Yes, one day. I met a lady from the Caribbean. She married a Ghanaian. She was an expert at making shito. OK, so you don't know how to make shito. You don't know how to make it. You don't know much including shito. You don't know how to make it. She learnt how to make a lot of food, Canyon across you this, you that and everything. She knew it. So there are some wives, they come and they give everything all out. Then your sexual Nina. Peculiar peculiarities. She would adjust herself. Somebody who is very quiet and calm. You see that in the room there is an Acrobat, there is acrobatics, and then you will see that there is gymnastics. Yes. Oh no, acquires Italy because of love. All laughs. Gymnastics, acrobatics and what? Aerobics. Wow. Then you, a husband, will hold back your money, Money that you have. You see that it's like money becomes a discussion money as you are holding back. You've gone to work. Your salary was 250, and we cannot see the 250 in the house. Yes, all you are helded for your sisters, children and your cousins and your relatives. Yeah, Ashantis have relatives and other not only her scientists depend on your family, so that you are holding back because she has made a close to you for which she doesn't eat aerobics, which she has never been to the gym before and she's not a Dancing star. She was a singing star because of you shall open their hearts and 2:50 instead of bringing it for her to be happy in the house that all that I have is 250 that we are all going to enjoy it. What I can do is all this. But when the person comes, you say that, so where is the money? No matter how I told you I'll get her money, I'm coming, I'm coming light off How to put electricity become a meeting. A meeting school fees is a meeting to extract When they are taking money from you. It's like your tooth is being removed. Meanwhile, she has learned all the things. The time that he comes home at work from his work, he's coming around midnight. No, that's the time that your sleep has also come deeply. You have learnt how to rise and be moving around. Oh what a wise You have not held back by his 250 he has held it any brother here you marry and there is meetings in your house about money. You are a bad husband. I'm telling you that you write it down for the future right? You are a bad husband. Some of you have seen it already in your house. Don't bring that thing to the House of God. Money is for the women they they use they need to be happy. What type of man are you sisters? Be quiet. Don't clap to my room at your time. You are a bad husband. Open. You see, I'm not even assuming that you are giving it to somebody. My letters assume that you are even. Hold them back. Bring the 2:50 so that we all discuss how to connect water and connect light to the house. Are you getting what I'm saying? How to buy food? It shouldn't be a meeting. Somebody has opened their heart and somebody has held back. Yeah, we also have on the other side see that their brother or even this man who you'll be sitting there, he doesn't speak, he doesn't communicate. Yes, it's always thinking. It's always thinking in the house, nobody for the wife to talk to, although she has opened her heart to provide LLI which is lower level interactions. Now when it comes to the upper level interactions, you are always thinking. You see, I'm training you as a good Christian when you come with your unimproved version. Unimproved version. All beautiful girls here smell, but they have been improved by bathing Una borin Chong. Oh, keep thyself holy. Look at what you are trying to give to the Lord of your life. Are you listening to me? So Christian, a good Christian of the relationships and you have it in relationships. You see that one will Billy his heart. You understand Billy opening the heart to visit you, You'll be visiting. But you, dear Charlie, you will never open your spirit to visit. You will never come. Or the person would belay his heart to be calling you and texting you and then you will not respond. Now. Then you send a response. I see. One letter. Letter. I see. After you have received texts like diarrhea plenty. I miss you. I'm going here. I'm doing this. We are here. We are doing this. And we will send one. I see. I hear you. OK. Thanks. TX. Thanks. Amen. You send the text. Amen. Great. Meanwhile, there are only two of you in the relationship. 22 Many of my my texts, the answers are very short because I have a lot of texts, but I can also decide I will not even reply. Yeah, but my, all my answers are short. But we are not only two. Yeah. No, it's only me and you. It's me and we are lot. Yeah. But you. You are only two. And they have sent a lot of nice messages. The only message you have sent back is. I See. I hear you. I hate you, LOLLOLLOL. You are sending LOLI no treasure. You are withholding your love, so hold back. Yeah, but that's how it is. Jesus has come. Give the give, the running. Give the give the give for you. I'll time. I'll do everything when it's finished dying for us. And so you love me. I should come Tuesday evening. I should come on Wednesday, the evening once a week. Oh, I hear you. You know what Jesus has brought himself Gibby. Gibby is running, coming to die. I say I love you, I love the world, I love you. I'll die for you. And when he finish dying, he gets upset. Do you feel whatever? So lol. Oh, it's powerful. It's powerful that you died. I mean, I didn't ask you to die, but I didn't wanted to die. I didn't tell him it wasn't my intention for you to die or you see if you've died. I mean, thanks. I mean you, you, you chose to die. I mean we should love ourselves, but not to to dying point. That's how Jesus feels. So Jesus is the most broken hearted. You see the story here, You, you wonder, you wonder how the brother who be an A1 husband who get up, do this, do this for you, do this for you, do this, organize this. Careful. You never ask for anything. Everything is organized. Time for you. Careful when it comes to that you will cook something. Since that cooking has become an issue to even present, present arms cannot present. Because when we were preaching at the camp, you didn't learn how to cook every day. So we will cook, but you don't know anything. Unimproved version. It's also hair and it's also dressing 000. You cannot cook. When we are together in the house, it's two brothers who are there and two brothers. You might as well remove those earrings so that we know that we are two boys when it comes to sexy cow things. Instead of trying to be an aerobics assistant, You you say no, I cannot. What do you take me for? And you say you think I'm one of those. I'm one of those. What do you take me for? How do you, how do you see me? How do you see me? Huh. Do you think I'm a slave? Think I'm a slave? I'm a sex machine that one of those girls who've been watching on those pornography, those people are professionals. Those people are professionals. They are paid to do what they are doing. What do you take me for? But he has also paid. He has done dowries, done engagement. He has done so. He has given you his name. Oh, always one laughs like this and the other one laughs like this. And gradually it breaks the heart of the one who laughs so much. And then he starts to come down and then he lowers the OR she lowers it. But she said I used to make a bonobano for you, you know, a bonobano. A bonobano? Is that what you call it? A bonobano? Hey, Bono, Bono, Bono. I used to make a Bono Bono for you. You didn't appreciate it. I used to do gymnastics for you. You didn't appreciate it. I used to clean all your clothes for you. You didn't appreciate it. I used to do everything. Your friends, I used to talk to them. You didn't appreciate it. I'm also feeling tired now. We are all just be there in the house and then gradually so from here. So calm down. And this one also, OK, I'm coming down, I'm coming down. This one I'm coming down, coming down. The way you meet them when they are older, one to one we are all looking at. That's how love gets finished. Yeah, don't hold back. Give thyself holy. So Jesus, and this is Jesus's problem. It's come to us with power. Love. Giving it, give it. You understand? Give it, give it, give it. Challenge. We will save the people. Child, let's move to Holy Spirit. Let's go. Power. We just don't believe. Let's go giving it. Come. When you phrased it why you so heated up? Have you eaten today? Jesus, have you eaten? Hopefully you're hungry. You should have asked me whether to die before you die. I have not intended to die. Yeah. So watch out. Because that's how life gets finished. Yeah. As a pastor, there are times I felt silly come to try to push the people about the work of God. We have to do something that the people will look at it deserve deserve. Your Father has money. That is why I say all these things. Then my my love will just. And people ask so because why these days you don't have camps with us? Because you may cut your mind. Back when I had a camp with you and I opened my heart, what response did I get? No response. And I realized, ah, I've come to the wrong place to laugh. The last thing I wish for you is a marriage or relationship where the love the love is not coming the same way. Talaji people must all have long relationships. I'm telling you, enter the relationship now and watch the thing talaqo naked The the the person is not able to give you a such a such challenge. You know something, you know something, you are, you are you are holding back because of that room. I've changed my mind. See you later. We are not withholding our affection from you, but you are withholding yours from us. Second Corinthians chapter 6, verse 12. We are not withholding our affection from you, but you are withholding yours from us. Amen. No #3 what was #1 Why just #2 is 1 #3 is 1. We can feel it when you are holding back #4 It is a curse to hold back. Curse Jeremiah chapter 48 and verse #10 Jeremiah 48 verse #10 Lord thy God. Jeremiah 48 verse #10 Curse that. Be the one who does the Lord's work negligently, and cassette be the one who restrains his sword from blood. Jeremiah 48 and verse 10. Curse on him who is LAX in doing the Lord's work, and a curse on him who keeps his sword from black sheep. So who holds back his sword is the curse. Be that as we are going to fight, you will not be coming forward with strength. I should go and die. Do you see very dangerous to go to war with people who it's like that they've made their mind. I challenge me. I'll run when I hear no Charlie, I'm running when I hear pay. I say, Jesus, I cannot die a foolish death. I cannot die here. What I'm going and that is how and that's why an army is made-up of people who are always being disciplined. Sometimes you wonder, why do they make them parade? What are all these useless matches up and down, standing at ease, salute this slow match, fast match. I mean, why? It's like, get used to being told being doing what is needed to be done without thinking. But another when we go and we say, hey, never what? I'm not a fool. Yeah. So the training. So even even, you know, when you come to camps, that's why most of the pastors are people who have been to camps. Yeah, all my pastors are. All the pastors come from camps because to come and sit here for hours, it's alone. It's disciplined. It's listening to what is being told, doing what you are told to do. Being obedient, being humble is part of military training, you see. And so you find out that it produces people who, when you tell them go to Guinea, they just go. And they say it's an honor because soldiers are taught to die for what? And they they are made to be happy to die, and they are given a reason to die. Die for your nation. Don't think about it. Just die for your nation. Meanwhile, you are not really dying for your nation. You are dying for a madman's idea, like Hitler or Napoleon. You are dying for an egomaniac who wants to get so much power which he cannot even use or control. Yeah. And you go fighting battles, doing brutal things for nothing. But they make them do it, and they do it happily. Yeah, That is how it is to be a soldier and to be disciplined. And so you, you, you. It's very, very dangerous. That's why you even find them cursing those who would run away and turn away. Stalin. Stalin, the commander of the Russian Army, the president of Russia. He, he, he, he, he, he, he, he produce a law. When you when you turn back, you'll be shot. You'll be shot because Tess is the man who goes. We we've all formed a line here and we are fighting. And if we stay, based on our numbers, we are 200. The guys cannot come. But as I'm fighting, I realized that 160 have run away and we are very few. You have sport the whole fight by you holding back or running away. When some of us decided to go forward, that's what has happened. You are killing us. So holding back is very distracted and that is why somebody would place a curse on those who return, those who hold back, those who that we are all going. If we even know that we are 40, we will not that venture into certain things, but we venture thinking that we were more. Yeah, it's the same thing. I would not have married you if I had known that you were going to give me only 40% of a woman's life in all my life. I will be begging. Yeah. Don't hold back. He's dangerous. One day, Kendall Hagen said he was somewhere and then, you know, he wanted to go out pitch and his wife, he could see that his wife was not happy with it. I said go here, come, go, come, go, come, say bye. I want a normal husband, you know. So one day he was pitching and he collapsed and he was like he was having either a heart attack or I don't know what. So his wife and they were all rushed like the Sinner I was reading in the book, you know, But once you bent over the husband, then a voice told her, a voice said, I can take him where he will never come back. So let him go so that he goes and comes, goes and comes, goes and comes. It's better than go and not come. Yeah, she said, can I take it? Or we talk about that thing that happened. Then the Lord told her I can take him and he will never come back. Rather it will be better that he goes and comes, goes and comes, goes and comes. Then it's like you go because you are holding him back. You hold him back and he will die in the house. Amen. So there are people, many times we don't realize that holding back is a very terrible thing. Don't hold back, don't hold back your husband from the ministry. Don't keep him away from doing what God has called him to do. Like witch, witchy woman, come and deceive us with your beauty. Then we have married you by mistake. But we couldn't see because you attended 2 camps. We thought you were a good person, came with your beauty, not knowing that you are not correct at all, married you. Now you are spoiling the church, spoiling the mission, threatening the guy in the house all the time because you've seen that the guy is a nice person, he's a very good person. He's not. I mean, so strong to terrorize you or punish you. Just pleasant and easy going. That is what you are taking advantage of. Manifest like a witch. I mean decibelic manipulator, manipulator of husbands and pastors can said BU Jezebels can said BU Jezebels can said BU Jezebel. Manipulators of pastors, manipulators of apostles, manipulators of servants of God trying to twiddle them around your hand, using your sex sexual appeal to deny and to control. To give a little and hold back a little, give a little scissor and hold back to use your powers to control. Can't that be you, Jezebel's? Can't that be the manipulators of God's apostles and God's pastors? Can't that be you? You are cast with that. You will be replaced. I prophecy your replacement. I I, I declare your replacement has happened. You will be surprised and shocked that you will be replaced, and another will stand in your place, and another will sit in your chair and another will lie in your bed, more worthy of that position than you. Wicked manipulator, killer of souls, killer of churches, killer of people. The blood is on your head and on your hand as you have redirected a man of God's life away from his God. Who called him that cares? Yeah. Come and sit here with your beautiful face. It's like, oh, I love the Lord. I love the Lord. It's like we know what they want. There are some few things. When you say them, they will choose you just now #1 go for camp #2 say Amen #3 smile #4 do this. They will like you just now let this go, these boys. So when you get them all, then that is it. You start. Yeah. Catch said you. I'm running. I'm running well. Then you bring your leg out like this. I'm running home. I'm running to my victory. Put your leg in when I get there. Then you bring it out and tell me if she's not a wicked girl. I'm running to my victory. I'm running. You, you. I was going there by now. I've gone there. I've stayed there for seven years, 13 years. I've stayed here struggling with you. Look at where I would have reached. Are you not a wicked girl? Was I not running well before I met you? My whole race has been affected. The beautiful shiny blue, whatever. If I had seen it well, but I was running. I was concentrated on my wrist, concentrated on my wrist. I saw. I saw the high calling. I saw the high calling and I was going. I was going. Look at that. You tell me. You make me calm down. You will be replaced. That chair will be taken by somebody else. Somebody will take your place. Somebody more ready will sit there. Yeah. I was running well. Stumbling block shall come by war to he war to he who causes even one of my little ones to to stumble. To come down to stumble is to be brought to a stop and to fall down and to come down less than you would have been before. I was doing well. I was so motivated by the messages and by the camp. I was running. I was good at running forward. I was even good at running sideways. I was even good at running backwards. I mean, I was so flowing. I was flowing. I was jumping. I was running. I was running, I was running. I could run backwards really that's what you want to do to me because I said I will never divorce as a good Christian. I've decided I will not divorce until because of that you are you are manipulating kicking me now kicking me because of seven years of my ministry has ended here because I met you. You use your ties and but but us too charming. I was also charmed because I was in need. I was angry when I saw it. Hey shabba ya my God Charlie come and let me pray for you so that Father we cancel all such negativities in Jesus name. Thank you for your blessing and your help Jesus. Amen.