09- Give Yourself Wholly To Marriage

Welcome to track number. 9 of Give thyself. Holy, pay attention. Yeah, Especially if you are not married. We are now going to marry. Listen, if I made a mistake, I tell you I made a mistake. I'm married in the evening. I never thought it to be like this, My brother told me. He said by you, you are blessed you knew your wife from school, He said. I knew my wife for only two weeks and we got married. So please take note of that. The second thing you must give yourself wholly to is marriage, because in the last days some people are going to come forbidden to marry. Yeah, they will come and say no marriage, marry later, don't marry. So you must give yourself and pay attention to how to marry and how to stay married. Una Boney, John. Yes. So then we go to the art of getting a beloved, Yes, the art, the art of getting the label. Do you understand the art of finding the label, then the art of being in a relationship, and then the art of marrying and then the art of on staying married? Happily, yes, because the spirits, the spirits that are coming are going to be anti marriage spirits. Some of you already anti marriage spirit has been working in your life because of let's say your parents marriage has ministered to you anti marriage spirit. And some of you, your parents marriage has ministered to you, criticism of marriage and of your father. So you are going to become just like your father and criticism of your mother. And so you are going to be just like your mother. It's true. You are already doomed not to do well. Yeah, the art of marrying. So you, you have to learn it because as you go higher in the ministry, it will become your number one attack. Yeah, because the best way for the enemy to attack you is to create an orango, which is an associate pastor. But the highest orango is your spouse, whom you cannot sack. So what a shock. Permanent orango. So there are going to come evil spirits encouraging people and promoting non marriage alternatives to marriage like being gay, staying single and being weird, staying single, having children all over the place until any marriage you ever get married into will be a complicated marriage because you were forbidden to marry for a long time. So once you are following that evil spirit forbidding you to marry, you sow certain seed which will make future marriage more forbidden and more difficult because you are coming with char from here, char from here, char from here. And then your spouse will say my children and your children are fighting with our children. Wow. So marriage, listen, marriage like like everything which looks easy is not easy and everything which is looks automatic. It's not automatic. That's what one of the things you find out that if you think that you don't need training and counseling or advice in everything out of getting a beloved out of staying having a out of beloved dosing you, you, you, you, you are joking. Yeah, You see, one day I set him rather had a beloved and he met another brother who had also a beloved. And so he asked the brother how is your relationship? And the brother said it is good. And the other senior brother said ask him are you paralleling? Are you paralleling? The person said no, we are not friends, are you fighting? So we are not fighting. Oh no, there you are not in a relationship, you must fight, you must fight. Yeah, that is how relationship is. It has quarrelling and fighting. So he he advised the person that you must fight, you must quarrel. That's our relationship is. Do you understand? The senior brother was explaining to the younger beloved that if you are not fighting and quarrelling and fighting, then you are not in a good relationship or the relationship is not working. What that brother didn't know that he was rather in an incompatible relationship. He didn't know he was having a bad relationship and he thought that the bad one was normal. He thought that he was supposed to fight. Not There must be fight, there must be quarrel. But he didn't know that that rather is the sign that he is not in a good relationship, a relationship that is always quarreling. I didn't marry Diego. There must be quarrel, there must be fighting. So he thought that there must be fighting, So he was not a you don't. You don't fight, fight, but he thought that that is how he lavegoes. That's how it is and a good relationship he fights. And that is rather the sign that you are in the wrong relationship. The incompatibility has already begun. Incompatibility is there between personalities, between persons, even between immunologically, between the sperms and the eggs. You see that it's incompatible. It cannot even pass the cervix. Yes, because you don't accept each other. So the sperm, you see that the egg is there, the sperm, but you don't accept each other. So the around the cervix, you see that I just dissipate. Why you coming? We don't. We don't need you here. We are fighting. You fall out. There must be quarrel, there must be fighting. So friends you must learn the how to fight the anti marriage spirit. It's the same spirit that will make you marry older. Christians are supposed to marry young in their 20s or even as a teenager if possible. Yes. 19/18/2020 1:22 There must be marriage. There must be any marriage. There must be weddings. This is the time of your life where you even have natural responses and natural excitement and energy. Instead of using anointing to kill nature, using the Holy Ghost to fight against the creation of God, there must be marriage. This is the pro marriage church. Pro marriage. We are pro early marriage. I don't care what they say, there must be marriage. There must be early marriage. Those of you there must be weddings, Most of you who are planning to be married in your 40s, you are in the wrong class. In the last days, if some people shall come forbidden to mind, you will think. If you are not spiritual, you will think that it's a funny reminder. What does it do? That's not to spoil your ministry. There was a time I knew that the next important thing for me is to marry. I have to marry. I need to marry. I must be married. Now. Some people sit down because they refuse to accept the reality. You see, it is, it is great. You see, if, for instance, somebody's wife dies and then he comes and says, oh, I'm going to marry again. You know, it's almost as if he's weak. He said, oh, wow, just now, just now. Why? But your wife just died. How are you going to marry now? I mean, can't you show respect to her memory? Can't you show some respect to her memory? Wait for some five years, 5 to 10 years, and just be there until everybody feels sorry for you. So when people marry, it's as it's as if they are weak. It's like Charlie, because what are you marrying for? What do you need? There's only one thing you need, sex. It's called SEX. So it looks like you are weak, my brother. It's better to accept that the way I've been created more I feel the weakness. I better pass this way to avoid. There must be marriage, there must be weddings, there must be sex. Look, if you are against marriage, early marriage, you can go home after the service. Don't intimidate us. Thanks to the nearest person who doesn't look interested in this topic and wonder person, who is that? Oh, why Stand up? Stand up. What is your name? Priscilla. Are you a medical student? Are you against marriage? You are. You are against what? Diary Must be water. You see, you have to check this loyalty by looking at people's faces and see that their hearts are not with their unity at all levels. Look, sit down. The life of a Christian is different from the life of an unbeliever. I'm telling you totally different. Never compare yourself with an unbeliever. Even when you have unbeliever parents, their mind is that you are sleeping with your boyfriend and their mind is that only Don't bring any pregnancy. Just be smart and responsible that we know that you are sleeping with all your boyfriends because that is also what they did. They know that you are sleeping and their mind is that sleep with them. Don't bring up the topic just don't be wait. Wait till you are 35. Wait till you are 42, when you afford it to you. You bought a fridge, bought a carpet, you bought this latest foam, everything. You rented a room, bedroom and hall. Then you marry. But for us, we have nowhere to go. There must be marriage, there must be weddings, and there must be text. Priscilla, are you? Are you excited? He's not excited. He's not supporting the message. There must be support. Sit down. Prince Lasso is not excited and you are not excited. What is her name? Marjorie, You are not excited. You're excited. Show us that you're excited. There must be support. Yeah. So always remember, I am not an unbeliever. I am not an unbeliever. I am not. Our lives are different life. Even the problems of a Christian marriage differ from the process of an unbelievable marriage. Yeah, unbelievable marriage. The man has more power and the woman is weak. Christian marriage. Well, if the man is a serious Christian, the man is weaker and the wife is stronger. Yeah. The power changes in Christian marriage. Yeah. You may not not know in a limited way. You may not know. All right, so from today I'm releasing you. I'm releasing you to learn the act of Bilavedosi. You don't have the heart of beloved. You don't have the beloved. Why don't you have the beloved? Where's the water? A doctor. Yeah, a doctor. There must be dilaidosis. Sit down, listen. What does the bundle say? If a man desires the office of a Bishop, it is a good thing. First he must be blameless and the husband of one wife. Yeah, amazing. First qualification. So that is why there are jobs they only give you when you are married? Yes. Are you married? For how long? The more years you mentioned, the more respect is coming. Two years, four years, eight years, 10 years. Go to your eyes, go to your eyes, go to your eyes. You are still there. You may never know the problem the person has seen. Amen. So you must be pro marriage. All of you have seen bad marriages. How many have seen bad marriage before? You see how young you are, but you have seen it and some of you, you have seen it, but you cannot learn. You see, like our politicians, they go to England, they go to America, but they cannot learn. That's why it has not been transposed into Ghana, because you may see something but you don't learn from it. They go, they go to parliamentary, go for parliamentary classes in England. Our parliamentarians, they watch Democracy in America, democracy here. But they cannot transpose it and develop the can. Some of them have lived there for years, gone to school there. But you can see something, but you don't learn from it. That's, that's the sad thing. You you may grow up in a House of acrimony, hatred, wickedness, and you even know it, but it will not even have any good bearing on you because you saw it, but you didn't learn from it. That's that's how it is, especially when you start criticizing then then it even closes your, your, your ability to learn because you criticize something you criticize, you can't learn from you cannot learn from somebody you criticize. And a tip that the person may want to ever give you. He will always be silent when he looks at you and sees your despising eyes. You look at you and say, look at this one. One day. I I'm sure my father saw despising eyes in my eyes. Yeah. So he just made a comment say it's not as you think it is. I, I, I don't know whether he saw despising eyes in my 2 eyes. And the only thing he said is not as you think it is. This is the only advice he ever gave me. Not as you might think. It is coded, heavily coded. It's up to me to decipher what is the meaning of that. Rather, you are supposed to climb on the backs of those who've gone ahead and married. Is it like what I'm telling you is that is that fighting? Is that paralleling? And you have entered a relationship. This must time. And there's parallel, There's fighting. You are in the camp. You are hearing, you are being told that that one is not a good relationship. Yeah. You are taking this one into the marriage. What about when you enter and things are not new and you are now staying together as an old brother and an old sister Roommates. So you must be froman. You must learn how to marry. You must learn how to be like a dose a good pastor. Marriage is something You must know how to practice the art of marrying. You must be pro marriage because the demons are anti marriage. I don't know why. So you must be pro married, pro learning. Yeah. And you must fight. If you don't fight, you won't stay marriage. It's more natural to come out. Yeah, it's natural to come out. People won't say that. You see, They all look, you know. Oh, what are you saying? It's natural. It's like this. Yeah. If you don't develop it, you are down for. So, brothers, you have to pay attention to these things. Yeah, You know, sometimes in the ministry, I've seen some pastors who are, I mean, it's sad that somebody has married that person. Yeah. Like, it's a tragedy to marry such a brother. Honestly, everything I'm preaching, I have names in my head, though only that I can't say their names. And there are some ladies also. It's it's it's a pity. It's a pity to marry them. It's it's sad and not Beauty. Oh, it's not Beauty. I wrote a book called Beauty in the Beast, The beast in the Beauty, Beauty and the Beast. That's the name Beauty and the Beast. There are a lot of books that are written. I haven't. They are just there, Beauty and the Beast. You are going to be the best wife. Somebody is going to be fortunate to get you. It's a faith confessional and brothers, you are also going to be the best husbands. But you have to give yourself only to this thing. Otherwise you cannot make it. And that's doctor go. All those who are married, ask them. Look, next time you sit down to talk to a married person, tell the person CC just be real with me. Just talk real things. Don't tell me fairy tales. But when you are not open, why should somebody tell you real things? So everybody here must plan to give yourself the art of Bilavedosi. You see, some of you, you, you. The reason why you are finding it difficult to get a bilaved is the same reason why you will find it difficult to be married. Yeah, I should take it again. The reason why you are finding it difficult to get a beloved, it's the same reason why you will find it difficult to be happily married excluded. One day I was discussing with my wife that she should preach a sermon on why some sisters don't get married and I I was discussing with her the reasons based on what we have seen. Not a theory like you have seen this one, this one, this one. What have I seen it before? And there are reasons and why some brothers also don't get my awe. If they marry, it's like and long and they will be there. It's like no sister can they approach there must be reasons. Whereas some brothers are having sisters all over them like flies and they, I don't know which one to choose. And some brothers are having sisters. Some sisters are having brothers. Yes, because since I came to First Life Jet, I've seen brothers who have a lot of sisters and brothers who have no one. What is the difference? That's the key. There must be reasons, there must be points. Sisters do not think that it is, what do you call it, beauty that makes somebody marry you? Now. Now, Because these days everybody can be made to be beautiful because of technology, a lot of technology because of technology, yeah, everybody can be made to be beautiful. And by the way, weddings, we are there every Saturday for weddings. It's not the most beautiful girls who get married in a church. There must be reasons. We want to know the reasons. Wow. So you have to give yourself to these things. Yeah, you have to give yourself. Train yourself in the art of belabedosi. Train yourself in the art of being chosen, being chosen, being choosable, and when you are chosen, how to accept the choice. You are going to get married in Jesus name and not they are not going to choose from so far. There must be people nearby. That is why I say I don't want grown up child. But these things pertain to us. As I said, when you are here, if I've grown up, I mean whatever I say, like what I'm saying is like it's child's place, not child's place and everything. That's what's important. That's what's important to us here. So those of you who are mature, if you know everything, please check the mature one, check out the mature one, very mature one who knows everything. There is somebody there. Is it so like when I'm, I'm not going to tell you all the things I was going to tell you because of these people, this group here, mature students. OK, sit down. How many are going to give yourself to visit? Some of you? If you don't, you become homosexuals. It's true. As you don't talk to a sister for some time, long time, you see that you are not afraid of sisters. Then you start to say where are the brothers? Where are the brothers? There must be brothers because you have been avoiding sisters. Yes. How do you think it happens? It's like you are intimidated. How do you think these things develop? There must be brothers, because there are no sisters. Saddam, the art of belovedosis, the art of being in a relationship as a Christian, I was in a relationship for four years. Yeah, four years, 4 good years. It was not a simple thing at all. So if anybody can talk to you about relationship, Christian relation, I can talk to you about. I've been there for four good years, 4 good years. Following the Holiness code for 4/6 as a young man full of blood. And some of you, you haven't even entered a relationship for one week and you see that you can easily make a mistake because last minute. So I've seen somebody. Is she OK? Bishop? I'm bringing her to see for approval. When I come and say that when I see the person, what can I say? If I will no. If I if I will No, fine. Once you have chosen if fine, there must be reasons. There must be points. You want points now I'm encouraging you to give yourself holy to marry Ash. Look, anybody who is going to be a pastor, you see that one of the persons is trying to get a beloved to settle down in that area. When they are going to be like a proper person. You will see that it's the first thing he does has to get a beloved and be settled. That is my beloved, those who are serious about ministry. Yeah, who? Who said I'm preaching? There must be a beloved somewhere. That is why it is difficult for good Christian sisters to get married when you are older, because the serious ones, when they are, you always want to marry Ellie. Yes, like serious. But I said I don't want to sing, I don't want any bad thing to happen to me, so I want to marry. The bad boy says, oh, after masters, after PhD, four years and three years, when I'm 35 and above, I'm too young. I'm 26, life starts at 14. There must be PhD. You must study how to be a good husband. Your background from the village is not going to help you to be a good husband because you you know only villager husband behaviour soon. How many have lived in the village before? Yeah, you never have lived in the village before. How many used to use a pit latrim, pitlatry raise up your hand KVIP exactly. So your background, your background and what you don't even know that just as you used to use KVIP in the same way, which is an ancient method of toilet, you also have ancient method of being a husband. It's true there must be training, but going to toilet in a with a WC that is flash, it's very obvious to you that you are learning something new. But being a person who is qualified to marry and be a husband or somebody who is not qualified to be a husband, you can't see it outside and you see that people are going totally unqualified. Do you understand? But with the WC you see that you will even learn maybe the first time when you see one, you sit on it like this and hold, hold it this way. But after some time you, you may see somebody or you stand on it like that. And then maybe when you are going somebody didn't close the door. You see that as someone, the person has sat on the table and I have to turn around. That's true. But be a bad villager husband. You wouldn't know it by just looking at the person. You are just a bad husband. You are just a bad, difficult person. But you can't tell. You get what I'm trying to say? Yeah, there must be training. Same thing for womanhood with the woman. Yours is even worse because marriage affects the woman more than the man. When you're married, you still have to cook. When your husband can be still expecting food, drink this that. So many things. Anyway, you all went to church, you all went out, you all did this, you all that, and is still expecting all those things. So there must be training for you more, not polishing training. Polishing assumes that we finish everything. We're just signing. So fight. Get the books. You see, there's a book that says marriage takes more than love. Have you seen that book before? Marriage takes more than love. It was a very popular book when I was getting married, before I got married, when I was in a relationship. Marriage takes more than life, like marriage involves far more than life. It was a very popular book. Do you remember that book? Marriage takes more than love. More. Yeah. There must be reading. So I'm, I'm encouraging you. As for the beloved doses, I will give you those peas in a smaller forum. If you want the ads of villa then see those who have entered relationships that what keys like these ones they are they are all aspects tell you whatever. I hope you are interested in this marriage issue. I hope you are interested in are you a grown up who is in the wrong place. All right, there must be supper. Father, we thank you for your word today in Jesus name, Amen. I heard news about you a little while ago. I try to call you, but you word, word. I'm glad I got you at home. No one else in this whole wide world can mean as much as you to me because we're the friends for but to be around in case you're feeling that way. Everybody needs a little help to get their eyes together. You're no exception. Everybody needs another hand that they can hold on to. Everybody needs a little help to get their eyes together. Jesus. Gives that to you. The. Heard a news about you a little while ago. I tried to call you but you weren't work. I'm glad I got you at home. I've seen no one else in this whole wide world can mean as much as you to me. I thought I'd drop by for a little while in case you needed a friend. Everybody needs a little help to get their lives together. You're no exception. Everybody needs another hand that they can hold on to better listen. Everybody needs a little help to get their eyes together. Jesus gives that to you. All this too, so you can cry if you need to. You know I understand. You can tell me everything that you feel inside. Don't you? Hold it in. Don't you worry. Don't apologize for everything you do or say just what a friend for about to feel right in case you're feeling that way. Everybody needs a little help to get their lives together. You're no exception. Everybody needs another hand that they can hold on to better listen. Everybody needs a little help to get their lives together. Jesus gives that to you. Whoa, whoa, oh, oh, oh. Everybody needs to let them help you get their lives together. Everybody needs another hand that they can hold onto. Everybody needs to let them help to get their lives together. Saying Jesus gives that to you. I guess you know the song right now. Come on, let's sing it. Everybody needs a little. Everybody needs a little help to get their eyes together. Your no exception. Everybody needs another hand that they can hold on to. Say Jesus gives that to you. Whoa, whoa. Say Jesus gives that to you. Whoa, whoa, Jesus gives that to you? Now that I know there's only one dog in all of the earth, you're my only God and I want you to know my love for you. I'll never let go and I love you so. What's living for you? Lord? I love you. That's no one. I love you. You gave your son. You gave your love. Or when you turn my life all around you gave your life to. Stay with me and I'll serve you for the rest of my day. Oh yeah, yeah, my. Lord and my God, I can't believe that you die for me. I will build your church. All I want is to serve you. If I live my life again, I'll choose you. It's been worth worth living for you. Lord, I love you. That's no one, ever. I live free, and I'll serve your father rest of my day. Oh yeah, yeah. All of my vision to do your vision. All of my work to do your work. I'll push your work. I'll build your church, Do it again and again. My Jesus, you gave your life. You gave your life and you turned my life. All around you gave your life. Bless me. Free. And now save me, Father, into my day. You gave your son, you gave your love. Oh, and you turn my life all around. You gave your life. Set me free, And I'll serve you for the rest of my day. You gave the sun, You gave your love, and you turn my life all around. You gave your life, set me free, and I'll serve you for the rest of my day. Right, all right, all right, glory to God, Thank you, Lord, in Jesus name, Amen. You may be seated now. Give thyself wholly to these things, OK to them. Or another vision says, practice and cultivate and meditate on these duties. Amen. Throw yourself wholly into them. So at this camp we are learning about things we must give ourselves wholly to. And surprisingly, you must give yourself wholly to prevent yourself from backsliding. Watch all your junctions #2 give yourself wholly to marriage. Marriage is God is pro marriage, and marriage is God's idea. You see, there are a lot of problems with it, but it's God's plan, you understand? Yeah. So give yourself to fighting to have a good marriage one way or another, One way or another. Make sure you are one of the people who has a good marriage and don't assume it's going to work naturally. It doesn't. It doesn't As you are, as you are. You are offensive as you are naturally, but you don't know you. You cause offense naturally, but you may not know. You think you are nice. Yeah, it's true that naturally you cause offense. Yeah. That's why marriage is such a surprise to many people. So decide in yourself I'm going to be trained and don't go natural. Look, a lot of things, if it's natural, it's quite some way. Look at your hair ladies, That was natural. You look quite different. I mean, very few girls have left their hair natural and just come as you are. Come and say take me as I am. I mean true or not true. Take me as I am, most people bath because if you come as you are, it's going to be a problem. Yeah. And we cannot stay here. And you don't even know how much you are smelling. One day I was coming from Kolebu in the bath and I had told my roommate that when I was sitting by my roommate and I told her when we get to live on I'm going to voter hall. I was going to go on some visitations and he said OK. Then he said, I think you should bath first because it looks like you are smelling. But I was not aware. So I mean I checked. I realized that wow, you see as you are, you are offensive, but you don't even know that you are offensive. So if you present yourself natural as you are, as a girl and trained, don't know how to cook, don't know how to smile, don't know how to relate, don't know how to chat, unhuspectable, don't know how to make tea, don't know how to serve anybody, you don't know anything. You are a smelly villager. Raw materials. Look how many girls here have natural hair. Very few. Stand up. Is that natural? No. Wait. This one stand up. Is it natural? There must be water. Eternal. This is natural. Here there must be water. Don't bring the water here. Take it away. Is this natural hair? OK. All right. OK. So my prayer is that you will undergo training how to be a beloved, how to marry. And one day, if you are at a certain point in your marriage, you may turn to your spouse and say, it seems you came natural. That means actually you didn't improve yourself. You came with your raw hair, your normal mouth, your natural skin. Look at how you embellish yourself with creams and things because the natural and unimproved version is offensive. That's what I'm saying. You are offensive as a lady and as a man as you are. What you cause for you don't know. Please learn something. Please please learn something to improve our how many are surprised and not as you are? You are offensive. You know that your natural moods, attitude, way of talking, behaviour is offensive. Oh no, me, I don't have. I don't have any problem with my roommates. I don't have any meat. I've never quired with people. I never this and that. But you see, if you come natural without bathing, it's going to be a problem without brushing your teeth, it's going to even mosquitoes cannot stay in your room. Even mosquitoes will say I surrender all hey natural hair sister with the natural hair stand up and one more other back there. Yeah. Now, sister over the take off your earrings, take them off. You see you have done something to improve your ears. You have done something to improve your ears, Yeah. She's telling to a boy. You see now, unadulterated and improved, just as I am. Are you Billy Graham? Why do you say just as I am coming, just as I am? OK, sit down.